My toddler died today

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My baby died today. I found him in his cot this morning. He was completely well yesterday and has no health problems. They are completing a post mortem today.
I don’t know what to do. Why would a healthy child just die? I have a 4 year old and don’t know how to handle it with him. Any advice welcome, I’m obviously a mixture of completely numb and a mess.

Oh my god, I have no words.

I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through.

Do you have an employers assistance programme that can help with the practical side of things. Counselling longer term too.

Depending on where you live there are some fantastic bereavement charities esp for your 4 year old.

The funeral director will be a huge source of support and help. Most funeral directors don't charge for child's funeral and only pass on the statutory fees to you. There is also a government fund for funeral costs.

So sorry. 💐

Such devastating news for you, I can’t even imagine what you are going through. No advice but sending my condition

So sorry OP, sending love to you all 💐💐💐

I'm so sorry for your loss. What an awful thing to happen.

Oh darling. My heart breaks for you all.

Holding you all in my prayers Xx

I am so sorry for your loss 💐

I'm so sorry 🌸 .... Please look at Winstons Wish... They are really helpful... 💙

So sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby

Oh god I’m so so sorry.

So so sorry.
I don't know what else to say x

I'm so sorry

You poor thing, what a shock.
Just take time, and be kind to yourself x

I'm so sorry to read your post. It is an awful thing to happen to anyone, I don't have the words to express my sympathy and shock. You are all your 4 year old needs, and you will know best what to do, and how to tell them, just trust your parenting.
I'm so sorry again for your loss and I hope you have plenty of support. i

I am so sorry. A member of my family lost their 9 month old baby to SIDS.

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby💐. There are no words. Please know that your Mumsnet community is available round the clock (as many posters come from countries outside the U.K.) You and your family will be in my thoughts xx

I am so very sorry

I know words are never enough for what you are going through

Take care and of all the support around you and your family x

So sorry for your loss

So sorry, sending love ❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Oh OP I am so very sorry sorry.

I'm so very sorry for your loss

OP I am so very very sorry for your loss. There is nothing on earth like it.

I lost my eleven week old in similar circumstances in 2011. The Lullaby Trust were an amazing help. I am very happy to talk to you privately if you like.

All I want to say is that it is possible to survive this. The numbness is normal and your brains way of cushioning you against it. Be angry, be unsettled, be busy, be noisy and make mistakes. There's no rule book in this and no "good" way to do it. There's no shame in grief and if anyone blames you for how you deal with it, they're an utter arsehole.

You can survive this. I didn't believe it either, but you can.

My heart absolutely goes out to you and your little one. There's a bond that isn't breakable even by death. Sending you love. Xx