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[mummylin2495]

I can't believe we are now on another thread, where has all the time gone ?

Mins I'm so sorry xxx

Thinking of you all

And so the day is nearly over.

The first Christmas Day of my life I have not spent with my dad. Very strange.

However we have had a lovely day, DD is 16mo so was really amazed by it all.

It was nice to spend it together as a family. I had a cry in a quiet moment but then saw the most beautiful huge bright clear rainbow dominating the whole skyline. It was a wonderful moment.

I love you dad, happy christmas. Love you forever, miss you forever. I hope we made you proud today as you made us proud.

Happy Christmas All xxx

So now the day we all dread has gone. I'm sure we all got through it even though we had moments of sadness. Now relax and enjoy today. I have over a dozen here tonight for a cold buffet, but i had an easy day yesterday and for only the second time ever I didn't cook for the family. I had it done for me instead !

we had a nice day yesterday, although it was pretty quiet

mummylin, I dream of having a big family like you, thats what I want for my dc's when they are older, a big family to support them and love them and share life's ups and downs together

I know I am so lucky ssd but I think because we have lost one sister already it has made us all realise how quickly we can be taken away. We are not perfect by any means , but I love my family deeply.
But I am also very close to my dd and ds and their families and so it was great to have them all around me yesterday. Tonight all my GC are bringing their respective other halfs here too So should be fun ! Enjoy the rest of the day x

A year ago today I accompanied my dad for his chemo at Christies. It was his second session and the first one had wiped him out over Christmas. I sat with him and chatted and my DH fetched the cups of tea.
We were hoping the chemo would buy more time but it was not to be.
Looking back I can't believe we were so strong. But my dad was a strong man and it didn't seem possible it wouldn't be around one day.
I still find it hard to believe he's gone.

Hello everyone. Gosh, Christmas has been difficult this year. I went up to my mum and dad's grave last weekend and broke down. I had to go but it was hard. Three lovely friends have all lost their dads recently. Two in the past week and it knocked me completely knowing what they are going through.

I wasn't my best this Christmas. I had tried very hard in the run up but was an emotional wreck. Burst into tears in Sainsburys doing Christmas food shop!!! Quite embarrassing. Difficult time for us all. I hope everyone has a peaceful New Year and wish you all good health and happiness with your loved ones.

Hello Galaxymum.

I'm so sorry it has been so hard. Christmas is a time for reflection on past memories andakes the lost even sharper doesn't it.

I am very sorry for your friends losses. I know that they will be grateful for a friend that understands their loss. My friends in the same boat as me are a source of comfort because I can say anything to them and they get it, and vice versa.

A peaceful new year to you x

hi all, kids had a great time and really enjoyed having them all together was lovely. they loved their gifts and we had a nice chilled day.things seem to have gone to shit since boxing day though dp been Ill so had to do all my family visiting alone. brothers partner (friend of mine) has mh issues and is not well at all at the moment they have broken up as its all too much for him working full time too. heart is aching for him but I know I can't help . wish mum was Here she always knew what to do

Hi everyone

Hope your Christmas time went best it could.
Ours was ok we played games and watched tv, I spoke to my mum and brought her in but it was hard without her and shit without her, but we did have a good time as i know she would kick my backside if I didn't and if i didn't fly her Mrs Christmas flag.

we had a very strange thing.. I turned on the tv and the channel it was on was Vintage tv (music channel I believe ) i never go on this channel ever, and what was playing was Everly Brothers 'walk right back' which apparently my dad said it was my brother and his song for karaoke which was very strange of all the songs and for us to be even on this chanel! VERY strange indeed.

my brother had boxing day at his which was ok, lovely meal but i really found it hard her not there.
sending big hugs and thinking of you all xx

and that song was also a song apparently they sing for my mum..

nice coincidence there t875!!

well girls, it sounds like we all feel the same, all putting on the same face to the world but feeling the same inside, knowing something vital is missing and isn't coming back.....the heartache of that is overwhelming, but theres nothing we can do but trudge on, trying to give the kids the best Xmas we can...

hugs to you all xxx

I too have felt the same as the rest of you, I prob would of been ok, but the death of my aunty has made me think of the sorrow of my cousin, which in turn made me think a lot about my own mum, funeral not till the 8th Jan.
I am glad to see though that we have all come out the other side and actually enjoyed most of the festive days.
Hope you all had some lovely gifts, I have been thoroughly spoilt and have big bags of gifts upstairs which I will sort out tomorrow as dh is away for the whole day. I had a funny mug as a joke from my brother which says " fucking queen of everything " hahaha I told him that is correct

Well I didn't get a funny mug but I did get some lovely gifts.
We all spoiled each other a bit. I made my DH wear a Christmas jumper all day. DD was mesmerised by everything.
Visiting rellies at the mo.

My mum passed away on 16th December very suddenly and we are still waiting for the coroner to release her. We are in limbo and we are struggling.

It's been a tough year - I've been seriously ill, my husband left me in August for the OW and then my mum. We managed to get through Christmas for my two children but it's been hard.

I feel like she's still here. I can't believe I won't see her again - I keep thinking that she's going to call my name or ring me. I can't delete her number from my mobile. It's like I'll be erasing her. Some days I'm completely numb and I feel guilty that I'm not crying - and other days I can't stop crying. I'm on diazepam and I need to be strong for my children but it's so hard.

Oh dear whyme what an awful lot to cope with. I am very sorry for the loss of your mum, I know it must of been a terrible shock for you.
You are probably still in great shock about it all , and with all the other stuff you must be feeling bewildered.
I hope you will hear soon from the coroner. So at least you have some answers. Don't worry about taking your mum off your phone, my mum is still on mine along with her photo and personal ringtone.
I do hope you have some good friends who can help you through this sad time, and maybe you have siblings too ?
Just take one day at a time.

I'm so sorry whyme, thats an awful lot to cope with. I hope you've got other family you are close to, or good friends you can lean on a bit. As mummylin says, try to take one day at a time. What age are your kids? I understand all too well the phone thing....xx

mummylin, I like your brothers humour !

So do I ssd, right up my street ! Can you guess I'm the bossy one out of all my siblings dh has gone on his trip left at 10. 30am on the coach. I have said I will cook a roast dinner for all three of them for when they get back about 9 ish I think! Hope we win.

hope his team will too, its always easier when they win, isn't it, less moaning in the house ....yum to the roast dinner, thats what I cooked for Xmas lunch and ds1 said it was the best Xmas lunch he'd had, so I was well chuffed with that!

candy, sorry, didnt reply to you there, hope the visiting the relatives went ok, how are you doing now xx

feel like crap today my poor brother is in bits and I can't help him :(

There is not much you can do SM except be there to listen when he wants to chat about it. It's very hard when you see someone you love have their heart broken but sadly no- one can really help. One thing I learnt when this happened to my ds. Do not say anything negative about his ex. I am glad I held my tongue as they got back together eventually !

Ssd, En route to second lot of rellies! I have the most rotten cold. I have really been ill for weeks but have just pushed through it but would love to just wrap up in a poorly blanket on the sofa and eat chocolate.
Hot toddies got me through the first lot of rellies. And cake.
SM thank goodness your brother has you to care about him.

Whyme, I am so sorry this has happened. I hope the funeral date is sorted soon for you. My dads number is still in my phone and I can't imagine it not being.

Mummylin I do like hearing about your family, they make me laugh.

it's so hard isn't It. they split bills and he now won't be able to afford his house. he is looking for a solution but I can't give him one

thats a hard one sm, being desperate to help him but not being able to....at least he knows you are there if he needs you, that will mean a lot to him.