My husband has died

[peachgreen]

He died today. He was 42. He had recently been diagnosed with a heart condition and spent a month in hospital but we believed he was going to be okay. He went upstairs for a rest and they think he had a heart attack. He didn't cry out, they think it would have been fairly instant. I found him when I went to check on him a few hours later and I knew he had gone, I did CPR but I knew it was too late.

He was my soul mate, my other half, the true love of my life. We have a little girl who is almost 3. If it wasn't for her I would kill myself. I can't imagine life ever having any meaning without him.

I am so sorry for your loss xxxx

So Sorry to hear this Op. I also followed your previous post. How cruel life can be . Sending love to to you and your daughter at this awful time.

I am so, so sorry. Have you got anyone there to support you?

That exact scenario happened to a friend of mine, it’s been hard obviously but she got through. Take each day at a time xxx

I am so sorry 💐

Firstly I am so sorry to hear that .Praying for you and your DC .Life just feels so unfair at times doesnt it. I lost my Dad in similar circumstances when I was 8.,DM was about 44 I think .Please just let yourself be able to grieve .Sod the house chores for a bit! Take all opportunities of help if you can and take each day /hour at a time .

@peachgreen I am so, so sorry for you and your daughter. What a tragic time. Please rant, shout, cry, whatever you need to do and we will be here when you need us.

@peachgreen So so sorry to hear of your devastating loss. Love and strength to you and your little girl.

R.I.P M ❤️ 💐

I'm so very sorry to read about your husband...he sounds like a lovely man. X

This is devastating. Your steady voice of calm in many threads and consistent mentions of DH indicate how entwined you are & how blessed you were to have met. This love will never leave you. Your DD has felt this and it will fuel you both forever. Take each minute as it comes. I’m so sorry for your loss.

So so sorry Peach, I too remember your previous thread and was hopeful things would be well, what a horrendous, dreadful shock for you, sending much love and virtual hugs 💐 xxx

I am so so sorry. You poor thing. If you need anything from mumsnetters I am sure we can help, even with advice on practical things - I dealt with my father's estate and funeral etc.

My grandfather died when my mother was 4 months old. Do keep all the photographs and memories for her so she can have his presence around as I am sure you will do. I hope your family are around to help.

Oh I am so sorry Peachgreen
I lost my DH (about the same age as Mike and under similar circumstances) coming up for 20 years ago.
Does it get better? It gets different. We still talk about my DH, nobody has forgotten him, he's still very much part of the family. Because Mike was in the world, the world is a better place. That cannot be changed or taken away.
Love is never wasted. It just goes into different channels.

I won't say message me if you want to offload because I imagine right now it's like Fred Carno's circus and the last thing you need is any more to do. But when things start to settle down, I'm here if you need me.

I am so sorry for your loss. This happened to me 25 years ago. I came home from taking the younger children to school and found him dead on the kitchen floor. He was 45. It’s such a shock. You’ll be in limbo until after the funeral. People will offer to help,endlessly. Take them up on their offers.

Be honest with your daughter, she’s very young but she will miss daddy terribly.

I wouldn’t wish this an anybody. I wish you all the best for the future.

Oh peach I'm so sorry, you must be feeling like you're in the absolute depths right now. It must have been a dreadful shock for you. Mourn and cry as much as you like and let off steam on here. Your sadness is raw at the moment but time will smooth off the raw edges.

I lost my husband nearly ten years ago and had time to prepare as he'd had a terminal diagnosis but it didn't help the grieving process. It will take time but you'll get better at coping.

If you have a shoulder to cry on this will help you to process things and cope with the practicalities. for you.

Oh love, I am so sorry.

What a terrible shock. I wish we could bear your pain for you, parcel it out into manageable amounts.

Your lovely Mike.

So sorry. Sending love and strength.

I know no words can help but I am so, so sorry to hear your sad news.

So sorry to read this. Perhaps keep writing about your feelings and thoughts it will help you I am sure xxx

I'm so so sorry OP, hugs to both of you

It is so obvious how much Mike was loved, peach. I am holding you and your family in my thoughts and heart as you move through this. May you be surrounded by love and care.

Ive followed your first thread from the beginning and have been thinking of you all lots. I’m so sorry to hear this news and am sending all my love to you and your little girl xxxx

I'm so sorry. Your Mike sounds like a wonderful man. Look after yourself and hug your DD close.

Oh peaches I can't believe this, it took me a minute to place you and Mike with your other thread. Like others the main thing that shone through your whole thread is how much you truly loved everything about Mike. Mike would have known this and I hope eventually this will be a comfort to you.

At the moment I am sure you feel like you don't want to go on but of course you will, you have the most amazing reason to continue and of course that is your lovely dd whom I am sure Mike loves so much, she is your link to Mike, you created this little one together. Please take care, it is minute by minute, look after each other and try to make sure you drink at least, the food can wait for now. Accept help. I am so so sorry your pain is palpable.

So so sorry @peachgreen
Sending you so much love, strength and healing thoughts

I'm so sorry, Peach

I’m so sorry