Support for Anyone Who Has Lost A Parent,Everyone Welcome ( 6 )

[mummylin2495]

I can't believe we are now on another thread, where has all the time gone ?

hope your knee is feeling better today candy, I know what you mean about your grandad my grandparents are the same now they always look around as though they are searching for her. glad dd has had a nice time and enjoying her new toys. I am stuck at home because of the weather but really need some food that isn't biscuits and quality street! I am so worried about my brother he is so down and the money is a huge problem. realistically I know I can't help but it hurts

I have no idea of your brothers circumstances but in the interest of trying to behelpful, is it an option for him to get a lodger or rent his e out while he stays somewhere else? Its awful worrying about a loved one.

• his place out

candy please refer to my post on Sunday 28th @ 17.54 ! I think you will like it !
SMit must be so upsetting for you that there is nothing you can do to help your brother. It's so tough sometimes just to be on the sidelines. Does he live far from you ?
candysorry you have hurt yourself! very icy here today , Jack Frost has certainly been busy here overnight. The roads and pavements are still white !
ssd hope you are ok and that new year will be a good one for you as I do for everyone on this thread.
Thinking of everyone who is missing someone at this time .

Mummylin I have been following the Janet and Roy thread with interest, I saw you pop on there. I think I will partake next year. As for recipient I can't decide whether I should go for my sis and BIL or my in-laws.

It is hilarious candy, I always wanted to play a prank on this particular brother. finally !!!!

I think I will pick my sister. She will think it's some in law of her DH.

hi all . brother can't get a lodger until April because he's not been there twelve months so until then he's stuck.he doesn't live far Linn only 45 minutes but since I can't drive I can't go there unless he picks me up and brings me home as not on bus route, upsets me to think of him alone in his house upset and I cant be there. what are you all up to for new year

Just came back from my dd,s , it's her birthday today.
I'm not going out tomorrow, I just can't be bothered, expect dh may go out to the pub with my brother. But I don't mind that at all.there was a time when I wouldn't of creamed of staying in on NYE. But no enthusiasm now. It's freezing cold out and all the cars are white !
Yes that sounds a good idea Candy, I'm sure you will enjoy it as much as I am !

Tonight as I raise a glass I will toast my dad but also all of you and your loved ones.
All the best for the coming year x

Happy new year to everyone.

For the new year I wish for peace for the newly bereaved May you gain peace of heart.
For us longer time posters, may we continue to accept what life has dealt for us and give us all the strength to remember with love and humour instead of pain
Thankyou everyone for the companionship shown to me this year. See you all next year xxx

Same to you mummylin, and to everyone else here!

wishing you all a bit of peace of mind in 2015, and thanks everyone here who has listened to my moans and groans all year, you've all really helped me more than I can say, thanks so much! xx

Starting to take all the decorations down now.
Well, we survived christmas and new year. My DH doesn't know but as we hugged at midnight I felt utterly heartbroken. But we did have a good night out and I did have a terrible hangover to prove it. I don't get drunk often so when I do I tend to suffer afterwards!
Yes I am hoping for peace this year.

It's amazing how we manage to get through these things especially for the first event without our loved one . I think we build ourselves up into fearing we can't cope and then somehow we do. Albeit we still feel sad , I am glad Candy that you enjoyed yourself through parts of Xmas and the new year, you did well.

hi all happy new year, had a good time went to dps mums and had a few drinks kids all played nicely. carried little niece out to see the fireworks and wondered if I would ever feel like having another child without mum here, I give a lot of reasons why I don't want any more but that's the main one. I can't imagine a child mum would never meet or help me get through. what did you all get up too for new year

We stayed in , first time ever for dh on New Year's Eve. But I have done it many times. SM I think your mum would prob of loved you to have another baby ! I'm sure she wouldn't want to be the reason that you didn't have one ! ( or two )
Glad you had a good night out, I loved the fireworks from London, they were fab. We watched them on the tele.

hey, how are things tonight? lots going on her at the minute sorry I've not been around for everyone as much things still rough with my brother, I've been looking into jobs as we are just not going to get by well enough on current income but cant find anything that fits around dps hours and ds as I don't have anyone to watch him really, is getting me down and wish mum was here to help make sense of everything especially with brother but she's not . what are your resolutions? I don't do resolution all this new year new me stuff drives me bats

Resolutions: moan less to DH, make things less of a battle (I.e. Let some things go) and be less forgetful as I can't remember the third one.
I am also aiming to remember my dad with a smile which I am hoping will happen naturally.
As I stuff my face with fudge, any resolutions of diets are way in the future.

Is there any work you could do at home SM ? It is a problem when you have to worry about child are but worry about finance too. What about making things. Your good with your . Sorry things are no better for your brother
Candy I like your resolutions, but I don't bother making them they would be broken in the first week !

my new year resolution is to try to not worry so much.....impossible for me though..

sm, I'm in the same boat, needing the money but having no childcare, although mine are older now, its very hard..have you ever considered childminding?

I would definitely work from home that would be perfect. not so much with the childminding due to massive dogs/no space in my house haha. what are you thinking would be best for you ssd, it's a pain isn't it. my grandparents say they could have ds but they are almost 80,dont live near school I dont see how it would work .

One if the jobs I did when I had my kids at school was to go round delivering leaflets, it fitted in with the school hours and I was always back to pick up the kids from school, wasnt a lot of money but even a few extra pounds helped at the time. After all when money is tight even an extra £30 helps a lot. SM my previous post meant to say. You are good with your crafts maybe you could do something with that ?

well for the past 7 years I've been working in a local restaurant as a kitchen help/pot washer....I absolutely hate it but its hours that fit round school and I work evenings and weekends during the school hols, so its the only thing I can find that lets me do this....mind you, its minimum wage and its the hardest work I've ever done, before the kids I had a good job I loved, paying more than the quid an hour, and that was 16 years ago, but I had to give it up as I had no childcare and I've been doing very menial jobs ever since, anything really that fits round the kids and means I dont need to leave them in childcare all school hols, I know thats what people do, but I'd do anything to avoid it..

more than ten quid an hour, sorry

that makes sense ssd you do what needs doing don't you doesn't mean you dont want something for you though, I'm not sure what to do yet. dp is doing my head in tonight generally being an arse about my brother. don't get me wrong hes not perfect but show me a family who is. he doesnt understand that he is without our mum and his dad is beyond useless if he needs someone to talk to or some help then me and my sister will do what we can.