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[mummylin2495]

I can't believe we are now on another thread, where has all the time gone ?

Thinking of you Lin x

And a belated happy birthday to SMS dear mum x

Thinking of your brother today Lin, hope it all goes well x

Thanks Candy, he phoned me this morning and said he will phone me later when he is back home if he still has a head !! It should all be done by now, don't know if he has to stay there a while afterwards or not. So that will be two days gone , just one more to face on Sunday !

Just spoken to my brother, he did not like having it done one little bit, feels very sorry for himself, but the main thing is it's now gone, 40% chance of coming back! but as I told him 60% it won't ! He can't open his eye properly at the moment , but this should wear off over the course of the evening when his head thaws out ! Long list of what to look out for eg any swelling of legs. Breathlessness etc in case of a blood clot. Thank god that's another thing over. Only one to go now on Sunday !

One day at a time really does work Lin! Your poor brother, sometimes feeling sorry for yourself is all part of the healing process x

Glad it's all over for your bro Lin.
I had a growth taken off my eyelid about 4 years ago and - as I wear glasses - I had to wear an eye patch/bandage under them and my Dh told me I looked like olive from "on the buses"!!

Well...today has been awful.
Got a phone call from fil that mil had been rushed to hospital with a suspected stroke!! :(
I have been back and forth to the hospital all day and am pretty tired.
She is home now and they have decided it is vertigo?
Hope everyone is doing ok...sm I will be putting my little robin on my tree again this year :)

Badvoc, you just don't know what each day is going to bring. Hope you get chance to put your feet up tonight. I hope it turns out just to be a bad scare and you have a calmer weekend.
This day last year was the day it was confirmed my dad had cancer and that it had already spread to his liver. I opened the door thinking it would be trick or treaters but it was my parents coming round to break the news face to face.
I have dealt with this todayby going Halloween mad with decorations everywhere so that I can create happy Halloween memories. I think my dad would like it.

Gosh, what a difficult day for you candy. X
I think today has brought on a PTSD type episode tbh.
I have spent so much time in that damn hospital since dad died...:(
I hate the place.

Oh dear badvoc when will it ever end for you and your family ? Just seems to go on and on dosent it.
candy your idea for celebrating this day instead of being sad is great.
ssd thanks for your thoughts hope all is not too bad for you at the moment.
For everyone on this thread, you Are all in my thoughts and for the newest members of this thread as it gets nearer to your first Christmas without your loved ones, I would just like to say, however impossible it may seem to you You get through it. It's tough and it's sad but sadly it's something we all have to face. Together we can all help each other.

Been thinking of you Lin!!
Glad went ok for your brother and everything crossed and prayers he will be ok for the future.
What are you doing today and tomorrow?
Can I give my special cyber friend a hug (())
We're all right with you Lin xx
Badvoc my god about mil. Can't believe they said stroke then changed it to vertigo. Hope mil is ok ASAP though x
Candy , ssd,biscuits, Sm ( still thinking if you)
And anyone who's been on I've missed. Lots of love to you all xx

Hello T I actually just rang my brother but as I did my sister and her twins turned up there so I will speak to him later when his visitors are gone ! Thanks for your thoughts. Not doing anything today but tomorrow I am going back up the crem, I wasn't going to go as I took flowers on thurs for my sister, but my mum has so many flowers and my sister not so many and her grave looked quite bare so I'm going to take her some more ! Of course tomorrow I will once again go through the day we lost my sister, which at the time was the worst thing ever to happen in our family. She was so young and had a little dd and was expecting another baby, so much to live for but it was all taken away. But she would be very very proud of her daughter who is such a lovely person and so like her mum , in looks and her ways.

Thats a lovely tribute to your sister mummylin, how sad it must have been for you all, but your niece sounds wonderful and hopefully will fill a little of the gap your sister must have left in your lives. And hope your brother is starting to feel a bit better and not so sore.

badvoc, am hoping your MIL is ok, although I know how awful and scary vertigo is, its a real shock when it hits, has she not had that before? Your family has had more than its fair share of bad luck!!

hi t875, nice to see you, hope you and the family and your dad are doing as well as you can x

and for everyone on the thread, old and new xx

hope you are doing okay today lin, we are all thinking of you. im glad your dd daughter is so like her she is a link to your beloved sis.

I am back at the docs tomorro again as the vertigo has still not gone. here's hoping he has some kind of different medication or something

Lots of hugs today Lin x

My niece is not well today so her dh has just bought over two huge bunches of flowers for me to take on her behalf, one for mum ( her nan ) and one for her mum. I will have to find some more vases as all the ones we use are full. Feeling ok at the moment. It's about 5 pm I will start feeling on edge as my sis died between then and 6pm.thankyou everyone for your kind thoughts.
My brothers eye has now returned to feeling normal but he said his head still feels a bit sore, apart from that he is fine.

he sounds very nice and thoughtful, glad she has a good man..hope you get through this evening mummylin xx

sm, sorry you still have the vertigo, thats lasted a while but its the sort of thing that goes when it wants and all you can do is suffer it till its gone, I have the version called labyrinthitis, its awful and you have my sympathy

I couldnt find any more vases so I have made them into decorations with the flowers stuck in oasis. I'm very pleased with them

aww, they are beautiful mummylin, you've done a great job with them!

my mum was a great gardener, she loved her garden and growing things, and I loved squashing the oasis! sadly now of her talents there have been passed onto to me, I'm not a gardener at all.

They are lovely Lin :) you have green fingers obv!
I always apologise to dad when I do his flowers...I always manage to make even the most expensive bouquet look manky :)
It's the all souls service today at church (it's a memorial service for those who have been bereaved) and I am going but at the back of my mind I am dreading it (got quite upset last year) as I have been cleaning all morning!
I always clean when I am anxious or upset (on the plus side this past year my house has never looked cleaner :))

Very glad I didn't go to mass today then badvoc, as last year I went with my dad to remember my godfather who had just died suddenly. It was very upsetting for my dad, they sang amazing grace and we were all in floods.
It's one month today since my dads funeral. Yesterday I went to the grave and removed all the dead flowers left over from the funeral. I still can't feel any connection to the grave. Probably denial.
I can now add swimming pool and sauna to the Places I Have Cried in Public list. Yesterday it was the pub.
I can't see your pictures Lin but I agree how lovely of your nieces husband to bring the flowers round. And to all the vertigo and labyrinthitis sufferers, after a botched op on my ear a few years ago I know these both well, mine also comes and goes, usually with a virus or bug. It's very hard.
X

Its 4 years today since I last saw my mum. She died Dec 2010. I'm forgetting lots of things about her now which kills me . I would never want to be back there again but at least the memories were fresh, now I have to struggle to remember things like our last phone conversation, what I bought her on her last birthday, what she last bought DS1.
I don't want to forget

Hello Nina I am sorry you lost your mum and that you are forgetting some things that you want to remember. Try not to put pressure on yourself to recall everything and maybe when you least expect it things will pop into your memory.

This is something I read on a gravestone whilst I was there today

Don't weep when I am gone
Smile that I have been.

I thought that was lovely.