My husband took his life last night

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I'm devastated - we have four children from 25 to 8, who are in pieces. We had been separated for nearly 3 years but had tried to make it work in the last year. He was a long term alcoholic but such a wonderful kind man when drink wasn't involved. I had applied for a divorce last week which was the trigger and my guilt is overwhelming. The children are simply devastated and I've no idea how we are going to keep going - thank you for listening

I'm so sorry to hear this.

I so very sorry.

I'm so sorry. How awful. You have to know this is NOT your fault. Not at all. The guilt will disappear eventually and you will come to see you are absolutely not responsible for his death. Look after eachother.

I am so sorry💐

I am so sorry for your loss.

I'm really sorry, that is heartbreaking, please don't let the guilt consume you

So v sorry . It is absolutely not your fault. Don't do that to yourself. He was obviously unable to cope any longer and took his way out.
It is heart breaking all round. Sending a hug and v sincere condolences to you and your children x

I am so sorry for your loss.
Please find someone to talk to in time.
Your should not be feeling guitly, your husband was a very unwell man with a very hard battle. You are not to blame

I'm very sorry for your loss. But this is NOT your fault.

So sorry for your loss 💐

So sorry to read of your loss, day at a time.

What has happened may have tripped him over the edge, do not blame yourself for what has happened it was his inner thoughts that promoted this to happen

Hugs to you all 💐

I am so sorry for you all.

But this is NOT your fault. It really isn’t. However I am sure that no matter how many times we tell you that, you will still feel guilty. As time goes on and heals you will realise that there is n need for that guilt. You did the best you could. I sure you tried and tried and tried again to help him.

So very sorry for your loss

So sorry to hear this. Be kind to yourself x

So very very sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss and pain.

He lost the fight between himself and the bottle, you didn’t do anything wrong.

X

What a hideous shock, I’m so sorry. This isn’t your fault, please be kind to yourself x

So sorry for your loss OP, this is not your fault

So very sorry for your loss. I know you feel guilty, but his decision was his decision, it is not your fault. I hope in time you will realise this. In the meantime hold each other close and my sincere condolences to you all.

I am so so sorry for your loss and your children's, together you will pull through. It will take time.

The demons in his head were sadly his own, this is not your burden to bare.

So sorry to hear that. He must have been suffering and it was not your fault nothing you could have done. Is there anyone you can talk to about this?

I'm so sorry for your loss, and hope you and your DC are getting RL support right now.

It wasn't your fault. If his mental health was that poor, anything could have been the trigger, it wasn't you.

Do you have any friends or family around?

You will take care of your children, but you need to take care of YOU too, don't be afraid to accept or even ask for help.

Of course it's not your fault.

Alcholism is a terrible disease and I don't think sufficient rescources are given to treating it .

the disease has killed your husband and you are another damaged by it's cruel fallout .

I'm thinking of you ,your children and those who loved what I'm sure was a lovely and loving man .