Support for Anyone Who Has Lost A Parent,Everyone Welcome ( 6 )

[mummylin2495]

I can't believe we are now on another thread, where has all the time gone ?

thanks mummylin, will watch that.

sometimes knowing you're not mad to be still feeling like this way after the event is a bit reassuring...and I agree about the trauma, I feel like I relive everything constantly and cant move on, but to me this is like post traumatic stress, going over the same thing until you can accept it, if you ever can.

I dont know if theres a local hospice badvoc, to be honest I'd feel bad taking their time , I feel theres people feeling worse out there than me, I just need to move on somehow but I dont know how to. Thanks for suggesting it though x

Hey peeps.

I lost my Dad in 2005, 3 months after ds2 was born and lost my mum in July this year.

My Dads death was unexpected, although I was there for his last hours. My mum was diagnosed with Mnd in 2011 so it was long and drawn out.

Never had a good relationship with my Mum, worse from when I was 17.

Is it wrong that I don't miss her?

no it not wrong caramel, however you feel is right for you, you have your own reasons for how you feel, I don't believe theres a right or a wrong way in all this, we are all different.

I've just watched that on itv player mummylin, the poor woman who was on it. Phil said the advice given to the woman would be available on the website, would you know where it is? I'd really love to read Denise's advice, I think shes lovely.

also, was it just one womans story they talked about?

just watched the other stories, they were very very moving

but I really think they should have shown the help they could give out, there must have been many people watching this who would have benefitted from it

I'll see if I can find it ssd

sorry I've not been about foots been bad and generally not been well had a blood test today so hoping it shows something that they can help with.will try to catch up, how are you all

I found the website but can't find where you go for advice
I just typed in www.itv/ thismorning.com. Maybe you will have better luck.

Hello SM sorry to see your foot still playing you up, seems to be going on a long time dosent it ?

<a class="break-all" href="//€www.itv.com/thismorning/hot-topics/moving-on-with-grief-help-advice-denise-robertson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">maybe something here

Not sure if that link is working but it gives numbers for advice. Will try and find it again

yep, I've got some strange insoles for my shoes now they only came today so hopefully they help me out a bit

mummylin, that link doesn't work for me when i click it, but thanks so much for looking x

super, sorry your not feel x

sorry you're not feeling well x

This is one place they recommend ssd my mum went to them when my sister died. I have c&p the next bit.

The Compassionate Friends

Helpline: 0845 123 2304

tcf.org.uk.

The Compassionate Friends provide one-to-one support, local support groups and produce a range of publications for parents, children, grandparents and professionals, as well as a website specifically for people dealing with the death of a brother or sister.

The Way Foundation

This is from this morning website

link to yesterday's programme about grief

This may help someone

thanks mummylin, thats good of you x

Hello folks, I haven't been here for a while...and I think my username may have changed since I was last on here- I was formerly waterlego.

I hope you are all doing ok, or as ok as can be expected. I'm all right. Ups and downs. It's a year and two months since my dad died, and just coming up to a year since mum died. Have been doing ok, mostly, but feel rather bleak at the moment, and quite afraid of the future.

I will try to read back a few pages and see how you're all getting on- it's good to see some of the familiar names here. Much love to all. x

Hello wading yes I remember your old user name straight away ! It's difficult sometimes when you don't know who your talking to so I'm glad your your old name !
Is it because of the upcoming anniversary you are feeling a bit unsettled do you think ? It s the same for me T the moment but it will be three years, I have already been thinking " three years ago mum was here" in fact on the 17th we went on holiday and came back on the 21st . Little did we know mum would only be here for another 9 days. It breaks my heart to think I haven't seen her for so long, and I'm sure you feel the same about your losses. I don't think I have recovered yet and don't know if I ever will to tell the truth , hope you get through the day with happy memories when it comes, nice to see you again.

I lost my dad two weeks ago. He was 66. He retired last year and was very excited that he would get to spend his new free time with my DD (now 14mths).
And four months after retiring he got a stomach ache which turned out to be advanced bowel cancer.
My dad was someone who threw himself into life wholeheartedly.
Will miss him forever.

hi waterlego, good to see you again, I can understand your bleakness, the anniversary brings it all right back doesnt it, all the lead up and everything just like mummylin is feeling. I'm sorry.

and candykane, I'm very sorry for your loss and the fact your dad died so soon after retiring, so very very unfair. life can be very cruel

Thank you ssd.
Taking things one day at a time.
He died at home so there was lots of hands on caring for him.
The thing I am finding the hardest to deal with is that he was very upset himself about leaving us. He desperately felt he didn't want to go.
I feel that I can handle my own grief but I am so sad at the grief he had for himself. He knew his life was limited from the initial diagnosis 12 months ago and although we spent most of the last year doing nice things, he was consistent is saying he didn't want to leave us. It makes me so sad.

Hello candykane sorry that you have had to post on this thread. How are you coping with the situation? Have you siblings and family to help you through it all. What a terrible shame that your dad didnt get to have his retirement years.i can understand when you say he felt sad and didn't want to leave everyone. But I hope you managed to make lots of happy memories in the past year, they will help you.

Wading/ Waterlego hello!! I've often shouted your name on here to say hi. It's good to see you back. thanks
Lin - good luck for your brother and the friend if family. Very scary. My close friend has found something which If doesn't go she will have to have an investigation. I'm worried about her.
Hope things have calmed down there for you!! Will be thinking of you this month with your mums Remembrance Day coming up.
Ssd - hello hope your feeling a little better now always here for you.
Badvoc thinking of you and your family. How's things?
Candykane so very sorry for you loss. What a massive shock for you I know too well how it feels to lose someone so sudden after losing my mum to a massive stroke although hung on breathing coma state then passing away 6 days after.
It isn't fair your dad just retired
he will always be with you and over time you will see little coincidences and strange things feathers, random coins maybe a tune come on the radio. This won't take over your sadness but they will give you comfort. But really am sorry. Take each day slowly in your stride and surround your self with understanding people.
Here for you if you want to chat/ rant

Biscuits I'll get back to you it's been crazy this week. Lookin forward to meeting again xx

Right best on it's eldests birthday today! 14 where did the time go! 'Sniff'

Thinking of you all xxx