Support For Anyone That Has Lost A Parent

[mummylin2495]

Well here we are again, yet another thread. I am worried about the big tree by my mums grave. I would be horrified if mums stone was smashed, and my sisters too come to that as they are side by side.

oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you are getting all the help you need, to make the adjustment as ok as it can be, that must be very difficult for you..xx

Candy I'm sorry you're having health problems on top of everything else xxx

Anyone else not sleeping well?
I am sleeping so badly I have managed one block of 6 hours since she passed away. Most it is short burst of a couple of hours.

I need sleep to cope. Just not sure how to get it.

Thank you for all your kind words a few days ago.

My DF's funeral was 2 days ago and it was a good reflection of who he was, and there were moments of laughter, but I am so glad it's over. It was hard and I am exhausted after 3 days of endless socialising. I was surprised by how many of his friends seemed to actually be looking to me and my stepmum for comfort. We were both wrung out by the end.

I am not looking forward to Father's Day, but I plan to make it all about DH to distract me.

Wishing you all strength in your grief.

Hi all how are you all?

Sorry ive not been very chatty not been too well again hopefully on top of it now with a new medication or its a camera to try and find out whats going on which i dont relish.

had text from mums husband this week, just to say not heard from me. he seemed his usual self. said he was going out for a drink with the lads from work which i thought was odd since he never ever went out with anyone from work he preferred to keep it separate being the boss and he isnt really the social kind. then i wondered if he was meeting someone or had met someone and just wanted to spare my feelings. shouldnt matter i guess mum wouldnt have wanted him to be alone for the rest of his days he is only just 50.
Missing her a lot lately with not being too well myself, mum had the same sort of issues i am having and was diagnosed with ibs repeatedly until they found the first tumour. its weighing heavily on me at the minute. miss her so much.

hope you are all going along okay on here, what have you been up too

hi sm, good to hear from you, sorry you're not feeling great, its so worrying when your health isn't right, it takes you right back to your mum doesn't it, I think its only natural to worry more than necessary after what we've been through, mind you i can worry for Britain at the best of times!! I hope you get sorted soon..I suppose that's good your mums husband made contact with you, though as you say it is unusual for him, maybe he's letting you know he's trying to get out and about more, as you say your mum wouldn't have wanted him to be alone anyway..hows the kids doing? mine are really growing up, though they can still act daft at times too! I know you miss your mum so much and she was taken too young, its just really not fair and a cruel world sometimes. But just remember we're all still here for a chat whenever you feel up to it, I'm going to work soon but am sure someone else will be along soon, t875 messaged me and said she is asking for you all, shes very busy these days but still thinks of everyone and sends her best xx

I'm here I kind of understand the health worries, but more for my kids ... I think of them as adults & being asked on forms if there's any history of xyz & my kids will have to tick a few because of their dad & granddads I'm determined that I won't be adding anything else to that list, I do a lot of dancing & aerobic/cardio exercise its my motivation for getting out of the house on those days when I want to stay home & do nothing except sleep & cry !!! xx

hi ssd nice to hear from you and from t too. chickennoodle I like your thinking keeping busy and active does help even if we don't always feel like it. I suppose you are right ssd with mums husband I'm glad he's OK. you are certainly right about the kids growing up, things are good here everyone getting on and behaving just finding things really expensive at the moment! how are you? got a blood test tomorrow hopefully tell me some more. sick of the flare ups making me flake out mid plans I hate not being reliable.

Hi everyone. Glad to see that you are all trying to get on with things and find some semblance of happier times
ladydepp glad that your dads funeral went ok. Although it's a very tough day I think it does help to be surrounded by lots of others to support you, I am happy that you managed to find some things to still laugh about.
sm nice to see you! sorry you are arent too good health wise. Hope they will soon sort it out for you. Nice to hear from your mums dh, it shows he is still thinking of you.
ssd hope you are doing ok and still ploughing through. I expect your dh like mine has been studying next seasons fixture lists today ! One of my brothers was here this afternoon and he smiled and just for a second I saw my mum. It was the same little grin she used to give, it was lovely to see.
Got a peaceful couple of hours now as ds and gs ( with dil and gs,s gf ) have gone to the cinema. Not a lot of time to ourselves since I had them move in here, I think it will certainly be a few more weeks, although their roof is getting on fine.
chicken hope you are getting on ok and fully over your relationship now
To everyone I haven't mentioned., just take one day at a time and don't look too forward for now. Thinking of everyone.

Hi mummylin I think the exbf has finally left me alone (texts & calling up until the weekend) that's after him dumping me however many weeks ago !!!
I've asked my kids if they can keep anything Father's Day related (for their dad) sort of away from me, that I'll find it too upsetting I feel bad because they get so excited buying gifts (just like me ) and they'll have to hide their excitement, but I just can't handle it, I want to block out Father's Day completely !!! On the plus side, I think I'll have company on Sunday which will take my mind off it x

Come on chickenspill the beans !

It's my DM's funeral today. I feel so sick and don't know how I am going to get through it. The pain is unbearable.

She had an accident whilst on holiday and has definitely died too soon. None of it seems real, talking about her to others, reliving her accident constantly, planning her funeral. How can it be true? She was fit and vibrant with so much she still wanted to do with her life.

Mum was my best friend, my "go to" person for support and advice.

How will I manage today?

Kahlua, I'm sorry you've joined us on this thread, someone else will be along soon with advice & helpful words. We all dread the funeral but as horrible as it is, it's never quite as bad as we imagine, I'll be thinking of you today xx

Mummylin ... Spill what beans? x

kahlua I am sorry you have joined us. You will get through today. We all dread this time but when it comes, somehow we gain some strength from somewhere. Yes you will probably be tearful and of course feel heart broken, but with support around you , you will get through it. Once the actual service is over, you will start chatting to others and this helps such a lot. I hope everything goes as you would like it to, do come back to us if / when you want to chat. Thinking of you.

chicken you said you will have company! I thought maybe was a new man !

Mummylin, you thought right I don't know if it's just because he has free time on Sunday or because he knows it'll be a hard day for me, but it doesn't matter I really enjoy spending time with him & we have an amazing chemistry thing going on I'm enjoying it while it lasts x

Ha ! I knew it ! Glad you have got a bit of happiness going on after a tough time, hope it all goes well.

It's just fun & casual mummylin, but that works for me I can't/won't do living with anyone, I like it just me & my kids & I like my own space & me time too much ???? x

Sounds a great way to be chicken. You have to do what suits you and your family the best. Enjoy x

Any news on starfish? xx

Hopefully the silence will indicate that baby starfish has now arrived ( hopeful), I do hope so .

I hope so too I love love love babies x

Sorry to disappoint ladies but this baby isn't budging!! . Got my induction booked for Monday if nothing happens over the weekend. I will keep you posted!!
At least it will take my mind off fathers day...
Your new man sounds like he's doing you the world of good chicken! Good for you.
Kaluha - am so sorry for your loss. What a shock to lose your dear mum like that. Wishing you strength to get thru today and beyond.
Hello mummylin, ssd,sm and others. In case I do actually ever go into labour just to say I'll be thinking of everyone who is without their dad this Sunday xx

Starfish you poor thing !!! I predict Sunday for the baby do you know the sex? And yes he's giving me a reason to smile & for reasons that I don't want to put on here, I really believe my dad has had a hand in me & him x

Oh poor you starfish hope baby comes before Monday so you don't have to be induced. If it's hot where you live you must be fed up !
Have a nice weekend chicken