Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent ( 5 )

[mummylin2495]

Here we are , our new home

Your not useless, it's just that you have a lot on your mind at the moment.

You are not useless!

Have been sent this song on facebook.

Its so beautiful and the video is amazing. Although it shows the loss of a child thats how I feel, right now, about my Dad - he faded away - if that makes any sense.

That is a lovely song shabs and very much reminded me of my mum with all the knitting wool. When she died I brought all her treasured wool home and I have boxes of it. My friend takes some home and knits little cardigans with it to sell at a children's hospice shop. My mum was a prolific knitter and wool was one of her passions. Thankyou

Hope everyone has had a good day today, thinking of you all

Hugs to everybody.

We get my dad's body back today. Just thinking about it makes me want to cry

Have a good cry mytwo better than letting it all build up inside you. Even your sentence sounds so sad.i think crying in the first few weeks are very normal, but eventually you will have longer between bouts of tears.

Mytwo....so sorry. It's a very very tough time you are going through. The day dad was brought to the chapel of rest was very upsetting. My poor sister hadn't seen him as she was abroad when he died. I will never forget the noise she made :(
Don't hold it in. Cry, wail, shout if you want. Let it out.
I couldn't at the time (lots of reasons, mostly circumstances) and I am struggling with that now.
I have my first appt at the counsellor! June 3rd....

Glad to see you have your apt through badvoc.i hope it will be beneficial to you. How many sessions will you have ?
Very muggy here again today, but at least not raining .

Because I have self referred I basically get as many as I need. With a gp you only get 6 sessions.
The weather here is glorious, but as you say it's muggy. Headache weather.
Ds2 (5) is staying after school for he first time at a film night
Hope he will be ok.
Ds1 off to see paed tomorrow...will probably be discharged!

Good to know that you are not limited to how many sessions you can have. I hope it helps you. How is your mum now ? Do you think she is being difficult because she is still grieving for your dad ? Would it help her to see a counsellor too ?

She has her first appt next week Lin.
I hope it helps her.

Having trouble posting on MN at the moment. Pages won't load, but just to say I am thinking of you all. Hope you all have a good weekend

same here, cant get on the app at all but if anyone wants to chat I can get on the main site so send me a pm :) hope your all doing okay

Thought I would just try the mobile site and see if that's any better. smare your pages wrong too ? I can't even scroll and when I do get the thread. It is taking ages to load the page.
I don't knw if the rest of you are experiencing posting problems, but I hope it's fixed soon, as others may need to post on this thread.
Thinking of everyone, hope things are ok for you all.badvocglad your mum is going to be seeing someone very soon, she has had a bad year too.

The site seems to be a little better tonight, but not quite right on my iPad yet. How are you all doing ?

hi mummylin! sorry I havent been on a while, am a bit up and down..trying to keep busy if I can. how are you doing? x

Hi ssd all doing ok here, maybe things are finally getting better, but the sadness will always remain . I will . Like you ,remain broken hearted forever, but know that we can't change things and we need to start getting pleasure from our lives, even though we are still so sad. I still get the days when I can't believe it even after all this time. It's a horrible thing to go through isnt it. Take care of yourself. Chat soon .

Hi everyone.

Just jumping in quick didnt want to desert you guys.

Anyone who is grieving heavy I'm sending you support and hugs and we are here for you and to everyone else thinking of you where ever you may be in this turbulent path at times

June is always very busy - bros bday my dads 70! God that going to be hard with out my mum!
Youngests birthday
Our anniversary
Too expensive!!
Sending get well wishes to all who are not well
I'm not doing too bad. My dads just been through a struggle which has bed. Hard but I'm there. My jobs going good, busy but good.
Went to chessington last weekend expensive but fantastic! My youngest and the 12 year old and hubby went in the vampire!! Nooo way! I went on the scorpion express though!
Best sign off. Huge hugs everyone and hope your all gog along the best you can xx

Where is everyone?
Small story here for you all. And very random. Might give some comfort to some of you.
If you've heard of oennies from heaven
I get random 1 p pieces often turn up in odd places.
Well today I was going through my mums stuff and I'm struggling a fair bit with my dads 70th round the corner.

Anyways went into the cupboard and took out done photo albums I got from her put them on the table took one off them other ( they were in a pile) and there on one if the photo albums wS a 1p piece! And even more spooky the year on the coin was 2004 and that is my youngest birth year. Think someone was saying happy birthday to her. Blew me away!!! How the hell did it get in there.

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Hello "t" I almost gave up on the site ths week as everything was going wrong !! Seems to be ok at the minute. .how strange you found that 1p ! I think I havea stomach bug or something, not felt quite right the last couple of days.hope you are gong along ok and that your job is going ok

I'm back because the app is working . couldn't use the mobile site too much fuss. how is everyone

We had my dad's funeral on Thursday. I just don't know how I feel - I thought I was okay but today I have fallen apart a few times. I keep feeling angry which I know is a normal part of grief but it frightens me, I'm normally Miss laid back limited!

I miss him, although I'm taking comfort in the fact I DO have a faith and I DO believe he's with my mum now, I just miss him so much

That is such a horrible part of grief mytwo the missing of the person we have lost. It's hard to take in that we can never see the physical person again, its really heartbreaking. It does gradually get a bit better, but nt for awhile. I hope your parents are together, it's a lovely way to think of them

I said aloud last night "I miss you" and I "felt", rather than heard, them say they missed me too.

I just hope they are proud of me