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Lemon's Mum

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lemonzest123 · 14/09/2016 11:37

Hi MNers,

Thanks for tipping me off about the message limit on my other thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2725008-Would-any-MNers-be-able-to-help-tonight?pg=1&order=

I am stunned and unbelievably humbled to see that one little post I wrote sparked 1000 messages, and Im so appreciative of all you personal stories and jokes to cheer me up.

MN is offically amazing and you're all fantastic.

DM had a rough night, she apparently woke in the night with a bad headache which I think confirmed the disease has moved into her head (we expected this, apparently what's causing the paralysis often appears in the brain too). Still no appetite and sleeping all the time.

Sad

Hope everyone had a good night. I had yet more nightmares - theyre all about Mum and they all horrible. Shouty I is in fine voice this morning. Dad said he heard Shouty I bellowing to Shouty II to shut up the other day. Pot, meet kettle Hmm

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lemonzest123 · 30/09/2016 23:53

Thanks everyone. We've done our own goodbyes. Sitting in the family room for an hour or so while DF does his in private.

God, this is all getting very real.

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whitehandledkitchenknife · 30/09/2016 23:57

Big hug for you Lemon

NotTodayDoris · 01/10/2016 00:01

I have no words of wisdom, but will say a little prayer for your mum and send you a hug.

RomanMum · 01/10/2016 00:02
Flowers
InTheDarkestHour · 01/10/2016 00:13

I will be keeping you and yours in my thoughts this night Flowers

WhoAteAllTheDinosaurs · 01/10/2016 00:16

Thinking of you tonight Lemon. Flowers

saffronwblue · 01/10/2016 00:44

Another hand hold for you, lemon.

TheBouquets · 01/10/2016 01:07

Think of you and dmum and the rest of the family.

Florathefern · 01/10/2016 01:57

Hi Lemon, Thinking of you, your DF and family and of course your DM. I don't have the right words to help you through this last stage but will say a prayer for you all. x

Coldhandscoldheart · 01/10/2016 02:13

Lemon you're being very brave and very strong, even if you can't see it now.
To (badly) quote a favourite book, MN has you tucked in its sleeve tonight.
Thinking of you and your Mum and Dad.

dovesong · 01/10/2016 02:18

'How lucky I am to have something which makes saying goodbye so hard.' Have never posted on here before but I just wanted to join the chorus of everyone sending out love for lemon and her lovely mum. I've said a little prayer and wish you all the peace and love in the world.

icklekid · 01/10/2016 02:58

Oh lemon glad you got to say your good byes and for your df in private too. I was with my mum and her sisters when her df passed away. I just pray you know Gods peace and love at this time just as your dm will be at peace and know how loved she is by you all.

The lemon drizzle suggestion is a genius one- off to friendly recipe...

Poptart27 · 01/10/2016 03:32

Oh lemon I am so heartbroken for you. I am glad you got your goodbye and I bet your mom is grateful to have you as her daughter.

icklekid · 01/10/2016 03:37

*arhh was meant to be slimming world friendly recipe.

Can't sleep- am thinking of you lemon

confusedandemployed · 01/10/2016 03:37

I've been quietly watching this thread and willing a peaceful end for your DM lemon. I have been there, it is the single worst thing I have ever endured.

Wishing you and your family love and strength, and a good death for your mother. Flowers

Hooleywhipper · 01/10/2016 03:39

In my thoughts Flowers

boobyooby · 01/10/2016 04:14

Just checking in again Lemon, hope you've got yourself the comfy spot! xx

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lemonzest123 · 01/10/2016 04:33

Thanks everyone x

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AnnieOnnieMouse · 01/10/2016 04:34

still here for you Flowers

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lemonzest123 · 01/10/2016 04:40

Am out of mind with tiredness. 5th all nighter in 7 days. Feel like I'm going to throw up and pass out at the same time.

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marcopront · 01/10/2016 05:26

In a different time zone, so just woken up. Thinking of you.

Poptart27 · 01/10/2016 05:30

Lemon, is there a family room you can sleep in. When MIL was dying SIL and DH stayed overnight in another room so they could be close but quiet as it was too hard to sleep knowing any moment may be the last. When her last moments were close the nurse came to get them.

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lemonzest123 · 01/10/2016 05:36

There is but me and DF are taking turns and I find it really uncomfortable so can't sleep in there anyway. Also when Im in there Im expecting him to walk through the door any second and say she's gone so it makes me really anxious Sad

Shouty II is proper howling this morning too. Luckily DM is sleeping soundly.

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boo2410 · 01/10/2016 06:08

Oh Lemon, just wanted to say I am thinking of you all and am sending you a hug at this really difficult time. You are one brave girl and your darling Mum is so proud to have you as her daughter. Will be back in a little while. Take care. Flowers Football

GingerbreadLatteToGo · 01/10/2016 06:08

Morning my Lovely ☕️

I'm not surprised you're feeling so awful, no sleep & lots of emotional stress.

I know what you mean about the family room, it works for some people, but like you I just worried even more & couldn't settle. I know you said it felt like DP shouldn't be there because he doesn't know your family very well, but could he come & just spend the night with you in the family room? You might get some sleep if he's there?