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[mummylin2495]

I can't believe we are now on another thread, where has all the time gone ?

Hello nci it is a sad time when the anniversary of something so heartbreaking comes round again isn't it. It's moments we can never forget, then find our minds go over the whole thing again. I hope that your happier moments can help you to cope with the sad memories of your dear dad. It seems at the time that your whole world has stopped, which of course as time goes by we know this isn't true, but life can never be the same again can it. It will be three years in a few months since I lost my beloved mum, and I now can't remember how it felt to have a "normal " life. I think of her every single day as I am sure most of us on here do the same. Then comes the feeling of disbelief and the questions, what if the hospital had done this or that, could our loved ones of been saved. But we can't change things and all we can do is remember them with love and thanks for the life they gave us. It dosent stop us missing them does it ? At 2-30pm just send your love to your dear dad and tell him you love and miss him.

Sorry not been around much, struggled last week with the mil having her 70th birthday and my mum didnt soo slighly bitter..plus got my youngest doing 11 + in sept doing more in relation to that with her, i cant wait for it to be over!

How is everyone going along,feeling better this week, i can talk about her and think about her easier than last week, although my birthday next week is very hard. x
raining cats and dogs here today!! batten down the hatches for the weekend peeps!!

love and hugs to you all, thinking about you all xx

Hi T I'm ute it bought home to you what you have lost when your mil had her birthday, there are so ,any reminders all th time aren't there. But I'm glad to see that you say you are feeling a bit better now. I went to see the Lion King last night with my dd and gd ,a and I have to say I actually enjoyed that immensely despite having been to the same theatre with my mum a few years ago. It was not in our town we had to travel about 30 miles, but show wa great, if you get the chance o go and see it. It will really lift your spirits .

I'm just in the hour when I had to let my mum go this night two years ago. Horrible feeling all day as we came back from holiday today and it has just built up as the day went on. I think because it was overnight I feel the two days - as she died at 00.10 a.m. on the 9th August. It's something I can't share because I went off to the hospital on my own so the memories are all mine.

I also was very sad to see the mum of a schoolfriend has died - saw it in the local paper this evening. I feel so sad someone else has lost their lovely mum too.

But I did look through mum's photos and photos of my DD which actually made me feel very warm and hopeful. And after saying I have seen no signs I seemed to see white feathers at special mum/daughter moments on holiday this week. I did think they were signs as they were special moments.

Hello and big hugs to everyone on here - this is a special place to just pop along and know everyone here is feeling the same. NCISaddict - I know exactly how feel. I feel I became an orphan at the moment my mum died. She was waiting for me to let her go, and I had to let her go but so wanted her to stay. It doesn't go away - and knowing they should be there at special times makes it so hard.

Hello galaxy , I think as it comes round to the day we lost our loved ones it's often with a feeling of absolute dread, and it turns out that we can cope better than we have feared. It's just so sad, in your head you are saying " this time two years ago I still had my mum " then it gets to the time that we lost them and its a feeling of disbelief. Then it's the thoughts of "what ifs" what if they had tried this and that etc.
but we get through it, there is no choice. But although we miss their physical presence , they are always in our hearts so never will they be gone entirely.
It's nice to see that you had lots of white feathers, I myself have little feathers that I have picked up and take as a sign my mum is around somewhere.
Think of your mum with love and remember the happier times that you spent together. You will be ok.

Thank you Mummylin - your words mean a lot. Actually having got over that time period of last night, I feel so much more positive today. It's the dread and knowing it's the day when I had my mum then didn't. All those emotions seemed to come back yesterday - but I am blessed with a lovely husband and darling daughter.

And all our mums and dads do live on in our hearts.

Your mum will never be gone. Your parents live on through your dear dd who carry their genes. Glad you coped ok.

today is my sons birthday, it is 5.50 in the morning so noone is awake yet but I'm going to light my candle and have a bru with the dogs. my heart hurts that you can't be here today to spend the birthday with the grandson you loved so very much mum . the grandson you saw born at 3 in the morning, I would never of imagined that 5 years later you would be gone,you and dad are the only reason we survived and I will make sure that he remembers you always.missing you as always and wishing things were different x

Hi sm sorry that today is evoking some unhappy memories for you. It's something which we can't avoid sadly. But try and think of the happiness that you and your mum had when your ds was born. Happy birthday to your DS

Hi Mummylin glad to hear you enjoyed the lion king :) I had a friend who saw that and said the same as you must see it i think. Thanks for your support, yeah last week was hard we go through turbulent times dont we and come back through the other side. x

Galaxy - nice to hear you get signs, you just know dont you. I believe I get these when she wants me to know she s there and helping me in ways she can or just hearing me and seeing what we are doing, or that she likes what is happnening around us, not obv the same as talking to her but least its something to keep her close. I dont find the anniversarys easy atal, its 2 years now and my birthday next week will still be very hard without her around, but ill pour her a glass with me and ill watch QVC and i know she will be with me watching it too..now if the tv turned over i might just make a quick entrance through the window!

sm - Happy birthday to your son, hope the day goes the best it can as mummylin says it will be times of sadness but im sure you will have happiness and smiles as we know they would want us to trudge through.

