Our special thread where we can be who we are. A thread to remember our children who are no longer physically here. Our 'safe haven.'

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United we stand.....divided we fall. My love to all of you - a place to remember our precious children and to help each other walking this 'crappy path.'

Sending hugs aziraphale on Charlie's birthday xx

Sending love on Charlies 3rd birthday.....my vanilla Yankee candle is burning brightly for all of us xxxx

Love for Charlie's birthday. xxx

Hi everybody.

Have you ever had anybody say "I understand how you feel, my dog died last year?" I was speechless (luckily). Unbe-fucking-lieveable.

OMG Lily how ignorant! I've not had anyone say anything like that luckily or i'd probably be up for an assault charge.

Have heard so many stupid phrases like that...........my favourite was a friend who was distraught about her budgie dying kept telling me she had a good idea how I felt about my sons because the budgie was like her child. oooooook then!!!

Sorry ladies, need to vent. I've been told that someone i know who i decided i didn't want to tell about my test results following Ben's death has been going and asking other people if they know the results, and then when i confronted them i've been blatantly lied to. I'm just so angry atm xx

How dreadful for your kayleigh. I would be furious that somebody was so intrusive and nosey. Tell them to mind their own bloody business.

Have some (I did). xx

I think i'm more annoyed that the person in question is a compulsive liar- i've caught her out on more than one occasion- but to lie to me about something so sensitive appalls me tbh. But we live and learn i suppose. Thanks Lily xx

Morning girls xx

Morning.

Triumph - I always find that the 'build up' to the day is much harder than the actual day. Its so wrong - no parent should outlive their child/children xxxx Thinking about you and your family xxx

Thinking of you Triumph, I hope today and the next few days are kind for you and full of wonderful memories. Xx

Thinking of you and your family Triumph and hoping the next few days are gentle xx

Thinking of you triumph.

Thinking of you Triumph and sending hugs. I'm building up to my DS's first anniversary too. Dreading it. XXX

Morning girls xx

Hi ladies, hope you're all doing ok. xxx

Good day and bad day. Pippas PM report finally came back, a massive strep A infection led to pneumonia and blood poisoning. We can now register her death as no inquest is needed, which is a relief, but it brings memories of that dreadful night and morning 14 weeks ago flooding back.

Sending strength Cathpip xx

hi all, I used to go on this thread a while back . lovely to see the familiar shabs you helped me alot.
my daughter died in 2005 aged 13 days, SIDS, cotdeath. have read some of the recent threads and csn emphasise so much, what could of been. ..
Had a pretty tough couple of years, breakdown due to regressed depression, never grieved properly.long story, but coming out the other end now.
love and hugs to all those that share this thread, so sorry you're here, nobody deserves to be x

Morning girls - everybody OK? xx

Hi everybody. Hope you're all ok.

cathpip - just sending you love and strength.

I am horrified that somebody has felt the need to post something that MNHQ needed to delete. WHF? Some people!

I'm ok and have just been muddling along and keeping very busy. I had a complete meltdown for several days a couple of weeks ago and strangely I felt a bit better and stronger afterwards. I have still been missing my boy as much as ever but have been dealing with it a bit better. Maybe the fact that I've been avoiding an idiot who drags me down is helping.

I'm building up and waiting for the 10th which will be his first anniversary. All the ifs and buts and maybes. I do miss him. He should be here. My husband and our other two boys will be with us and I'm hoping we'll just go to the beach for the day and do something nice.

Sending love to you all.