Support For Anyone That Has Lost A Parent

[mummylin2495]

Hope you will all find this, didn't realise old one was at the end !

Thank you for your kind words Mummylin :)

I've had a better day today, the friend who invited me for New Years popped round this afternoon for a cuppa and a chat, I was a bit worried she was offended I'd said I didn't fancy it (silly I know!!) so it was nice to see her and just have a good catch up :)

Hope everyone else is doing ok, sorry I hadn't read everyones posts before I was having a bit of a moment, hope you all can have a nice new years whatever you're doing :)

helloeuphemia it's good to see that your mum feels she can finally let go and release your dads ashes. It's lovely that other family have been scattered in the same place so it's very meaningful to your family.
You will definitely have to wrap up warmly as I live by a beach too and it's so windy there. I hope it will bring you and your mum some sort of peace to do this last act.

I saw my Mum this morning she is not looking forward to NYE but didn't want us to go down. Dads funeral is on Tuesday.

Will raise a glass to all lost loved ones tonight

Oh Euphemia that sounds beautiful

I think that New Years eve is one of the saddest nights of all. And I just can't go out and celebrate. I prefer to be here alone with my thoughts tonight.dh is going out and so is Ds. I am fine with that.
Glad it went well euphemia , and It brings you all some peace.
five I understand your mum wanting to stay on her own. It's the going into a new year without the person we have lost. Then someone may ask when we lost them and now for your family it will be 'last year'. It dosent seem possible does it.

For me each new year is awful as is even longer now since I saw my mum,its truly heart breaking isn't it.
Despite all the sadness I wish everyone on the thread peace and happiness in 2016. May we all remember our loved ones with a little smile instead of tears. And make the best life possible for ourselves as all our parents would want us to, Lin x

Hello everyone hope your all ok.. I'm finding tonight the first hogmanay without my mum very hard.. She always loved it and done everything very traditional. She would be at our door 5past midnight every year you could set your watch by her. Its going too be so strange not hearing the knock on the door I'm dreading it. I've been crying on/off all day Christmas was a breeze compared to tonight. Anyway Happy New Year to you all

Hi queen I understand perfectly. For me this was worse than the first Christmas.like you I broke my heart the first new year. I still cannot celebrate tonight .my Dh has gone out, I just want to be on my own. At midnight I am going to send a text to my mums phone,which I have upstairs.it will make me feel better and something I always did without fail.

Thank you mummylin, just hearing the music has set me off, I'm secretly hoping for a wee sign from her. Happy New year too you though hope its not too hard later xx

Me too Queen. I flicked through the tele and Mrs brown the movie was on and they played " you raise me up " which is what we had at mums funeral.

That is very amusing euphemia, there is always something to have a chuckle about isn't there. Thanks for that, gave me a little chuckle !

I like that euphemia!

Happy new year to you all, hope its as good as possible for all of us xx

With the bells striking 12 came an overwhelming wave of sadness that this is the first new year that dad isn't here for. A year that he won't be alive in. I had to take myself away for a big little cry to myself over that one.

It's a very sad timecharlie it just makes everything seem different as it now into the next year without our loved ones. I feel your pain

CharleyDavidson that is exactly how I feel. I had a few tears as well. Last year was so hard, but I really didn't want it to end as at least my dad was part of last year. I did have a dad in 2015.

I agree with all of you - NYE was much worse than Christmas. I do t want a year which doesn't have my mum in it

I like the thought of sending a new year texts, but my Mum has taken over my Dad's phone contract/number etc as he'd only just upgraded in the last month or so before he passed away. It would be a bit of a shock to have had a text like that.

I have the last text messages he sent me saved and locked on my phone.

And I have a few voice recordings I made of us talking (random rubbish with no fuss) with him, which are very special now.

I hope everyone somehow managed to cope, especially those who faced Xmas and new year for the first time, it's very daunting isn't it. But we all have to keep looking forward , and I promise all you new posters, things do get better, although it can be mighty slow at times. Thinking of everyone.

So today I went and brought a dress for Dads funeral, it still all seems very surreal. My friend is flying over from Ireland which is so nice of him.

It's a horrible times isn't it five and it all seems like a bad dream at times. You wake in the morning and just for a few seconds it's not there, then it comes crashing back and you realise it's real.
Have all the arrangements been made for the funeral or have you had to wait because of the holidays ?

It's fast approaching the first anniversary of my mums death and it's by far the hardest part I've faced. I keep crying all the time - far more than I have for months. It's stirring up lots of bad memories of what was happening this time last year. I'm so angry and short tempered right now. My poor old dad is getting a right going over and he really doesn't deserve it. Anyone else have absolutely no inclination to go and visit the grave? I never have and can't see a time when I ever will. She's gone and nothing will ever bring her back to me again.

We had to wait for the holidays as we didn't know how long it was going to take for him to make it home and then whether he need a PM. Also it's going to be a huge funeral, obituary was in The Telegraph today, so it was getting a marquee for spill over from church and giving people time to organise coming.

trucking I am the exact opposite of you, I have to go the cemetery to take flowers for my mum, I can't bear the thought of her having dead flowers on her grave, it's a little different as my sisters grave is next to my mums and I promised my mum I would always see to my sisters grave when she wasn't here. We are a big family but nobody much goes there except for the special dates, so I have to go.
five sounds like a lot of organising is/ has been done. Your dad must of been very popular to have so many people expected. This will help you through the day when it comes. You will be sad , but when the service is over the people around really help to lift your spirits a little.