Support For Anyone That Has Lost A Parent

[mummylin2495]

Well here we are again, yet another thread. I am worried about the big tree by my mums grave. I would be horrified if mums stone was smashed, and my sisters too come to that as they are side by side.

good luck starfish, hope you go in before Monday. how exciting a support thread baby. thinking of you all this weekend especially those missing their dad's. have a good weekend chicken he sounds like he's doing you the world of good.

waiting on blood results here they now think I've got ibs with a dairy intolerance not reflux. see what happens next! otherwise things are good I've joined a volunteer organisation for my local area helping out. I'm getting out of the house talking to different people and really enjoying it.

That's great supermario that you're getting out & about I hope you get to the bottom of your health problems xx

Thank you for your support on Thursday.

The funeral was intensely painful but helped to be surrounded by friends and family that all loved Mum so much.

Dh, db and cousins carried her coffin, my dd, who is 8, stood up and spoke about what Nana meant to her and my friend sang Leonard Cohen's Hallelujah at the end. It was a very personal service and all went seamlessly.

Now I just feel so flat and have no idea what to do. Everyone has left to go back to their own homes and the reality of mum not being around anymore is too clear.

Dh was very upset and tearful last night. He has been so strong for me over the last few weeks but had to let it out at some point. He was very close with my mum too and loved her so much.

Anyway, sorry if I am waffling on for too long. I just don't know how to manage at the moment and writing it all here seems to help.

Hello kahlua I am glad that day has now gone for you! now comes the reality of your situation. It's almost unthinkable isn't it to think no longer can you just pick up the phone to ring her, how can you possibly get through this awful time.its heartbreaking. As you say everyone around just go back to living their lives and you are left to cope. It is very hard and I miss my mum terribly every single day. Eventually the days between tears get longer, although you won't ever forget and you learn to get on with your life as best that you can. It is never the same from now on, always someone you love missing. You may find yourself going over and over things and thinking "what if " I very often go back to my mums last day, and it shocks me even now 3 yrs later. How can it of happened ? What if they had taken more care ? What if a consultant had seen her the day she was admitted to hospital instead of waiting until Monday, which by then was too late as she had suddenly died unexpectedly. Things I can never have answers to.
You may come across people who expect you to be " fine " after a couple of weeks, or people who ignore it altogether, which hurts
I am sorry that it has affected dh badly too. You will have to support each other. Some people find grief counsellors useful to work through things, but this wasnt for me.
Post anytime, we are all in the same sad situation on here and understand.x

Hi kahlua, everything mummylin says is spot on personally I've found a lot of comfort by being around other people who have lost a parent ... Whether it's on this thread or irl, just because they know how it feels & I don't have to explain/apologise for however I'm feeling & as mummylin says, people who ignore "it" make it 100x worse, please keep posting, someone will always reply xx

He's here!!!

Labour started last night and I had him at 9am today. He's a massive 10lb 3oz - called him Jesse. He's amazing!!

It's a bit wierd being in hospital where only 20 months ago dad met his first grandchild, but he's a little ray of sunshine after such a shitty year. And chicken like you I feel like my dad had a hand to play in him, esp as it's father's day weekend.

Thinking of those of us without our dear dads tomorrow.
It's been 2 years for me. I still phone his mobile to hear his voice
X

Many congrats star
Lovely news x

Hi badvoc lovely to see you hope all is going ok for you.
Starfishmany many congratulations , so glad you missed the induction and he decided to come all on his own. What a size too and I love his name! Enjoy the time in hospital for a bit of a break . So lucky to have a newborn to cuddle I'm envious !

Congratulations starfish my youngest was 9lb 15oz ... He was 10 days overdue !!! I wish I could come & have cuddles with him I love his name too !!! How are you feeling? Did everything go well physically? xx

yayyyy welcome thread baby Jesse congratulations. I'm sure there are some people looking down on you this fathers day weekend. take care of yourselves

Thanks all. We're snuggling up now, is so lovely.
Yes thanks chicken, was about 12 hr uncomplicated labour that ended in forceps delivery but I was fine with that as dS1 was an EMCS and I really wanted to avoid that this time.
Sending big hugs for all our gone but never forgotten dad's tomorrow xxx

Well done starfish I'm glad you had an easy ish labour, give the little but big fella an extra kiss & cuddle from me please xx

congrats starfish

and thinking of all the dads who aren't here today (Happy Fathers Day, dad xxx)

Thinking of all of you missing your dads today

I'm doing ok today so far, I'm blocking blocking & blocking it from my mind, I've kept busy and ... I had a lovely distraction I'm sure once my kids are in bed I'll have a good cry I'm thinking of you all xxx

I haven't Mumslife, today is a no fb day !!! I think someone has tagged me in a Father's Day post/pic on fb ... I might ask my kids to check it out & I'll msg the person ... I don't even want to go & look myself x

I hope all those missing their dads today had as good a day as possible. We went away (school didn't authorise it so this could turn out to be one very expensive camping trip). Travelled home today and shed quite a few tears on the journey. Stopped off at fil's on the way back. It was ok, but hard.
While we were away my ds2 looked at the sky (late, dark) and said 'look, grandad's star has come on holiday with us, he is watching me eating my burger and having fun'. Such a lovely way to think.

Oh dusty what a lovely thing for your son to say! Xx

That is so sweet dusty how are you feeling starfish? Are you ok? Is the bubba ok? x

Hoping that everyone is coping ok and that you have all had a good bit of sunshine today to help lift your spirits a bit x

Two months ago now, starting to feel a little bit better. Hope everyone is ok x