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Miami81 · 27/09/2017 06:23

That's it really. Heading to hospital this morning to have my baby girl induced. Her heartbeat stopped somewhere between Sunday night and Monday morning at 27 weeks and I just can't bear it. She was our joy and our sunshine after two miscarriages and now I have to say goodbye to her today and I just don't know where I am going to find the strength.

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littlecabbage · 27/09/2017 07:08

I am so sorry to hear about your precious baby girl. It is totally unfair. Please do contact SANDS as they helped our friends a lot in very similar circumstances. And make sure that you, friends and family do always talk about her xxxx

MontyPants · 27/09/2017 07:12

So sorry Miami. Sending you love and support to get through today. Know that there's a lot of people who are thinking of you from the December group. Xxx

thegirlupnorth · 27/09/2017 07:13

So so sorry to read this, how utterly devastating for you. Xx

fizzytonicplease · 27/09/2017 07:15

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this, thinking of you x

scaredofthecity · 27/09/2017 07:15

Flowers thinking of you

knaffedoff · 27/09/2017 07:18

I am really sorry and hope you get lots of time with your beautiful girl Flowers

Spottyparrot99 · 27/09/2017 07:21

I'm so sorry to hear this. My first little girl was stillborn too. She was 41 weeks and born after an induction after they found out her heart had stopped. Her name is Francesca.

Although of course we were desperately sad the hours we spent with her after she was born were so precious to us.

I can second sands-they were so helpful in the following weeks and months and even now 6 years on.

Francesca is still a big part of our lives. Her little brother and sister know all about her and her pictures are on the wall.

I hope that you are able to find some small comfort to sustain you in meeting your little girl. I would suggest taking camera with you ( we
Forgot this but mid wife took pics for us) and an outfit or pretty blanket for her. I guess she'll be a tiny wee little girl at 27 Weeks so maybe little blanket? You could also buy two little bears or other cuddly animals that match. You keep one and your little girls keep the other. We did this with Francesca. We swapped bears before the funeral so she had my bear that smelt of her mummy and I had hers. I love that bear. We also did hand and foot prints and had the prints made on to a necklace.

I know it seems impossible you will find the strength to get through her birth - but she needs you to do this for her so you will because you love her.

We'll be thinking of you and your family.

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midnightflowers · 27/09/2017 07:25

So utterly sorry for your loss
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beyondworriedmum · 27/09/2017 07:27

So very sorry for your loss 💐

BumWad · 27/09/2017 07:31

I am so sorry for your loss.

4 years ago now I lost my beautiful boy at 25 weeks, his heart had also just stopped and I delivered him 2 days later after an induction. They didn’t find anything wrong.

I hope you get lots of cuddles with your little one, take your time with her.

It will be ok I promise Flowers

Gingernut81 · 27/09/2017 07:31

I'm so sorry, I can't begin to imagine the pain you're feeling right now Flowers

serendipia1907 · 27/09/2017 07:32

I cannot even imagine what's in your heart right now, but I hope you will find the strength to carry on! May God be with you! Sending you positive thoughts & loveFlowers

Doublechocolatetiffin · 27/09/2017 07:32

I'm so so sorry @Miami81. I have been thinking of you lots, it's absolutely heartbreaking. I can't imagine how difficult today will be, sending you strength and love Flowers

OpalIridescence · 27/09/2017 07:33

I am so sorry, what an awful and unfair loss for you to bear.
I will be thinking of you all today. I hope you find some comfort in the time you get to spend with your daughter.

Lofari · 27/09/2017 07:35

I am truly so sorry. The world is so unfair
Will be thinking of you and your beautiful girl today x

Frazzled2207 · 27/09/2017 07:35

So sorry you have to go through this. Will be thinking of you, your dd and your dp today.

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1Violetcream · 27/09/2017 07:40

I am so sorry....... sending you love and strength and thinking of you and your partner today. Xxx

FiveBoys · 27/09/2017 07:41

Im so sorry this has happened. xx

Youvegotafriendinme · 27/09/2017 07:43

I'm so very sorry. No words will ever makes this easier for you. Please know you are in my thoughts x

why12345 · 27/09/2017 08:13

I'm so so sorry. What a terrible time for you. I'm heart hurts for you. I hope through all the sadness you can make some memories with your baby. ❤️

TheDowagerCuntess · 27/09/2017 08:18

I'm so, so sorry.

Family friends of ours went through this. Before I was old enough to truly appreciate the enormity of it.

The family friend was the mother of the DH. To this day, she has a photo of the little one (born sleeping) amongst her other framed photos.

I don't know if thats something you think you could do, but it was about 20 years ago, and she lives on amongst all the other photos of family and loved ones.

Wishing you strength to get through this. Life is so desperately unfair at times.

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Bananacustardyum · 27/09/2017 08:18

No words just sending love. Flowers

yantantethermetherpimp · 27/09/2017 08:34

Sending lots of love and thoughts to you and your beautiful girl 💗

FindingNormal · 27/09/2017 09:24
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TiesThatBindMe · 27/09/2017 13:00

Thinking of you today on your little baby's birthday.

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