Support for Anyone Who Has Lost A Parent,Everyone Welcome ( 6 )

[mummylin2495]

I can't believe we are now on another thread, where has all the time gone ?

hi Branston, great to hear from you! I agree with everything you said.

for you too x

Hello Branson tartan socks.

So sorry for your loss of your dad and your mum.

It's so raw and I can't see that changing. I had a lovely day with my friends today, lunch, wine and shopping. I smiled all day and said I was OK as no one wants a sobbing lady in the middle of Debenhams. I came home and the house was a tip, my husband poorly on the sofa and my DD still up and a little cough she had much worse. I've only just settled her and I am so tired, really want to do that cliche of Stop the world, I want to get off. Just for a little while. I want to stay in bed all day. But I can't because DD needs looking after, hubby too ill (he has had actual influenza, not man flu) and I am doing stuff for my mum so have to stay strong but I feel awful. And awful
Is not the right word but what word is the right word?

Thank you all for sharing your experiences so I know I am not alone and you understand too x

Hello branston nice to see you again. It's all so hard isn't it, and dosent the time go past so quickly ?
candy the word is heartbroken.
I had a shock tonight at the party we went to. They had photos on a screen on a loop for the birthday person, and there on the screen was a photo of my mum with the birthday persons mum. It gave me a mighty shock and I could of cried. But I stayed brave and kept the tears at bay. I was lucky I had all my siblings there apart from one who is on holiday. I didn't expect that.

That is hard mummylin. Photos are strange aren't they, in one way it's lovely to see their faces but in another so frustrating it's only two dimensional, not three. And when you're not expecting it as well.
Hope you sleep well x

Hard day. Been at my mums to start clearing the loft, my dad kept all kinds of things in case they were useful one day.
My grandad, my dad's dad, lived with them so now it is just my mum and grandad in the house. However he has just gone to visit other relatives for a while so my mum is on her own in the house for the first time since my dad went.
The house felt so quiet and empty. It was awful leaving her knowing she is on her own.

It's a horrible task to do isn't it Candy. How is your mum coping, will she be ok whilst your grandad is away ? When will he be back. I'm sure it will be helpful to have him in the house with your mum. At least she will have some company.

Hi mummylin. We are very lucky because my grandad is lovely and good company. He'll be back in a couple of weeks, home to see his sister. I think this is the week it will hit her as she has been keeping herself very busy up till now.
I will be keeping a close eye on her this week.

Hubby is unwell, he has been for seven weeks. He has been back to dr today who has given him second lot of antibiotics but if this doesn't work, he's sending him for scans.
Scans mean looking for cancer so I am now worried sick again.

Oh dear *candy what a worry for you both when you yourself already have enough on your plate. Has your DH got his apt already or do you have to wait. Hopefully it will turn out to be nothing to worry about.

Hopefully it will. When you've seen someone get a stomach ache and turns out to be terminal cancer you get a bit warped about health stuff! Yet another side of grief.

happy birthday mum, seems like forever since I got to see your face. of is known two years ago what I do now I never would of left the hospital for the next two weeks, I miss you so much. it breaks my heart that you can't see ds, dnephew, ss and sd grow up they all thought the world of you and watching them trying to make sense of you being gone is so hard. I love you so much, there is not a single day I don't wish things were different .

to everyone on the thread, wish my lovely mum a happy birthday with me if you feel able

Happy birthday to SM,s dear Mum. You are missed greatly by your loving daughter. We, her online friends will be here to help her along.

It's now getting nearer to my two anniversaries. Thurs for my mum and Sunday for my sister, in between that my brother is having a skin cancer removed , horrible few days.

we will be here with you lin, always around to chat. its nice to have this place where we can just say whats on our mind and share any worries

Happy Birthday SM's Mum! I hope you are watching your family raise a toast to you and know you were greatly loved. And a big squeeze to SM x
See you on thurs mummylin x

Amend that to ARE greatly loved as love never dies x

Happy birthday sm's mum. Thinking of you sm. sending you all love ?? xx

Meant to be xx

Happy birthday, sm's mum! She really misses you, but you are in her heart, safe and snug and warm, and always there

and mummylin, am thinking of you too and wishing you some of the strength you have always given to us, hoping you get some of it back

This evening 3 yrs ago was the last time I saw my Mum alive . I cannot believe it. How can it be so long but still seem like last week ? Of course I am now doing as we all do and going over everything once again. I still miss her as much as I did in the early days. I will be going to the crem tomorrow and take flowers for both the graves. I won't go on Sunday which is my sisters anniversary , I will do hers tomorrow as well. I know they will both have lots of flowers tomorrow, for a change not just from me.

Thinking of you tonight mummylin as you think over your memories and time with your mum. I hope you feel comforted at the xrem tomorrow x

Well I have been to the crem , tidied the graves and placed the flowers. I was fine until when I was in the shop buying the flowers I got a text from my dd saying she hoped I wasn't too sad and that she loved me, I felt the tears come into my eyes, but I was determined I wouldn't cry in front of strangers and managed to compose myself , was a horrible few minutes . Then dh took me for breakfast in our local cafe where we met one of my brothers who is going this afternoon. He also was recalling this day and doing exactly the same as me, going through the whole day in his head. This is the brother who is having the op tomorrow. Anyway I am home now, dh gone back to work so I am going to do some housework. I will be glad when it's Monday and all these horrible days have gone. X

Hi mummylin, you got though today and I hope you had a comforting peaceful time at the crem.
I had lunch today with a friend who also lost her dad this year. It's amazing how we were saying the exact same things.
Lots of love mummylin, your Dd sounds lovely x

for you mummylin, how you manage to get through the next few days and you get some comfort from your family all around you. You're relationship with your mum sounds like it was very special, its no wonder you're feeling her loss so much. Isn't it hard when loving someone so much is the price we pay for the pain we feel when we lose them, it almost makes me feel I shouldn't love anyone too much!! but how sad would life be then. I hope you get to Monday and pour yourself a large glass of wine xx

sorry hope not how