please help me. dh has taken own life

[diege]

We were in the process of separting. Police came around yesterday to say they found his body. I have 6 children and its ds1s party today (sat). I'm going to push through til after the party and then tell them, hopefully with my parents there No one seems to be able to tell me how to tell the children, help lines of Winstons wish etc Monday to Friday I don't know how I'm going to get through this.

Oh Diege I'm so sorry this has happened. Thinking of you xx

It's really hard today. It's been a hell of a week and there have been times that I've felt almost normal amidst the grief, but today I feel very low. His sister has also been criticising some of the choices I've made for the funeral and that has hit me very hard too. 3 out of 6 children up and causing chaos so am forcing myself, hopefully the day will improve as it goes on. I have a friend coming over this afternoon but really just want to sit on the sofa all day.

Funerals do cause tension sadly, whatever the circumstances. Can you let her choose a hymn or a reading or something? Did you manage to find professional support for the kids and for you? I am delighted your family and friends are helping. This is huge though, no wonder emotionally you're running on empty.

You poor thing Diege, his sister is probably just taking things out on you which just isn't fair. Thinking of you

Thinking of you Diege. It's Kayz from the Wagon under a new name. So so much love to you and the children.

Thinking of you and your children.

It's a tough time, but possible to get through.

One thing that I found helped ds with our bereavement was telling him it was ok to be sad and upset.

Sending love and luck X

This is so so sad. I am so sorry. For you and your children. I hope that you don't allow the criticism to bother you as we all know grieving processes come in different forms - including anger.

Dearest Diege

Couldn't read and run. Stumbled on your thread on Active convos. Such shocking news.We were on a number of threads at the same time for oldies. Sending you huge unmumsnetty hugs and wishing you all the strength in the world to get through this along with your gorgeous children.
I don't really know what else to say. So sorry.

Much love.

Diege, it's hotsoup from the October bus. We are all thinking of you and the children.

Sending you love and strength Diege. Xxxx

Sending my best too.xx

Sending my best too.xx