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TERRIBLE NEWS FROM YORKIEGIRL

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tillykins · 10/08/2006 03:25

Yorkiegirl has phoned me from holiday in Portugal; her husband Nigel has collapsed and died tonight.
She thinks it was a stroke or heart attack.
The authorities are trying to get hold of her parents - they are also in Portugal
Fortunately, neither of her DDs saw anything
I don't know much more than that but will post if I have anything else

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Imafairy · 15/08/2006 09:12

YG - hope you managed to get some sleep last night, and that you and the girls aren't too bad this morning.

Hope you get some news from the undertakers today.

babywhiting · 15/08/2006 09:44

have only just read this post...i'm sending you YG my love and lots of sympathy. my thoughts are with you and your family!!!!
love Louisa xx

MiloMummy · 15/08/2006 11:06

I don't know you Anna but I wanted to add my name to the long list of people who are thinking of you. I just can't imagine what you and your girls must be going through. But I think it's a good thing for you all to grieve together. I know it's not the same but when I lost my Mum I had to ask my DH if he had cried because he wouldn't do it infront of me (they were very close) I wished we could have cried together. I think it's healthy for your girls to see you are all grieving. Take care, my dear x

Blu · 15/08/2006 11:11

YG, so sorry you are having problems geting your DH home. Practical hassle is the last thing you need, I'm sure.
Unfortunately i guess there may be ongoing problems with flights after Friday...lots of backlog etc.
Really sorry.

jamsambam · 15/08/2006 11:39

yorkiegirl-
i hope all is going well, i know the first night after my dad died ( in an almost identical way) was very hard, i kept waking up to check on the boys so i was exhausted by the next morning. dont feel bad a bout going to bed early and being up in the night if you want to, take some time to get a new routine.
i found it very hard to go out as we live in small village and everyone knew, so i was made to take the kids to the shop to buy biscuits just to get me through that first time, im grateful now but at the time it wa sthe hardest thing i had ever done, all for biscuits!
anyway, all my love, i wont kid you, it will be hard, but keep looking ahead.
jamsambam

Janus · 15/08/2006 11:49

YG, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. You have been so very brave, I am sure Nigel would be very proud of you. Hope you can get through these painful times. xx

clumsymum · 15/08/2006 11:57

Anna,

I can't imagine how you must feel, I'm so so sorry for you.

Can someone else deal with the practical difficulties for you. Maybe the insurance company, or Nigel's employers, someone for whom it won't cause such emotional turmoil, and let you know when it's all sorted out. Battling on the phone must be soooo hard for you now.

I can't think of anything that might help you, but if I can do anything then just contact me on MSN (I know I haven't been on for a while, but I'll keep an eye out for you).

With all our love

Angela and Christopher in Nottingham

puff · 15/08/2006 12:04

Good idea clumsymum, if there are people who could take some of the strain of the arrangements Yorkie, it might help a little.

teabelly · 15/08/2006 13:27

YG, I have just seen this. So so sorry to hear this news. In the last week or so a couple of things have happened that have made me wail 'why me' but it's not until something like this is brought to your attention that you realise just what is important, and what's not. I'm so glad that I belong to a community where in real bad times so much support is there. Your family is in our prayers, x

Highlander · 15/08/2006 14:21

awful news. Don't know which part of the world you are in, but if there's anything I can do to help, let me know (I'm in Newcastle). Glad to see the collection is healthy folks.

Marina · 15/08/2006 14:28

Was Nigel in a union at work YG? Our rep is brilliant at helping families in difficult times. XXX

SparklyGothKat · 15/08/2006 14:35

Dear Yorkiegirl,I only got my internet back on today and I am so sorry to hear this news. Misdee told me what happened on saturday. My thoughts and love are with you. My MSN isn't working atm but you know where I am. xxxxx

Tatties · 15/08/2006 14:42

Really sorry to hear this terrible news

mumtochloe · 15/08/2006 15:22

Yorkiegirl - I know we don't know each other but I am so so sorry for what has happenned. You are being so very brave and my thoughts are with you and your DD's.

Rhubarb · 15/08/2006 16:02

Just seen this and I am so so very sorry. This is absolutely awful. Please pass on my condolences and I wish there was something I could do.

dizzy34 · 15/08/2006 17:14

We havent talked on here before but i just wanted to let you know that my thoghts and prayers are with you and your children at this sad time

xx

Bubblyboo · 15/08/2006 17:52

I've only just heard... so terrible. Anna, you & your family are in my thoughts & prayers. (melly68) xx

lilmamma · 15/08/2006 18:35

such sad news,so sorry for your loss x x

2ndtime · 15/08/2006 19:26

Is there anyone who you can allocate the task of dealing with the authorities? A close friend or family member to get shirty on your behalf? You don't need this now.

My DD slept with me for 3 years after her Daddy died. It was what we both needed.

I hope you are finding comfort being back home.

Love and peace to you all.XX

chocolatequeen · 15/08/2006 20:20

I'm on holiday at the moment, have only just checked in. Wanted to add my condolences to you and your family, I hope that all is as well as can be expected, and that you have lots of support. I will be thinking and praying for you all.

On a practical note, I live in Portugal, near Lisbon, so if I can be of any help at all, please please CAT me and let me know. I will be back there on Friday, will do anything that I can to help you.

I hope you get some rest.

xx

dizzydo · 15/08/2006 21:33

Anna, I dont know you in real life but feel so deeply for what has happened to you. Please accept my condolenses. You and your family are in my thoughts. You sound like a very caring loving mum and your DD's eventually will get through this with you to look after them. Take time for yourself too and don't be afraid to cry. God bless.

loobylooby · 15/08/2006 21:38

YG, I am not a regular poster on MN and I don't really know you, but hearing what has happened is absolutely shocking - it puts all the niggly moans and worries that most of us into a real perspective. My thoughts and feelings are with you and the girls, it must be really difficult and I agree with others, it is cathartic and healing to cry - so go for it. Terrible cliche I know but time is a great healer and one day you will be able to think about Nigel with love and sadness but not the terrible pain that you must be feeling now. Make sure that you look after yourself well and give your lovely girls the biggest hugs - I reckon that all tucking up together might be just what you all need right now.

nicm · 15/08/2006 22:04

so sorry yorkie girl, thinking of you and your babies. xx

SparklyGothKat · 16/08/2006 00:52

YG just wanted to let you know that my MSN is now working and if you ever need a chat, you know where I am xxxxxxxxxx

fussymummy · 16/08/2006 01:47

Yorkiegirl I don't know you, but i couldn't not tell you how sad i feel for you at this awful time.
I've pondered over what to write for ages, but nothing seems right.
Things won't feel right for you and your children for a long time.
Hearing your sad news brings back all the memories of when i lost my darling baby.

I don't know if you have a W H SMITHS near you, but they do books to help explain death to children and to help with bereavement.

Maybe you have a family member or friend who could get you a copy.

If not, then i'll get one and send it to you if you want one.

Please take time out to grieve for yourself and don't think you have to stay strong for everyone else.

Big hugs. xxxx