Support For Anyone That Has Lost A Parent

[mummylin2495]

Hope you will all find this, didn't realise old one was at the end !

Yes for as long as I can remember she's said when she dies she is too go with my brother. Its just a thought disturbing him from his resting place. The undertaken has said now its the way it should be my mum first then placedthe baby on top. Instead of him under her, I've already been to my local mp in case they change their minds! Also got a meeting with the hospital soon, it feels like its never ending atm. Lots of love too you all though your all so helpful

I'm sorry I'm not reading back through any new posts welcome to any new posters, I'm sorry you've joined us. I got a text yesterday that my dads gravestone had arrived/been fitted or whatever bloody word you use for it !!! I went there, mainly for my mums sake ... I think it's hit us all hard (those of us that have seen it so far) and seeing the blank space for what will eventually be my mums name .... It's hard x

Queen yes its a lot to deal with. Please be very kind to yourself and give yourself time to process it all.
Well today went as well as it could. In the end my mum, sister and me went to the grave together this morning and then had lunch and then my mum went back in the afternoon with her friends.
Just got back from the meal with everyone and I am utterly shattered now.
I cried this morning because the months have now turned into a year - but then, grief is timeless and so is love.

chicken hope you are doing ok!we also have spaces on my mums headstone ready for me and dh !! Dh bought the space next to my sister and mum wanted to be by her too so we have a brave for 3 . That's weird looking at my own space !
candy I'm glad the day went well! I expect it has been a lot of emotional stress.
Queen I hope it can all be sorted out so that your mum gets her wish and you are comfortable with the arrangements that are eventually made.
Thinking of you all.

Thinking of you all and hoping you all have a nice weekend in the last of the sunshine !
Hoping the newest posters particularly can find some sort of peace and acceptance

Grief is timeless and so is love

That is beautiful.

Love to all of you.

hi everyone

I'm really sad today, missing my mum and dad and my life with them

when does this go away? more than 3 years an it still cuts like a knife. I woke up really early thinking of them. theres just no one to replace them.no family left, from before.

am reading such a good book, its by Marian Keyes, called "Is anybody out there", its about a bereavement. so much of it rings true to me, in some ways. but its bringing it back tpp.

Sorry you are feeling this way ssd.
No answers for you but a big hug instead x

My niece( dd of my sister that died) lost the baby she was expecting last night. Her and her dh were so excited. I feel so sorry for them.
Sorry you are feeling so sad again ssd I don't know if it ever goes away I lost my mum longer ago than you and like you I feel it terribly.

Very sorry to here about your niece and her loss mummylin.

So sorry lin to your niece and her dh too life is bloody cruel sometimes.

How are you doing ssd?I think like you say about the book something so small can bring things back up and it's only takes a small oh I wish they were here moment to knock us down. Thinking of you

So glad that I've found this thread and that the ruddy app is working again. I lost my dad last month and I genuinely have never felt this way before. We interred his ashes on Friday and although I cried nothing seems real yet. I'm away to get a cuppy and read through the thread.

Much love to everyone in this strange and horrible position

thanks everyone

I'm so sorry for your niece mummylin, life can be just shit sometimes

Thanks everyone. It's such a shame when they were so happy and excited.
Hello tilliewelcome to the thread no- one wants to be on. I am glad you have found us and hope the thread will bring you comfort in some way.
First I am sorry for your loss. It is a devastating time isn't it and at times you can't believe it has happened. Sadly it has and this is something we all have to cope with. We all understand on here so anytime you need a rant or are feeling down about anything, there will be someone coming on to reply. Have you support in RL ? The support from others helps so much.

Mummylin I am so so sorry to hear that about your niece
Hi tillie

DS (3.5) and I had a little chat about Granddad (my dad) this afternoon - made me smile and cry when he said Granddad was very brave; I said "yes, he really was". God I miss him

Ah that must of been a very sweet conversation tea with all the innocence of a small child. It it so difficult fir small children to understand it all isn't it. Even us as adults struggle to cope.
I hope everyone is ok and getting support if you need it. If only we could all go back in time, I would in a second. I need to see my lovely mum.

I do too mummylin! so badly.

Hi Tillie - we are in the same boat - my DDad passed away one month ago yesterday. Welcome to the thread that no one wants to be on.

I am missing him so much. I miss the person I was in his eyes, if you see what I mean. DH and I had a huge ridiculous fight yesterday evening and I was in tears or close to it all day today, can't handle anything right now. All my reserves are used up. Although in a way it is nice to be crying and actually feeling something other than numb.

Mummylin for your DNiece. I hope she is ok. And you.

Tea - I love talking to my kids about my Dad, feels like he is closer to us. I am glad they will remember him.

ssd I remember reading that book - maybe I should dig it out again. How are you finding it ?

hi hearts, yes the book was really good with a lovely ending, it made me feel happy! its written so well, as if the author really has experienced a very close bereavement, which she probably did, sadly it comes to us all sooner or later.

I am finally back as me !!
Sending you all hope for the future that eventually we will all find peace of some sort.
It sucks dosent it ssd now it's coming up to Oct I am getting edgy already as I have the two anniversaries only a couple of days apart.

Thanks folks. I've tried and failed to read the thread. Head is mince. I can't even say the D word - I talk about my dad going or when he went. Currently dealing with being back at work, 3 kids, a husband working shifts and my mum. Successfully blocking out most thoughts - I know I should be dealing with it but I don't want to and you can't make me. I know that sounds like a wee girl, but that's exactly how I feel just now, not a middle aged wife and mother. Maybe I need to write the whole thing down somewhere and make myself read it back. Who knows. I'll try to read the thread again at the weekend.

Much love to all those grieving too.

it does indeed mummylin, and welcome back

I hope you are ok as the time approaches, I had everything in Sept and was actually ok, I find its not the big things like dates that get me, its daft times like on a bank holiday when theres no one to visit and the kids and dh are out, or going on holiday when theres no one to phone and say bye we're off....its just so personal, isnt it x

Hello! Special thoughts to Tillybob. My dad died in January and today would have been his birthday. Dd has put a photo on Twitter of the day she was born in Dad's arms - I was fine until I saw that

I'm finding things harder now as time goes on. She lived at the bottom of the road so I nipped in around 6/7 times a day. We were so so close now I've nobody to listen to my random thoughts I feel like I'm pining for her I've never went this long without her ever the longest was 10 days its been 22days now. I'm exhausted trying to get through a day and do normal things its hard when my mind constantly thinks of her, I just wish it would get easier.

Hello ising that must of been very sad for you to see that photo! but on the other hand try and think back to how happy you all were that particular day.
queenfuri I cannot go anywhere near my mums go use. I am afraid I will see someone in her garden and it would break my heart, so I refuse to even go up her road, and I never will.
It's a horrible feeling the longer the gap gets since you have seen your dear mum, like you I saw my mum such a lot and it has left such a big hole in my life. But I can still hear her voice and can remember how soft her skin felt, I don't want that to go. I still have videos, of her, but can't bring myself to watch them, I don't know wether I will be happy I have them or go the opposite way and be even more sad than I am.
It is still such early days for you, I promise that things will settle down a bit, you will always miss her and feel sad, but you still have to live your life. I know it's difficult to even contemplate this at the moment,
Memories are forever and very very precious. One day these will bring you comfort.