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Husband died today

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looklauren · 02/05/2020 01:38

How do I go on? I am so scared, I depended on him for so much and we have 5 children. I have so many feelings of guilt. I was so cross with him for being a workaholic and never being with us. He had a heart attack... He was 33..

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Sadiesnakes · 02/05/2020 01:42

So sorry op.Thanks

usernameannonymous · 02/05/2020 01:42

I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how difficult this is for you and your children, hoping someone will come along soon to give you some better advice. But however hard things seem, you can and will get through this and manage to cope as best you can. Sending a big hug Thanks

applespearsbears · 02/05/2020 01:43

I am so sorry Thanks

mellymoop · 02/05/2020 01:46

I'm so sorry to hear that. Do you have the support of family nearby?

ineedaholidaynow · 02/05/2020 01:47

I am so sorry Flowers

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looklauren · 02/05/2020 01:54

Everyone is being wonderful but I just want him...

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Tolleshunt · 02/05/2020 01:55

Goodness, to lose him at 33.... You must be utterly shell-shocked, Op. I’m so so sorry.

Do you have real life support? Is anyone with you? How are the children?

bumblingbovine49 · 02/05/2020 01:57

I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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looklauren · 02/05/2020 01:59

We had so many plans...

He’d complained of a painful chest but we thought it was just heartburn.

There are lots of people on hand to help but I just want to be alone with the kids right now.

Eldest is 12 and in pieces. 7 year old has bad moments, but younger three seem ok.

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looklauren · 02/05/2020 01:59

How will I cope?

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Jenasaurus · 02/05/2020 02:02

I am so sorry Op Flowers

Clevererthanyou · 02/05/2020 02:03

Looklauren - I’m genuinely very sorry for this shitty awful thing that’s happened to you and your family. My dad died of an unexpected heart attack too that we thought was just heartburn, I can’t feel what you’re going through right now but I can only say that you focus on managing for the next few minutes at first. Just the next few minutes, what needs to be done? You do need to look after your own health too right now so nibble/sip little things if and when you can just to keep your energy up. There are people on here who will have experienced the same awfulness as you and they can provide sound advice Brew

Icanflyhigh · 02/05/2020 02:04

I am so sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself xx Flowers

Hollyhobbi · 02/05/2020 02:10
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Lynda07 · 02/05/2020 02:16

That is so tragic, Lauren, what a terrible shock for you all.
I came on here last summer to say my husband had died suddenly so I do understand some of what you are feeling but my husband was 70 and I no longer had young children. Thirty three is no age.

Words are insufficient at this time but I know you will get a lot of support on here in the days and weeks to come. Love to you and your children Flowers.

CatAndHisKit · 02/05/2020 02:17

So unfair! I hope you find strength from somewhere, OP.
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UniversalAunt · 02/05/2020 02:18
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theThreeofWeevils · 02/05/2020 02:27

So sorry for your loss. Flowers

Hannsmum · 02/05/2020 02:28

Really sorry 😥

cakeandchampagne · 02/05/2020 02:37

Flowers Sorry for your loss.

London1066 · 02/05/2020 02:38

Goodness @looklauren, I'm so sorry.

The pain will feel physical and like you're hurting so much you can't do anything. Take one step at a time and lean on your network.

When everyone is ready, Grief Encounter is an absolutely magnificent charity and they have resources to send out, phone lines for your kids etc. I've used them a lot for children in my school that have lost a parent and they has been invaluable.

When I had a catastrophic loss, I cried in the shower. The only time I could properly cry so nobody would hear me over the running water. It'll help to cry; really cry.

Sending you so much love and strength

SoapIsYourFriend · 02/05/2020 02:43

I'm so sorry. Flowers

nettie434 · 02/05/2020 02:45

So sorry for your loss looklauren. It’s such a difficult thing to have happened. I am glad you have family able to help but it’s to be expected that you will feel overwhelmed. Agree about trying to focus on things a few minutes or an hour at a time just now Flowers

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looklauren · 02/05/2020 02:55

Someone please take the pain away.. I want to die. It’s so bad.

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PointlessUsername · 02/05/2020 02:59

Oh lovely, take one day at a time. Thinking of you and the Dc Flowers