Lemon's Mum

[lemonzest123]

Hi MNers,

Thanks for tipping me off about the message limit on my other thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2725008-Would-any-MNers-be-able-to-help-tonight?pg=1&order=

I am stunned and unbelievably humbled to see that one little post I wrote sparked 1000 messages, and Im so appreciative of all you personal stories and jokes to cheer me up.

MN is offically amazing and you're all fantastic.

DM had a rough night, she apparently woke in the night with a bad headache which I think confirmed the disease has moved into her head (we expected this, apparently what's causing the paralysis often appears in the brain too). Still no appetite and sleeping all the time.

Hope everyone had a good night. I had yet more nightmares - theyre all about Mum and they all horrible. Shouty I is in fine voice this morning. Dad said he heard Shouty I bellowing to Shouty II to shut up the other day. Pot, meet kettle

Oh Lemon

Stop being so hard on yourself, love. You're allowed to react in any way you see fit. And if that means having a cry under a duvet with a beer then so be it xx

Dark days Lemon. Love and strength to you and your family x there are no right and wrong ways to feel, worry, sadness and grief are very personal.

Hi lemon you poor thing. What a difficult day. Wrapping yourself up in a duvet with a beer sounds about right. Just try to cut yourself some slack- there is no easy or right way to go through this- it's just one hour at a time- doing your best and trying not to unravel. Bless you. Have a quiet night

Thanks lovely MN....

She looks very peaceful atm. Her breathing seems ti have gone very shallow. Maybe its the two and a half Cobra beers or the tummy full of Chinese but I feel quite calm.

Holding your hand lemon. My dad had very fast shallow breathing for about 12grs before he died. It was difficult to watch, but a recognised thing ( mum just got slower and slower and as I reached for a watch to time how slow she didn't breathe again).

Tell your mum you love her and will never forget her, but that she can just relax and go now , she doesn't need to fight anymore.

Much hugs.

I just said "I love you Mum", just in case she forgot

Big hug (((((hug)))))

She won't forget, what a lovely thing to say to your mum and what a lovely thing for her to fall asleep to hearing. Keep telling her, keep holding her hand. I'm thinking of you every day x

You're a lovely daughter Lemon.
Do whatever you can to get through.

I do honestly believe that giving people your blessing 'to go' does enable them to. It's so hard, but I think you get to a point where you feel it's what they need to hear.

Big hugs my lovely
Xx

Well I said "Its okay if you want to go to sleep now" I think that sort of covers it. Don't think I'll go to sleep tonight. Just have a feeling....

Also Shouty II, Jesus.

JOHNYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!

It's a beautiful thing you're doing Lemon.

You will be in my thoughts tonight.
It is good that you have had time to eat and drink.
You are doing a great job there

Checking in, lemon. You are doing your lovely mum proud.

Through these days, and those soon to come, as well as those in the distant future, what will remain is the love between you.

Lemon I think it's great you're still able to retain your sense of humour with your tales of Shouty etc. Any distraction helps.

Your parents must be really proud of you.

I spent many a time crying curled up on my mum's bed after she died.

Thinking of you and your family tonight

Sending love Lemon. Just back from Holidays and had a big cry at the sudden actual realisation of the finality of it all.
Think I was using the holiday as a bit of a "thing to get to" and escape the grief.
And now it's back to reality with a bang.

I think of you every day now and send a little thought winging it's way to you fill of strength and care. Tough times my friend.

Can't you slip a few beers to poor Shouty?

I think I might have a little pray by her bed. Hope none of the carers come in. They've only just caught me stealing biscuits from the kitchen.

Holding your hand Lemon.

Hand holding still Lemon, nighty night, ((( big))).

Praying can be a very comforting thing. Please don't worry about carers coming in (although wanting some privacy is completely understandable). You do what you need to do sweetheart, what other people do is pretty irrelevant in the grand scheme of things xx

I'm thinking of you Lemon. You're a wonderful daughter. Your parents must be very proud of you. It will help your Mum to know that you'll be there for your Dad once she's gone. That will be a huge comfort to her.

Lemon,
Been reading, but not posted to this thread or previous one before. I'll be here all night, normally at work, but night off.
You are amazing, pray if you need to - in fact do everything/anything you need to.
You have, and continue to surround your Mum in love.
Thinking of you, your Mum and family x

((((((lemon))))))

You're doing great (except the biscuit theft obvs, but hopefully they can overlook that lapse. I'm sure it was completely out of character) ( or brought on by the beer)

Thinking of you Lemon