Support For Anyone That Has Lost A Parent

[mummylin2495]

Hope you will all find this, didn't realise old one was at the end !

That is a lovely message to your mum SM. On Friday I will be thinking similar as it's the anniversary of my mums death , then on Monday it's the anniversary of my sisters death, so all soon and gloom here. Also having a lot of problems with my dd,s ex at the moment, who is an alcoholic. We have had to involve the police and my poor dd is so scared. Sometimes everything goes wrong at the same time dosent it.

Anniversaries are hard aren't they, much as you know you will miss them the same as any other day it seems to cut deeper. Sorry to hear you are having problems he was causing a lot of problems before wasn't he,hope your dd is okay I'm sure she appreciates the support.

Yes he was SM. I am at my dd,s now as she is scared to be alone at the moment in case he turns up, as he did again last night.

hope you are both okay its a horrible feeling being on edge and worried all the time. is he still poorly?

Today is the day my heart was broken forever .

MUM
I think of you every day and mention your name. I miss you so much and still find it hard to believe that you aren't here with us.
I hope you are resting with Nicky, who is also missed dearly.
I pray that one day Somewhere , Somehow I will see you again.
Love you loads mum, Lin xxxxx

Thinking of you today ml, hope the day passes peacefully. You give so much of yourself to this thread and those on it, take care of you today

Thankyou SM. It's always been a few difficult days having both anniversaries together. Strangely after six pm tomorrow I will then be ok. But it's seemed a bit worse this time because of everything else going on at the moment. Things can only get better ! Hope you are ok.

Thanks Heartstrump, children seem to be fine, mums not getting buried till Weds her body was only released the other day, it will have been a long two and a half weeks.

I am going to go back into work tommorow and just hope i can hold my head up and try and get on with things.

Oh I'm so sorry shazza I missed your post. I'm sorry you have had to join us But we all understand as we are either going through it now or have done in the past. I'm sure you are in a strange place of now and then thinking it's not true, then reality hitting. It's a very difficult time for you, but we are here when you want to talk ( or rant ) , very sorry for your loss.

Mummylin

I hope no-one minds me joining this thread. I don't want to, goodness knows I don't want to, but my lovely Dad is slipping away this week due to terminal cancer that he's battled for nearly a year since first becoming poorly. It's heartbreaking.

Hello hexen I am sorry that you and your family are having to go through this utterly awful time. It must be awful for you all at the moment. I hope you are able to spend as much time as possible with your dad at the moment. We will all be here when you feel you need to speak to like minded people.

Thankyou. We are visiting as much as we can, my middle sister and I. My Mum and youngest sister are happy with one visit at the moment, especially now he's sleeping more and more, but I just feel better for having visited.

I'm starting to try and think of what's ahead. The thought of a casket for my Dad and him being in it nearly broke me earlier.

Reading this thread when he was first diagnosed as terminally ill a few months ago was a comfort as I could read the experiences of the lovely people on here and see how they sort of came to terms with things or managed to cope (or not) in the days and weeks after.

I miss my darling father every day - he died nearly 8 years ago and the hole in my life will never be filled. Even lying here thinking about his voice makes me long to see him and hear him and hug him just once more. His death was so overshadowed by high emotion and arguments (long story but step family involved) and I wish more than anything that I could have focused more on him in his last moments.

I take solace from a very happy childhood and from the fact he lives on through my wonderful siblings and gorgeous DCs and nieces/nephews.

Thinking of anyone out there who feels grief stricken right now - it will never go away but I promise you the rawness does lessen in time.

Could I join you all? I have just lost my beloved mum and am utterly broken.

Course you can, i would ask how you are doing but it seems a silly question given we all know what the early times are like, would you like to tell us about her?

Thank you super

I would... But it's hard.

She was funny and lovely and the person I always called. Everyone always commented on how much they liked her, she was someone that people instantly liked. I can't explain. But it's so awful. The loss....

Hello filbert I am so sorry that you have joined us on this thread, you have my deepest sympathy. We all understand the gut wrenching grief that you must be feeling at this time. It makes no rhyme or reason and it's very hard to process that someone we have loved and known for so long is not here anymore.
We all understand on here and have been through the same, so it's easy for us to empathise with you.
Please post whenever you feel the need , someone will always answer you.
I hope that you have good real life support,with family or friends. Remember to look after yourself.

mummylin, I'm sorry I wasn't around last week....I hope you managed to get through the weekend as best you could and you had support from your lovely family...xxx

Hey how are you all doing?

Things are bad here and I'm not sure what to do. Can't really go to my sister or nan as I usually would because of the situation so I'm feeling restless an strung out.

We lost my lovely, funny, caring and bigger than life Dad last night.
We knew it was coming but it's still a shock.

Hello hexen I am very sorry for your loss. It's a very strange and sad time and we all know how awful it is. The early days can seem very surreal, sometimes not believing this has happened etc. it can be extremely difficult to cope with. It will help enormously if you have supportive family and friends around you, not especially to do anything, but to either just give you a hug or listen,and a shoulder to cry on.
Do take care of yourself, make yourself eat and sleep.
Always someone here to reply to you when you need

Sorry for everyone's losses.

Thank you all for posting.

I feel really odd today. Like I can't cry but I have stomach ache that won't go. It just all feels a bit surreal. Did anyone else have any physical pains that appeared?

Yes I did filbert my mum died very unexpectedly and when I got the news I was at a footi game. My legs would not physically work, and my dh and a friend had to hold me up to get to our car , and for about two weeks they just felt so painful and heavy. I also had a real pain in my heart for a while. I have to say that after about 3 or 4 weeks both of these things went, I still had heartache but the physical pain went. I think it was shock that caused this. It can do strange things to your body.

I've felt sick all week, knowing that we were on such a short prognosis and spending every day at the hospital sitting with Dad several times a day. I still have the sick feeling, but there are tears. Lots of tears. At random times.

It feels very strange not having to go running around, fitting in visiting times and taking my Mum and sister, who live at the family home and who don't drive to visiting.