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I am glad the funeral went 'well', so glad his friends made such a lovely job of the organising his tribute. They sound lovely young people. I am sure your DS would have been touched at the love shown for him in celebration of his life.
Its hard to see what is best for your dd, on one hand she is still shell- shocked and on the other she doesnt want to miss her course work or the event, its just difficult for her to make a decision right now which will definately be the right one for her long term. Just concentrate on today, would she be able to make up the missed days if she stayed at home? Your ds's idea sounds like a plan though. Maybe he could tell her useless flatmate to buck up her ideas a bit while he is there. Cant believe anyone is so selfish, especially at this time.
The drs surgery sounds like a nightmare, I would be so upset with them.
Hope your new meds kick in soon and help your pain, its something you dont need just now.
As pp said you may find your will go through a 'slump' now that you dont have all the planning and organising to do. You may find you are even more tearful and despondent with more time on your hands even if you thought that it wasnt possible. Be kind to yourself and just let it happen, do whatever works for you and your family. You proved how strong you are even though you didnt know it, you will get throught this with your familys' support, one step at a time.
Still thinking of you and your family. 