SSd, biscuits, shabs, mouse, and anyone else i might have missed as my brain is fried thinking of you all and sending love and light if needed xx

were right with you SM, sending you strength hun, ask for a sign..
come back and tell us all about it. ((big hugs)) xx

T yes do go if you get the chance, it's fab , I was hooked in the first 5 mins !!!

Good morning girls xx

Well I look a right mess....got a poke (stye or whatever they are called) on my eye - so painful.....also looks like what is an absess above one of my side teeth - I look like elephant man!!!!! So emergency appointment at dentist in an hour and then I have booked in with my GP this afternoon....feel really ill but thats about it - cant put a name to the 'illness' - other than grieving for my Dad!

Sat here petrified of the dentist....my 6 year old Grandson just said (exactly what I was thinking and with the honesty of a child) 'Thats how Pop (my Dad) first started being poorly wasn't it Andma? I hope you dont get very poorly and die - I miss my Pop so much xx'

I know it is just an absess but having to have a tooth out was how Dad found out he had oral cancer.

Oh poor you shabbs. Must be very painful. Maybe your body is run done so you are gullible to pick up infections. Good luck at dentist, hope they soon sort you out.

They just ripped the tooth out arrrrrrggggghhhhhh thought it was painful before but its very swollen now!! xx

Oh my god. I thought they usually gave anti- biotics first when there is an abscess present. You poor thing, hope you have a stock of painkillers

hope you feel better shabs I ended up in hospital with an abscess really ill, worst pain ever. take it as easy as possible.

things are shit here everything possible is going wrong!

What's wrong SM ? Anything I can help with ?

My mum died on Sunday. My husband died in March. I am reeling with grief and shock. My mum was 79 my dh was 44. Feel numb x

so sorry you are having to join us here leaking, must be very hard to lose two people you loved so dearly in a short space of time. we are always around to chat on here. take care of you x

Hello leaking my what an awful time you are having. You must be reeling from grief and shock.i am so sorry for your losses. Do you have close family to help you through this and also good friends ? It is so new to you and you were probably still so sad about your dh and now the loss of your dear mum. It's almost too much for one person to cope with isnt it. We all understand on this thread and as SM said , we are always here to chat and support you.
Any time you need a shoulder we will do our best to help you, in the meantime, do look after yourself, you still need to eat, sleep etc. take care.

Strange weather here today, will have to dodge the raindrops in a minute as I am going to crem to do my mums and sisters graves. Dh has come home early from work with all the flowers for both ! Isn't that good of him.hope you are all doing ok

Have seen this thread a few times in active convo's and knew that I would need it one day, just didn't think it would be just yet.

My lovely dad died on 25th July and we buried him last Tuesday. I'm back in work now and it's so hard to believe that everything keeps on going just as if nothing has happened. He was 76, and although he wasn't in the best of health, it was still a shock that it happened so quickly. He had a massive stoke in January 2012 which left him unable to do much, and he had been in a nursing home since then.

More recently he had been in and out of hospital with varying infections, and was in hospital when he died. We didn't get there in time and although he wasn't alone, he didn't have his family with him which makes me so sad. I'll have to go now...I'm posting in work, and am starting to cry I will be back tomorrow.

Hugs to everyone, I haven't read the whole thread yet as I kept getting upset so had to stop.

So sorry to see the new posters here x I am very sorry for your losses x
It is a year today since dad's funeral.
Have had a quiet DVD day with the boys.
We are off on holiday on Friday with mum.
Love to all x

badvoc so glad that you are going on your holiday. You deserve it after the horrible time you have gone through with all the various things going wrong. It dosent seem like a year does it since you lst your dear dad so unexpectedly.
wheresmy so sorry for your loss. Yes it's all very strange when the world just goes about their business as if nothing has happened. I know I wanted to scream " don't you know my mum just died " no- one was with my mum either because she wasnt expected to die. I hate to think of her without any of us there to hold her hand
I think that at first there is a feeling of disbelief that someone so close has died and this lasts quite a while, you wonder how the sun still shines and others can laugh and joke.
There is a whole mixture of feelings to face and its a very tough time in your life to get through. But we have no choice but carry on, even though we are in despair. I hope you have lots of support in RL, and we will be here for you too.