My beautiful baby

[Miami81]

That's it really. Heading to hospital this morning to have my baby girl induced. Her heartbeat stopped somewhere between Sunday night and Monday morning at 27 weeks and I just can't bear it. She was our joy and our sunshine after two miscarriages and now I have to say goodbye to her today and I just don't know where I am going to find the strength.

I'm so sorry, please know that you're in my thoughts

My heart breaks for you I cant imagine what you are going through.. I am so sorry for your loss x

Oh, Miami. I'm so very sorry.

I'm so so sad for you, you must be devastated. I hope things go as smoothly as they can and that you have some quality time with your precious girl.

I'm sorry OP there's no adequate words

I know PP's have already mentioned SANDS but they helped me a lot when I went through similar.

Sending you lots of love and strength at this horrible time.

This was me two years ago. My son was stillborn at 27+2 after we discovered his hb stopped 2 days before.

Nothing anyone can say can soften this for you but we can all help with practical tips if that would help?

one of my lovely friends had two very small identical blankets made when we found out. one was put with my son and i have the other. it is a lovely touch.

im so very sorry this has happened. the name you have chosen is beautiful as im sure you're precious baby is.

Thinking of you.

I'm so sorry

So sorry

Thank you to all with kinds words and thoughts for us. It really has been a surreal day. Have taken first lot of medication but it is taking a while to get to where we need to be.
Thank you also for the practical tips, BIL went to the neonatal unit for us yesterday and picked out a beautiful wee outfit for her. We are in Scotland and SIMBA provide memory boxes to the hospital which has a footprint kit and a few other bits in it. We have two identical bears so one will be with her and the other with us. There is also a cuddle cot and a family room that we can move into once she is here. We have written out a small journal of the pregnancy for her of where we were and significant things that happened in the 27 weeks. Her wee cousins are going to draw a few pictures to go with her when she finally leaves us.
I feel like we are prepared but I am so scared of what is to come.
Thanks again for your company through this awfulness. And I am very sorry for those of you who have trodden the same unimaginable path of sorrow.

Oh Miami, I am so sorry you are all going through this. I cannot imagine how hard it must be. Having 2 of the same thing to share sounds lovely.

I have a friend who sadly had a stillbirth at 40wks. She went on to have 2 more beautiful children. Her first daughter is spoken of very often. If you met her and didn't know the history you would never guess the backstory, such is the families comfort about talking about her. It's very touching. My friend has struggled with her emotions at times over the years but swears the biggest help is to be able to talk about it to someone who doesn't squirm at the mention of her name. Some of her friends couldn't cope with her sadness and they drifted away. But she realises they aren't the kind of friend she needs. It's fair to say life's struggles always help you sort the wheat from the chafe.

Enjoy your cuddles with your precious one.

Wishing you all the best.

i dont know if you have thought about family meeting her?it wasn't something we had thought of but both our parents did meet our son.

i wish i had let more people see him. it makes it more real for them too and in the days afterwards that is really important.

it sounds like you have some great support around you.

miami, oh my god. You were such a kind, supportive, lovely friend to me on our thread, I was over the moon when you found out you were having her and I'm beyond heartbroken for your loss. Reaching out to you with a gentle hug for you and your wonderful DH.

I love your name for your baby girl, it's perfect. The memory box and bears will be so special to cherish.

You're so strong. Such a survivor. You have people who love you and will support you and get you both through this.

Thinking of you and sending so much love

I'm so sorry another stranger over the internet lighting a candle and shedding a few tears for you and your beautiful baby girl tonight. Wishing you love, strength and peace at such a sad time. xxx

I’m so sorry

Thinking of you and sending love

So very sorry for your loss x

So sorry to hear this

Wishing you so much love & strength.

X

Thinking of you xxx

This is just so tragic. I am so sorry. I don’t know why life is so cruel x

Thinking of you at this sad time @miami. God bless your beautiful baby girl.

Sorry for your loss

How terribly sad. I'm so sorry for you, your family and beautiful baby. You sound so thoughtful and brave, I'm sure in time all of the lovely things you have planned will bring you some comfort.