Support for Anyone Who Has Lost A Parent,Everyone Welcome ( 6 )

[mummylin2495]

I can't believe we are now on another thread, where has all the time gone ?

Wow I disappeared a few days and there's so much to catch up on. How are you doing ssd it cuts deep sometimes doesn't it but like linn and the others said and I have told others I would take having my mum for the short time I did over anyone else because she was so special I think she knew how much she meant to her children which makes me happy. I'm a little bit upset this week I had always said that if mum weren't here to see me get married I would wear the prom dress we picked together me mum and my sister but it was at mums house. We saw mums neighbour who said her husband moved with no one even seeing him pack or move any furniture. The house was a cul de sac of bungalows with lots of ill or elderly who spent most time in looking out window so I assume he's gone with the bare minimum. He didn't even tell the council. So I'm guessing my dress is long gone
I have text to ask but he's not got back to me. Am oddly gutted even though it was just a dress.

Totally understandable SM, the dress is a connection to your mum. I'm sorry this has happened with the house, how frustrating for you.

I am feeling my dads absence very keenly. I was watching The Chase with my grandad yesterday and looked over to see my dad and of course he wasn't there.

First snow today. The first time my daughter has seen snowflakes falling. She was delighted with them. And I also thought first snowfall my dad doesn't see. He was a master at making snow people (they sometimes had boobs). We also made snow families and snow dogs, something I'll pass onto my daughter.

I'm sorry about your dress sm, thats rotten for you. I had my wedding dress at my mums, but it was my choice to get rid of it (really regret the stuff I threw out, but was a bit out of my mind then), but you had the choice taken away. I'm really sorry, this is crap. Can you call him? x

candy, the firsts are gut wrenching

for you both, and for all of us here xxx

Hello all, hope none of your homes have suffered any damage with the bad weather last night
SM it's worth a call to your mums dh just to ask about your dress , you never know he may of just shoved it in a bag or something. If he hasn't got it maybe it's in a local charity shop so keep your eye out for it.how upsetting for you

Few more posts and I will start a new thread.

I have had further bad news today. My sister's nephew who has leukaemia is not doing well. His parents have been through so much.
We are all powerless to do anything.

Oh how sad candy his poor parents must be devastated. It seems so unfair that children have these awful illnesses . Our friends lost their son. Not from the same illness but a brain tumour . It was a very sad time indeed and as you say there is nothing anyone can do. Makes you spiteful when so many evil people are alive and well. Hope little boys parents have lots of support

They do mummylin but no one can help them at the moment, they just have to go through it.
Everyone wants to help of course, in whatever way we can, but it's bigger than all of us.

Just be there for them Candy. My friends son was sent to a hospice, and you would be surprised how many people didn't go and visit because it wasn't local. It was really bad. The parents were so upset / angry that when their son eventually died they did not let people know and had the service in the hospice instead of our town.it was a very sad day , I did all the food for the wake and had to transport it all to the place we were going. He was just 12 yrs old. Lots of people said they wouldn't go as it was too upsetting but their parents were there for 8 weeks and really needed to see people. But not a card , a phone call just nothing. He played footi for the youngsters team that my dh ran. I have a photo of him in my conservatory along with a little fluffy hedgehog that I have him one day, we had a laugh when I gave it to him ill as he was he just snatched it from my hand, a lovely memory of him.

He sounds very special mummylin.

My sister's nephew's parents have asked for space and I understand that. Whenever I see them I just try to provide some normality as they have had years of trauma and upheaval.

It affects everyone, including my own nephews as he is their cousin. I worry for them too as they have just had their first bereavement with my dad.

Praying for a miracle x

How old is he candy ?

I will start the new thread now cause it's so near the end.

NEW THREAD HERE

thanks mummylin, I'll go over to there, but I just wanted to say how sorry I am to read your news candy

He's 6. He was diagnosed when he was 2. I'll head over to the new thread x

oh I feel so sad for the little ones. I cannot imagine the pain these poor people are going through. xx

I know that this is bad timing as the thread is about to run out but last week was my 40th Birthday. My wonderful, truly wonderful DH got all of my friends and family that I'd not seen for so very long to come to the pub where I thought we were just having a family meal.

My Aunty was there, the one who was there when mum passed in November 2013, and we talked about the one person that I wanted to be there more than ever was the one that couldn't be. She couldn't see her 'little girl' all grown up and middle aged......

I miss her so very much. I know that she'd be proud of me for volunteering in a home where there are people just like her who have mental illness, MS, cancer etc.....God's Waiting Room as it were, a wonderful place with such lovely residents who I talk to and keep company. :)

Anyway - as per bloomin' usual, I've jumped in and not checked the thread that's about to be full anyway so maybe it won't matter......

Sorry to be a needy Mouse but now more than ever, I need some sort of reassurance that life will be good. But......That she's okay, not in pain and no longer fearful of death, I know it's been longer than some on here....

I have the menopause to face, a disabled little dude to care for and my own disability and at times I feel like giving it all up......

But I won't because I'm going to fight this black cloud.

Night all. Sorry for jumping in and whining xx

hi mouse, so nice to see you again! and a very happy belated birthday! that sounds like a lovely day your dh organised, well done to him for doing that! and how lovely to be able to talk to your aunty about your mum, that must have been very special, for both of you.

sorry you are missing your mum and feeling so low, its just so very hard sometimes and you certainly have a lot on your plate. But you sound like you do a great job in difficult circumstances, I can imagine its not easy. And even harder without your beloved mum there....but I'm a bit spiritual now since mum passed and I really believe your lovely mum will be proud of you and all you have achieved, your volunteer work sounds wonderful, you should give yourself a big pat on the back for doing that!

I hope the black cloud lifts a bit for you soon and the sunshine begins to creep back in

Hi Mouse,

Happy 40th! I was 40 last year, how does that happen???

You are not needy at all. You sound fantastic actually and you must bring so much reassurance to the people you volunteer for, and your little one, so it's definitely more than ok to want someone to make you feel reassured at times. I have a disability too so I understand it can feel too much at times, so many things to deal with.
I did have my dad when I was 40 but he was so ill he was actually rather crotchety due to the pain he was in and I feel sad when I think about it.
Sending you a huge hug and remember that they never really leave us, they are a part of us and love never dies xxxx