Support For Anyone That Has Lost A Parent

[mummylin2495]

Hope you will all find this, didn't realise old one was at the end !

Thinking of you all tonight as we face tomorrow with sadness

I haven't posted on here for a while, things haven't been hard for a while I've been ok. Today is going to very hard I can tell, nobody seems too give a monkeys. Hope your all ok too today

for all those missing their mums today. Mine is doubly precious to me since Dad went. I think I'll be on a media blackout for Father's Day and can only imagine how you are all feeling todayx

Happy Mothers Day, mum. God, I miss you xx

There's a big empty space at the table without you today mom.

for all who are missing a loved one.

Missing mum today, got my nephew here whilst my sister does up her new house. I have a headache him and ds are so loud and the dog is Barking relentlessly. How are you all doing

Today is such a sad day isn't it. I am so envious of others who can still visit their mums today.i will be going to the crem soon to take flowers.

Mum I miss you so much, life can never be the same now you aren't here, my heart was broken that day and it will never recover. Love you forever xxx

The boys are playing upstairs now it's very quiet now, glad dp will be home soon too much thinking time. The best friend of dps most recent ex before me (not his ex wife) has tried to add me on Facebook, that will never happen.she was constant trouble and I don't need someone feeding info back to her. Strange to even request me!

It's my mums sisters birthday today and she is wearing a cardigan that she hasn't worn yet, made by my mum. It is sort of weird that my Aunty will have flowers for her birthday on the same day that her sister will have flowers at the crem . Going up there soon but my sis in law just phoned. There are no empty vases so will take a couple with me
No don't add her SM , you don't need any more hassle in your life .

Hope the creme goes okay as can, I know what you mean I didn't buy flowers for my nans for that reason it felt strange. My nephew has gone now, Deffo not adding her don't need the grief and can't stand everything I've heard about dps ex so would rather keep all ties to an absolute minimum.

Crem! I got autocorrected

When I got there I was amazed to see so many lovely flowers, it truly looked lovely and all the little miniature daffy have grown too. I planted those in October. Looked very colourful today. So although I wasn't happy with the situation of course I was happy to see the grave looking so nice. So many flowers that mums inscription is lost for now. Her name is on the bottom part of her headstone and above are two pages where one day I and Dh will be ! We all have the same grave , so one day I will be reunited with my mum.

My dad passed away yesterday. Luckily I was able to be there, not too sure it's hit yet. Tomorrow will be doing things like registering the death and funeral directors.plus helping mum ring all the people who need to know like the bank. Gonna be a long day.

Hello eitak so sorry that you have had to join this thread.i think it takes a few days to really hit home. The first few days you can think you are in a dreamlike place, whilst knowing what has happened but not quite believing it. It's a horrible time for you and all your family. I hope that you will have lots of RL support in the coming weeks and months, but we are always here for when you need someone to listen. One of the hardest times is when you are expected to suddenly be "over it " and everyone just carries on as though nothing has happened.
Please post whenever you want , someone will appear at some point to answer you. I hope you manage to get through all the legal stuff over the coming days. Do take care of yourself, make sure you manage to eat, if you can't face a full meal , have little and often.

mummylin, those flowers are beautiful! I take it they aren't all from you (hopefully?)x

No they aren't ssd.i know that two of my brothers took some and my niece. My sister said she was going yesterday so there is even more now. My other brother never takes flowers no matter what the day, I don't understand it but not going to say anything to cause an arguement.
My sisters grave looked equally pretty and so I felt happy that others had taken the trouble.
The whole cemetery looked full of daffodils and looked really nice, well as nice as a crem can look.

Lots of love and hugs to you all.
Yeah sad empty big ol gap in my Mother's Day. Missed her loads Nd it's crap!
I'm sure she was with me but man was tough.
You are always in my thoughts on this thread.

Xx

T how lovely to see you, yes it's a tough old day for sure. Hope you are getting on ok and all is well with your family

Hi t, great to see you! Agree mothers day was just crap, I ended up in bed with a migraine, they day just took its toll. Hope you are keeping well and the family is doing good as well xx

mummylin, glad others got nice flowers as well as you!

Hi mummy lyn and ssd! Lovely to see you guys too. :-)
Yeah family are ok. Went through tough time with eldest with social anxiety after having to move over to new classes with out her friends. But she's doing loads better now. But it's been hard. Youngest doing really well and she loves her football and doing great playing for a local team.
I'm full of a bad cold sinuses at the mo.
How are you guys?
Ssd I did haveca good Mother's Day for me - I know my mum would have wanted me too. Very hard though. Xx

Thanks for the welcome. We registered the death and booked everything so it really hit me yesterday, due to Easter it's going to be over 3.5 weeks until the funeral, we were hoping for sooner. I'm just really concerned how I'm going to cope at work when it's going to be hanging over me for so long as I'm responsible for a lot.

Hello eitak crikey that is a long time to have to wait. I'm sure it will be difficult at work, but on the other hand it may be better than being at home thinking about it on your own. I would say go to work and if you find you can't cope with it ask if you can leave and go home. The waiting time is horrible and you have an exceptionally long wait. I would just see how you go each day.

Thanks mummylin the funeral has now been pushed back till 4th as Vicar is unable to do the date (stupid funeral directors) so thats more waiting. I ended up exchanging nasty words with my sister which really upset me, i was trying not to do that despite everything but she got under my skin and i snapped. Now cant sleep and feeling guilty for saying things i shouldnt have.

You are all under immense stress at the moment so don't beat yourself up about snapping at your sister. You will probably snap at a few things over the next couple of weeks, but this will pass. If you have a usually good relationship with your sister, don't let this awful time drive a wedge between you, you will need each other over the next few weeks and possibly months.

Thinking of you all and hoping everyone is coping day to day.