Please or to access all these features

Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

My darling son passed away

260 replies

dewisant2020 · 18/02/2020 03:16

I have joined Mumsnet to connect with people who may be in a similar situation as myself.
My DS passed away very recently completely unexpectedly.
Life has been a rollercoaster of emotions ever since, I can't even begin to write down how I feel, I am grieving so badly & days seem so bleak at the moment.
My DS was only 13 and completely healthy, he had his whole life ahead of him and for some reason that's been snatched from him and us.
I miss being his Mum, I miss his smell, his amazing sense of humour, I miss my old life. I wish with all my heart I could turn back time, I am full of so much sorrow and hurt.
I sit here and wonder if I will ever feel happiness again

OP posts:
Mammyloveswine · 18/02/2020 03:18

I am so so sorry for your devestating loss.

Do you want to tell us about your lovely son?

CassidyStone · 18/02/2020 03:20

Oh how absolutely dreadful. I can't begin to imagine the devastation and sadness. Talk about your lovely boy as much as you need to.

Dennisreynoldsduster · 18/02/2020 03:23

Oh my gosh you poor poor love. My heart breaks for you.

Would it help you to tell us about him? I would love to hear about him if it’s not too painful for you.

I cannot imagine the shock, horror and grief you are going through and I’m so so sorry this has happened to you and your family, life can be horrendously cruel sometimes.
Sending you hugs, strength and love OP.

RedHotMummy · 18/02/2020 03:35

I am so, so sorry. He sounds like a beautiful boy and your heart must be broken. Do you want to tell us about him, if it’s not too upsetting for you. Sending love x

SnowyRacoon · 18/02/2020 03:47

I am so sorry for your loss, I truly am. ❤️

speakfriendandenter · 18/02/2020 03:48

So sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine how you are feeling right now.

Mycatisthebest · 18/02/2020 03:49

So sorry for your loss. Do you want to tell us about him? Thanks

endofthelinefinally · 18/02/2020 03:52

I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Flowers

HoppingPavlova · 18/02/2020 03:53

I’m so sorry. The loss, devastation and pain you are feeling must be unbearable. Life can be so cruel and I’m sorry this has happened to you. I can’t do or say anything to make it better but people are here to listen if you want to talk.

TipseyTorvey · 18/02/2020 03:56

I'm so very sorry to hear about your lovely boy. I can't begin to imagine how much pain you must be in. Please do tell us your lovely memories of him.

Bluerussian · 18/02/2020 04:31

Flowers am so sorry.

Toomanygerbils · 18/02/2020 04:34

So sorry op, nothing will ever be the same for you again, no point denying that. Would it help speaking about him?

Candymay · 18/02/2020 04:34

I’m so terribly sorry for your devastating loss. I have no words that could possibly comfort you but I’m here thinking of you. .

A dear friend of mine lost her beloved son suddenly when he was 19 so I realise how life can take dreadful and completely unexpected turns.

I’m hoping you may find peace somehow.

akerman · 18/02/2020 04:38

I am so, so sorry. Your beautiful boy. Please tell us about him if it would help xx

Mummyoflittledragon · 18/02/2020 04:44

Whoever told you that there are parents on this site, who have lost their children are right. I read sad posts such as yours from time to time and other parents, who know what it is to lose a child offer their support.

This must be awful for you and I cannot really begin to imagine your grief. 13 is so young to lose your lovely boy. Poor lad. Please talk. We are here for you. Flowers

PulyaSochsup · 18/02/2020 04:56

I am so dreadfully sorry to read that this has happened to you, he was obviously very much loved by you. Please be so kind to yourself and try to just get through one moment at a time. Flowers

toofarbelowzero · 18/02/2020 05:14

I am so sorry for your loss, I am in tears for you. Let the people who love you look after you right now. Flowers

alittlebitdemented · 18/02/2020 05:27

I'm so very very sorry for your loss. I wish I could say something very insightful but I can't. My thoughts are with you.

Mlou32 · 18/02/2020 05:36

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your lovely son x

Poppyisa · 18/02/2020 05:42

I read your post and my heart sank for you and your darling son. I was in your position 10 years ago, when my 7 yr old son suddenly died. This loss is devastating, there are no words to describe how painful it is. Even after all these years I still don’t have the right words to comfort another bereaved mum, there are no words.

Do whatever you need to do to get through the days, weeks, months. Eventually, you may feel like attending compassionate friends group meeting. If this seems to hard, look them up, they have forums and groups on FB. Or don’t if you feel it’s too difficult. Take all the time you need, just focus on surviving the next 10 mins, or hour at first.

And although you probably don’t feel it at the moment, you are being supported by all the bereaved mums that went before you. Please feel free to msg me; I know how unspeakably painful this is. Life is so unfair.

legoninjago1 · 18/02/2020 05:43

Can't think of the words, but wishing you all the strength and peace possible darling.

pollyglot · 18/02/2020 05:58

Words are totally inadequate...I am so terribly sorry to hear of your loss. It is beyond comprehension how you must be feeling. As Helen Brown said when she lost her young son -"Parents who lose children are the aristocrats of pain." Arohanui from the South Pacific - thinking of you and sending love.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 18/02/2020 06:17

I don't know what to say, but I am so, so, sorry for you. Thinking of you and your lovely son. May he rest in peace. I can only mildly imagine how you might be feeling as I lost my first child at 22 weeks, but the emotional pain of having to go into labour to give birth to a stillborn did leave me grieving for a long time afterwards, so I empathize with your grief at your terrible bereavement. Are you able to talk to anyone "professional" about your bereavement? Please, if you want to, tell us here all about him. Flowers

PhoneTwattery · 18/02/2020 06:34

I would also love to hear about your lovely son xxx

Misandei · 18/02/2020 06:37

Thinking of you at this terribly sad time. Your beautiful boy!Flowers.

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.

Swipe left for the next trending thread