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My mum has died suddenly

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kittlesticks · 15/06/2021 14:58

My wonderful mum has died suddenly - I'm not sure of the exact details yet - she was 68, a wonderful mum, wife and grandma to three grandchildren aged 1 to 6.
I will miss her until the end of time. I loved her immeasurably.

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Cornishbelle · 15/06/2021 17:42

So very sorry for your loss and thinking of you Flowers

TheOriginalNutty · 15/06/2021 17:48

So sorry for your loss. I lost my dad suddenly last week so I understand how you feel.

blahblahblah321 · 15/06/2021 18:48

@kittlesticks

Thank you all. I think I just needed to shout it into the void. God I loved her. She was my heart. I have two young children so must keep going and must also look after my Dad.
Please look after yourself too xx

Sorry for your loss x

NcagainNC · 15/06/2021 18:50

I’m so so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how you must be feeling. I know you have lots of people to support through this tough time but you need support too Flowers

Clarkey86 · 15/06/2021 18:53

I lost my mum (63) very suddenly in January so I absolutely know how you are feeling and sympathise. So many emotions, and I’m truly sorry you’re experiencing this.

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kittlesticks · 15/06/2021 19:06

She was so wonderful. Had such huge love for us all and knew she was loved, and in the end it sounds like she was gone in seconds. I'm furious at the world - I just feel sick.

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Mrsmophead · 15/06/2021 22:38

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your mum sounds just lovely Flowers

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kittlesticks · 16/06/2021 16:34

Sorry all - for everyone that has experienced loss like this. I don't know how I will live without her.

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Purpleavocado · 16/06/2021 16:44

So sorry for your loss, I lost my dear Mum last year, and was heartbroken, and I still miss her every day. If you feel overwhelmed, consider talking to your dr - I didn't but I probably should have. Luckily my husband was a rock. I found it helpful to focus on the fact that she went quickly and did not suffer, as hard as that was for me to deal with, it was better for her xx

SquigglePigs · 16/06/2021 16:49

So sorry for your loss. I know you need to keep going for your kids but you need to give yourself time to grieve too. Look after yourself.

bunburyscucumbersandwich · 16/06/2021 17:38

I'm so sorry for your loss. I was in the same position as you a few months ago. It's the worst pain I've ever experienced.

Sending you hugs. Look after your self Thanks

Getafuckinggripman · 16/06/2021 17:40

I'm so sorry xxxx

Bouledeneige · 16/06/2021 17:44

I'm very sorry OP. I too lost my Mum suddenly 5 years ago. She was older but it was still a big shock and I was in a blur for quite a while. My family really came together over it and I took a lot of comfort from that.

newmumfeb21 · 16/06/2021 17:47

So very sorry for your loss @kittlesticks Thanks

Clarkey86 · 16/06/2021 23:07

@kittlesticks

Sorry all - for everyone that has experienced loss like this. I don't know how I will live without her.
You will, and have to, because she wouldn’t have wanted it any other way would she?

But of course you are going to feel a million heart breaking emotions, and that’s okay too.

Something I’ve learnt 5 months on from losing my mum, is that joy and grief are separate things and that’s okay. It’s okay to be absolutely devastated and a sobbing mess one minute, and laughing with a friend the next. You learn to still find joy in things whilst simultaneously grieving your loss.

DramaAlpaca · 16/06/2021 23:09

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

JamieLeeBee · 16/06/2021 23:10

I am very sorry for your loss

Beamur · 16/06/2021 23:13

I'm sorry for your loss.
Good advice from Clarkey.
Take it one day at a time. Let yourself be sad xx

HollowTalk · 16/06/2021 23:15

That's so sad. You and your mum were very lucky to have each other and I'm so sorry she's gone now. Flowers

menopausemess · 16/06/2021 23:16

Sorry for your loss

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kittlesticks · 17/06/2021 06:10

@Clarkey86 thank you for the advice. I do appreciate it all. I've woken up today at least slept a little last night having not slept at all since she died.
It makes me feel desperate and panicky to even type that she died.
Any advice on talking to my 4 year old son about this? I feel so lost explaining it to him.

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 17/06/2021 06:14

Oh @kittlesticks! I’m so sorry for your loss. There is never a good time or age to lose your mum but, at only 68, it seems extra cruel she was taken so suddenly! Flowers

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kittlesticks · 17/06/2021 06:44

@stuckinarutatwork thank you. The invisible string one arrives today from Amazon, I ordered it yesterday. He doesn't understand. He says 'grandma died' but I don't think he understands the permanent bit of that.

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cptartapp · 17/06/2021 06:46

My DM died suddenly too. She was killed in a car accident aged 69. My DF had died years earlier aged 54.
Four years on I'm still very angry, but it does get easier. This is the worst bit. You will get through it.

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