My toddler died today

[acquiescence]

My baby died today. I found him in his cot this morning. He was completely well yesterday and has no health problems. They are completing a post mortem today.
I don’t know what to do. Why would a healthy child just die? I have a 4 year old and don’t know how to handle it with him. Any advice welcome, I’m obviously a mixture of completely numb and a mess.

I am so sorry. What you are going through is simply unimaginable.

I lost my child in similar circumstances a couple of years ago. We had a 3 yo too. The official verdict was SIDS but this took 18 months to go through to inquest.

You've got a tough road ahead. Right now, get through each day. There is no right or wrong. Friends and family will be supportive but also say the wrong thing.

Be honest with your 4yo and keep it simple. This is the start of a long process for them and you will probably have many conversations in the future, sharing a bit more each time.

Try to keep eating and sleeping - you probably won't though.

It never gets easier and I have to be honest with you there. But you find ways to cope and you will cope. 3 years on and I have happy days more often than sad. I'm not sure when the turning point happened and its probably different for everyone. It gets worse before it gets better but it eventually becomes manageable.

You'll have a lot of procedural stuff to go through in the coming months and it's draining.

I found support with other bereaved parents the best as they truly understood. Look the child bereavement UK and the Lullaby Trust.

Take care x

I'm so sorry. It's hard to imagine what you're going through. Sending you love.

I am so sorry, life is unbelievably cruel.
After the PM a death note (not sure that's the correct term) will be issued. You will then need to register the death at local registry office. Possibly where you registered his birth. You can plan then funeral then.

http://2wishuponastar.org offer support in Wales including practical guidance. You could phone them if not in Wales & I'm sure they'd signpost you onwards.

I hope you have people supporting you but regardless you will always find a friendly hand hold here.

Will light a candle for your beautiful boy tonight

I'm so very very sorry for your loss

I am so sorry that your child has died, sending love and thoughts to you and your family

I'm so very sorry. Devastating for you all. This happened to a friend and she got support from the lullaby trust. I'm so so sorry.

"If you would like the opportunity to talk freely, for as long as required, with a sympathetic and understanding listener please call our bereavement support helpline on 0808 802 6868 or email [email protected].
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I'm so so sorry OP. No practical advice but just wanted to send my love

I'm so so sorry OP. Take care of yourself. Don't blame yourself.

I'm so so sorry OP

What a terrible thing. It's heartbreaking to read so can't imagine what it must be like for you. Sending love and strength to you and your family.

I am very very sorry OP.

I am so so sorry 💕

My sincerest condolences. Sending you love and strength xx

So sorry for your terrible loss. I cannot imagine the pain your whole family must be feeling. Take each minute as it comes. I dont know what you should expect but my thoughts are with you.

I'm so sorry for your loss, keep talking x

God how utterly devastating for you, sending you love.
No words.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know no words will express how you feel and I won't try to understand but my thoughts are with you. As for your son try looking for bereavement books written specifically for children. Maybe seeing a professional together might also help you and your family.
Make sure to look after yourself as well. I wish I could think of another way to help you.

Acquiescence, thank you for reaching out. I will be thinking of you today and in the coming days as you grieve for your darling boy. If it will help to bring you comfort, please share a bit about him with us.

Although rare, I have read of a few children older than 1 year who died of SIDS. I also know a family whose toddler son passed away in his sleep due to an undiagnosed heart condition. I hope that the doctors can give you answers.

Your 4 year old will likely need reassurance that he didn’t do anything to make his brother go away, and also that he himself is safe. He may spend time looking for his brother.

My deepest sympathies for the loss of your beautiful little one

Take care of yourself

There's nothing I can say to change anything but I'm so sorry.

I’m so so sorry xxxx

I am so very, very sorry

I'm so sorry for your loss

I am so sorry to hear this. I cannot imagine how dreadful this is. I am sending love and you and tinies are in my prayers.

Totally heartbreaking. I’m sending you all my love. I’m so sorry 😣