Support for Anyone Who Has Lost A Parent,Everyone Welcome ( 6 )

[mummylin2495]

I can't believe we are now on another thread, where has all the time gone ?

Aww thank you Mummylin - it means a lot just to know someone else understands exactly why I feel I do. I think when we are going on with day to day things it is under the surface but bubbles up with a seemingly little thing. I do just miss my mum - just being a daughter.

Reading posts on here reminds me how we've all had to go through such difficult tasks like sorting clothes and emptying a house. If you haven't had to do these things you have no idea how painful it is.

MrsWolf and shabbs - I do genuinely feel your pain having been there with my dad who was only given a few weeks to live. I think knowing there is no hope is the most difficult thing. My thoughts are with you. x

And thank you for letting me just release my feelings here where it feels safe to be.

Galaxy welcome back. My god your going through a tough time can totally understand how your feeling. I felt like this at times over the years especially when times were tough. You probably had signs from your mum just them little coincidences things happening that you may well have wanted to happen, a little white feather, odd coin, song on the radio. Things coming in your head randomly.
I miss my my mum loads and can't think if her gone. I like to think she is with me but nothing will take over them physical voids of her not around. But I take comfort with what I know and have had messages etc
Good luck with your scan. Come back soon always here for you. Will always remember you. You are one of the early girls! Such a support to me from so many if you.

Ssd nice of you to say. You have been there for me too xx
Always wil be there for you xx

Branston. - get random feathers a lot. Mainly significant times. I brought a tomatoe plant I know my mum would love that as she loved my dad getting them. I went there the next day to water it and there was a fluffy white feather in the dirt just at the bottom if the plant.

When we had just unfortunately gone through our dog being put to sleep after 14 years. Had a big stroke. We come back home and on the rug he laid on in the back room was a fluffy white feather. Again comfort but some days not good enough xx

Hi to everyone else mummylin, Shabbs badvoc and anyone else on the thread xx

This is far too hot for me today so am sat indoors with ceiling fan whizzing round. !
For those of you who have been here a while, the mum of our friend who died last year has now died. I feel so sad about it, she wrote me such a lovely letter when my mum died. When we went past her house on Sunday eve there was an ambulance outside her house. Not sure when she died but sure we will soon find out . She has only been ill a couple of weeks. I will miss her going past my house with her dog.

I remember you saying she had written you a lovely letter mummylin, what a shame she has died now. Life can be so sad, can't it.

I too am damped inside today, far too hot for me too.

damped lol, I meant camped

Are you in a tent
I can't stand it ssd will go out this eve and water every thing, it's all as dry as a bone. It would be good if it rained at night , but we had sunny day times.

Galaxy I can empathise with so much of what you have written.

I guess no one else will love me unconditionally now and that's hard. On the other hand I know I am lucky to have had parents who really did adore me. I've created online memorials for them mainly so that if you google their names and the village they lived in, people will know and I hope a couple of people post messages, they really were lovely people although my dad went a bit 'strange' after losing my mum

I think it's o ly people who have lst a parent can really appreciate how bloody awful it is. We have grown up with them around to guide us, love us, tell us off when we do something wrong etc. then we become adults and we realise how all the things we were taught as children has helped us to become sensible, kind adults. Life goes on for a few years, we have our own children , in my case grandchildren too. Life is generally good. Then bang it's all snatched away from us. Where are the parents who have loved us, nurtured us, taught us right from wrong, picked us up when we have had problems. Life can never be the same, but until you have lost them, the pain can never be imagined.

I'm with the blimey it's hot gang!! Phewyyy

Bring me some breeze please!!
Mummylin I remember you telling about this letter. That's so sad.
Thinking of you x

Has anyone else who has lost a parent recently found they have also lost friends?

I haven't fallen out with anyone but a few people are avoiding me / not contacting me. It's so hurtful! Why do people do this?

Yes branston I think a fair few if us have had this! And over been shocked at some as I'd really been there for these people. Hurts like hell but as times gone on I've realised they weren't worth me getting bitter on anger they wasn't worth it in the end.
I have really good soul mates now who know r there for me and me for them. X

We have just found out that when we saw the ambulance on Sunday eve, she had just died. 15 months after her son . It is all very very sad.

Omg that's terrible mummylin x

Don't know if you remember but there was a notice in the our local paper to say only family and invited friends to attend sons funeral, so dh and I couldn't go. I hope it won't be the same for his mum.its just so sad, there is only one son left now, he is also a friend of ours.

Yeah I do remember that mummylin. How much tragic in their family. Life is very cruel!! x

It has really unsettled me, maybe it's because it was a link to my mum.

I'm sorry Lin x

Yeah it probably is lin. X sending you a big ol hug. And x

Watching the common wealth games last night and I could just hear my mum singing you take the high road and I'll take the low road. Rocked me. Put her photo by the tv do she can share with the show!!!

Ssd did you go there?? It was such a great Show! I loved the Olympics so I'm gonna follow this too!! X

no we didnt go t875, dh works with special needs adults and so many of their centres have closed down and their days at the centres have been cut drastically and yet the city council have spent millions on the games, we see it here as a double edged sword.

I've just seen a post on fb and it sums up for me how I feel about people that havent been there for me at all since mum died

"sometimes you have to give up on people, not because you don't care, because they don't"

thats it really

What an apt quote ssd

Aww lin you're having a difficult time too. I think when someone else passes away it brings it all back.

Strange thing with friends. My mum was my best friend and it has taken me this time over the past two years to make new good friends. Not replacing her but finding people who like to do the things I missed like going for coffee or lunch. I still don't have someone I can just ring at any moment snd say 'oooh did you see that?" Or just giggle over something. But I feel I have foumd new friends which helps me with my identity.

I can empathise with that ssd - I've had two friends who I thought were close who haven't bothered contacting me.

It does really hurt, doesn't it!

yeah apt quote ssd, although ive met some real genuine soul mates now and that includes my lovely on line friends here,who actually have been more support that them non entities

Hello everyone, I was on a few threads back and fell off. Coming up to the first anniversary of my mums funeral on the 31st, so really glad I've re-found the thread as it's getting a little rough.

Hi chubby. I'm sure it will be another painful day for you, but you will get through it. You have been so brave over the last year in the circumstances. You will be with your dad and your DF and maybe some friends I'm sure. You actually have been through the worst time losing two of your family at the same time. You have been a real credit to your mum and I know she would be very very proud of you. You have a lot to look forward to, especially next year ( brushes off my hat ). You honestly will be ok x