Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent ( 5 )

[mummylin2495]

Here we are , our new home

Have you asked DP if there is anything bothering him. Maybe you both need to have a chat together and see if you can sort things out. Makes life miserable when it all seems to go pear shaped dosent it.

I would be fuming too! I've had the whole take me for granted thing. Do you know what I would have done,, bare bloody essentials and left the rest! I've got to that stage amd he knows that I'm not going to be relied ion for everything.

Lina right you guys need a night out or date night. Have time together to talk this out. Rota too so the kids help. We have a rota and pocket money will be geopardised if they don't help xx

just so much going on with work and things at home suppose we are both pretty fed up. things okay today I not feeling too good though lack of sleep!

sm, sometimes you could just bash everyone's heads together, couldn't you!! I feel like that a lot, and I just go quiet when it all annoys me too much...!

littlepink, I really believe in signs, I've had so much since mum died, when my dad died I had no signs...but I still had mum then and maybe didn't need them, now they are both gone I'm desperate for signs I haven't lost them completely! with me its birds, every sign has to do with birds, its amazing, though there have been other things, which meant everything to me but would mean nothing to anyone else. I seen the little robin again yesterday, my neighbour was out the back talking about a boy my sons age and his grandparents who are so good to him and as usual I had the familiar punch in the gut feeling I always get when hearing of others families and knowing mine is gone, when a robin landed on the shed in front of me and started right at me as I was talking, then just flew away. I felt it was mum and dad saying "we're still here darling, you're not left alone".
such a comfort and much needed.

I had a similar feeling after my dad's funeral :)

I'm not looking forward to tomorrow. My dad was a handsome man and would have relished a picture for Facebook!

Can I just sleep through tomorrow, please? Don't want to do yet another "first" - I've no one to send a Father's Day card to now, what with not knowing my dad, and only having my granddad :(

To all of you who are fearing what tomorrow will bring, yes you will feel sad and will be thinking of happier times, but you will get through it, I promise you

Very true Mummylin. xxxx

Very true mummylin.

I know how hard Mother's Day is without my mum. I do the special things that used to be special to us and I like to think she is around but of course I miss the physical side of her crazily.

I will be thinking if you all. Sending you all hugs xx

Morning girls.

Glad I have my grandson here to stop me being miserable today. He stayed overnight so we have been awake for hours and hours. 6 years old and a head full of ginger curls! Miss you Dad - forever and a day xxxxx

I remember the words I wrote in the card last year for my dad and it hurts to think that that was the last fathers days card I would write and didn't know it at the time.

Thinking of everyone on this difficult day x x

I hope you all managed to get through yesterday ok and maybe even had a little smile at something that amused you and your dad when he was here.

Hi everyone, sent to crem this eve to do the flowers and the place was awash with baby squirrels everywhere ! They were actually on people's graves just munching away on all carnation type flowers. That's why I don't take those anymore, we used to find a little heap of all the flower heads on the ground ! Hope you are all doing ok and not suffering too much footi with your other halves ( I'm fed up with it already ) dh even bought me an England top which I haven't worn yet, will have to on thurs cause it may be the last chance !
SM hope things have improved for you at home

things good, am trying to just remember to give myself a bit of time I am always the one that fixes and sorts everything and I don't think it's doing anyone any favours. went shopping with ds yesterday and took him for some food was nice to just spend some time with him. hows things

Hello everyone, hope that everyone who is struggling is coping with it. It does get better eventually I promise.
Hi to all the regulars on this thread

Two phone calls from the nursing home already tonight....they ring and let Mam talk to me. She has been crying and saying she thinks her Dad has died. I cannot say to her that its been about 45 years since he died so I just said I wasn't sure and I would try and find out for her. Poor Mam.....she just kept saying 'I cant find my Daddy.'

She also doesn't want to be in the nursing home with all those very old people - she is 80!!! Has made me promise that I will go up 'first thing' in the morning, as soon as they have finished breakfast.

My heart goes out to her so much. She told me tonight that if her Daddy has died (she means my Dad - I think) she wants to be with him - and soon xx

Oh shabbs that is so sad for your mum. It's heartbreaking isn't it.

Its truly a dreadful, unforgiving illness. Found out recently that my Aunt (Mums sister) who is 6 years younger than Mam also has it she has just had her diagnosis and, at the moment, you cannot tell she has it. It also makes me terrified for myself! Every female down Mams side has had it - except for my Gran (Mums mum) who lived till just before her 90th birthday and it says that her cause of death was old age, on her death certificate.

Physically she is 100 per cent better since she went in the nursing home but her Alzheimers is worse. I am at a loss as to how to help her - so I have been teaching her how to say hello, goodbye in Greek and also how to proper swear and curse in Greek I dont know a lot of words but she is loving learning them. She told the Turkish carer (her favourite) a fantastic Greek swear word. The carer threw her head back and laughed till she cried....she said to my Mam 'Ahhhhhhh you naughty lady, I too can speak Greek!!!'

She told the same carer that we go to Crackerfacky in Rhodes for our holidays - she meant Faliraki but that name fits the 'old Faliraki' (in the 18-30 days) much better.

That's a bit scary for you shabbs, are there any tests they can do to see if you are likely to of inherited this ?
Hope everyone is enjoying this spell,of warm weather, but I have to admit its too hot for me ! Thinking of you all .

its too warm for me too mummlyin, I dont like the sun and it doesnt like me!!

how is everyone, am thinking of you all xx

It's far too hot for me ssd. I don't like the sun being on my head, it makes me feel sick. I also don't like going down roads with lots f trees where the sun flickers through, that gives me a headache and again makes me feel sick. But it looks so nice outside. When we have been on holiday to Spain or something I always have to find a palm tree to sit under ! Will be ok as the day goes on and it cools down , but until then I will stay in !

me too!1

and we are going to Spain in a week, dh says its 100 degrees there, am bloody dreading the heat!!!

Sun hat essential to keeps in off head and neck, dark sunglasses to knock out the glare and head to the nearest palm tree !! It was once so hot there I didn't go out all day , it was unbearable, and was freak heat even for Spain. You will be ok as long as you take precautions. Also try And take a couple of the little hand held fans. Are you excited to be going ? I love Spain.which part are you going. Mainland or one of the Islands ?

It's not the same type of heat as here ssd the worst time is between noon and 4pm. That's why a lot of workmen stop work at lunchtime for their siesta then return when it's cooled down , some shops close the reopen later as well. You actually will probably love it and I'm sure it will do you good. Not too long a flight either ( I don't like flying ) can I come too ? !!!!'

I'd love you to come!!

we're going to south of Barcelona, dh and the dc's want to see the nou camp (yawn) and we'll go to a waterpark

I'm looking forward to a change of scene but not the weather, I'd rather go somewhere cold! I've never been to Spain before!

are you going on holiday this year, this is our first time taking the dc's away for a week abroad! and eldest is 16