DH is dying

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I don't even know what topic to put this in. My DH had a brain haemorrhage yesterday morning, the doctors have said it's not survivable. He's 60 years old and my best friend as well as my husband, we've been married for 23 years. I was sat at the bedside in ICU yesterday thinking that I wasn't going to post on mumsnet, even though like a lot of us I spend quite a bit of time here and feel like part of the community, but at 3 o'clock in the morning when you're all alone it seems like a good idea.
I got sent home from the hospital 'to try to get some sleep'.

Thinking of you this morning. What a heartbreaking errand to have to run

I'm in that there Liverpool Calc, I know it's a way off but let me know if I can do anything. Pm me I'll get an email.

I'm so very sorry you have lost your DH so suddenly. I wanted to give you some reassurance about your ds and his studies. I lost my mum very suddenly 3 months before my medical school finals and whilst pregnant with my first dc. The focus on my exams helped me get through such a terrible time even though it was difficult. I got the highest mark in my medical school and am now a GP I hope my mum would be proud of. Your son will be ok and having something to focus on will hopefully help xxx

So sorry to read this. Be v kind to each other. Sending you love.

I hope so, caravanoflove, I so want him to be okay.

What does your son want to study calculators?

How was it at hospital today? Like some sick déjà vu?
Big hugs. Tomorrow is hopefully going to be a busy but easier one.

Slightlu

Hope you managed some sleep Calculators.

Still thinking of you, calculators. Hoping that these difficult days bring some moments of shared happiness for you and your children. [flowers ]

The hospital was okay, easier than the registrar will be. Sick deja vu sums it up perfectly. The bereavement services woman was all 'oh I thought I recognised the name!'
yeah, cheers for that
Slept 8 hours last night. No dreams, strangely. I normally have enormous epic dreams.

It's good you slept. Hopefully the registrar's staff will be a bit more tactful.

Thinking of you calculators,I have been all week, so glad you had some sleep xxx

Thinking of you all and sending strength and xx

Grr, I've been ill with a migraine all evening. Predictably.

Sorry to hear about your migraine, I suppose the lack of sleep hasn't helped.
I get them, but usually mine start with the visual disturbance and if I'm quick to take paracetomol I xan usually stop it progressing. Mine always happen when I'm stressed/short of sleep.

I found he registrar lovely when my DDad died. I was absolutely dreading going- I suppose it's something none of us ever want to do, but afterwards I did feel proud that my name was on his record forever more. I was glad I'd been able to do this for him.x

Nothing has ever succeeded in stopping my migraines but a mixture of ibuprofen and coedine stops me vomiting and allows me to sleep. Funeral director today.

Hey Calculators, thinking of you x

Hope your migraine has buggered off and you found a sympathetic funeral director.
Thinking of you here too

How you doing calculators?

Funeral is all booked. Need to sit down and sort out the probate forms for MIL and FIL asap. BIL and SIL will not stop going on and on and on at me about it. Aargh

Your bil and SIL need to stfu. Are you the only executor? Can they not help with the forms or would you prefer they didn't?

My step mum recently did probate forms for my dads estate and found a useful book on Amazon to explain step by step what needed doing.

It's okay I know how to do them, I'm still waiting for financial information though.
I don't trust them to help, unfortunately.

I cannot believe they are hassling you about probate when you haven't even had the funeral!

That is really shocking.