Support For Anyone That Has Lost A Parent.

[Mummylin]

Welcome to the new thread for support in your loss.

Another milestone looms without my DM who was killed in a car accident aged 69 last September. We've got through Christmas and birthdays, now the first Easter without her. I've even bought Easter eggs for the DC 'from her' as I don't feel it's fair they should miss out. I know I'll get upset giving them tomorrow.
If I thought too match about the circumstances of her death I think I'd go mad. Still an inquest to face too.
to all struggling on

Hello CP I remember you posting about your mum. What a long time you are having to wait for the inquest, is that the normal time to wait ? It obviously was a very very distressing time for you and as the circumstances were so awful I would imagine it's been very tough for you at times, and you still can't really go forward can you until the inquest has been held, I hope you don't have to wait much longer. Hopefully the pleasure your dc will get tomorrow when they get their eggs will help with any sadness you feel.
I honestly don't know how I would of coped in your situation to be honest.
Glad you popped back here, and I hope you hear something very soon. Take care 💐

You know, the kindness of strangers really does help. Thankyou x

Definately in big contact with biscuits. Ended up beinv great friends Met quite a few times. I'll def let her know you said hi. If only we lived nearer to each other 😊 Xx
Ah how cool about Daniel o donnell wonder whose mum was Margaret

Lovely catching up hun. X

Hi to ssd and anyone else possibly lurking. Xx

Cp so very sorry for your loss. Holding out my hand. So very very hard. Will be thinking of you. . Xx

Cp - Thinking of you this Easter.

I'm also finding the special events like Easter very hard to get through.

Thinking of you all today and hoping that you are all coping as best that you can 💐

Hope everyone's Easters have been bearable. We did a lovely roast in honour of my dad's special roasts. We also watched old videos of him last night. I think I will become permanently attached to our video camera from now on - it was so lovely to watch dad so lively and happy...

Finding today really really tough...will be a year soon since we lost Mum. Feel so overwhelmed. Heard Prince Harry today admitting that he didn't really let himself think about his Mum because it upset him and " what's the point.? It won't bring her back" and I think the same. But it's like my emotions are leaking out now

hi t875, mummylin, sm and all the newer posters

t, my mum was Margaret! Wasn't you mum the same name, if I remember correctly? I'm sorry I haven't been here much, its a bit painful just now, am just struggling with the family thing and easter being a family time.
am thinking of you all and sending my very best

I really admired Prince Harry for speaking out about Diana, it just goes to show grief affects us all no matter you stage in life.

Omg ssd yes it was you with Margaret. I bet all our mums have met up up there as we have a special connection all of us on earth.
It's so hard isn't it hun. I know how you are feeling at the moment. Maybe do something that was special to you and your mum and dad. You will feel close to them xx
I also though that was great of prince harry. Grief and loss is too much of a taboo thing where everyone thinks you should be over a person even after 5 years. It's come back and hit me hard. But I will get through. Not found not over but through. Thinking of you hun as always. Xx
Mummylyn. Hope your ok. Thinking of you. xx

Primadonna - go with them emotions be kind to your self. It's a truly hard awful time. Thinking of you. Look after yourself and surround yourself with understanding people. Try to keep busy and a bit of excersise if you can xx

It is now ten minutes into my mums birthday. Oh my god I miss her.

I really feel for you mummylin, I hope you have people around you to give you plenty of love and hugs 💐

Oh mummylyn. So so hard. Feel for you. Kentish hug coming your way. Happy birthday for her these are for you and her. She is im sure so unbeliably proud of you. Xx

I have my eldest gd here, and in a little while my nieces dh will be here with the baby. I went to crem on Sunday to change flowers but dh and I are going over when he has finished work later.

My Ashes into Glass necklace arrived today after 6 weeks. I have had the back engraved. It's nice having mum so close.

Mummylyn hope your day goes the best it can today. Raise a glass to her. She will be close to you all. I know it's not the same though.
Hugs to you xx

Lazysusan. What a lovely tribute to your mum. It's a lovely necklace too. Thinking of you x

Find it really helps posting here though. Difficult day for you today Mummylin but hopefully lots of happy memories too. I cried today on the train home from work! Over everything and nothing. Dreading the anniversary because a little part of me thinks it might start to feel better after that but then I think " How can it?" because nothing will have changed really.

t875 - Thankyou for the kind words. I just want to sob in someone's arms

Oh prima bless you. Iall of us know how you feel. It's so raw and so very hard. I had 4 sessions with cruse bereavement which helped me. I lost my mum to a massive stroke in her sleep passed away after a coma 6 days after. I was in so much shock and panicky anxious along with everything else that comes with grief. It really helped me.
Is your partner supportive? Family and friends? I know though I felt so on my own like my axis had been thrown. Although my husband children and family friends were rocks.
Big hug to you. Thinking of you x

Mummylyn been thinking of you. Hope you have had nice memories to remember of your wonderful mum (( hug )) x

Glad the day is over, I had company a lot of the day so that helped.
lucy I just love your necklace , makes me wish I had done something like that ! It must be a comfort to you that you can have her so close to you. I think it's wonderful.
T it's so nice to see you , I hope things are going along on ok for you.💐 For everyone x

My Mum's funeral was lovely. Managed to speak - just.

Really missing her now. I can't believe she has gone.

Hi little it does take a while for it to sink in, it just sometimes feels like a bad dream. Then realisation hits again and it's so sad. I think it helps to speak to others. Do talk about your mum, and try and focus on all the fun times you spent together.

You have hit the nail on the head. It DOES feel like I've had a bad dream and she might walk in the door again.

My Mum was wonderful. A huge number of people came to her funeral.

It's that awful sickening few seconds when you wake in the morning and all seems normal then you remember what has happened. And the sadness starts all over again. And you can't bear to look forward to the coming months without her. But it's easier just to get through just one day at a time, don't look too far ahead.
I know you probably won't think it at the moment, but eventually you will start getting days where you don't end up in tears, the gap between the " good " days and the " bad " days gets bigger. You will be able to smile again and your heart won't feel so heavy. It just takes time. You will get there eventually, I promise 💐

oh mummylin, I've just seen your posts about your mums birthday, I hope you got through the day as best you could with your lovely family around you

littleho and primadonna, mummylin is right, the days do increase when you can get through them and the rawness fades but the loss never goes away, we carry it deep within us xx