Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent (4)

[mummylin2495]

Here is our new home hope it's as comfy as the last one

i only commented once, just keep reading it in my threads im on list. might hide it. is depressing . to me if i really didnt want to spend christmas with someone i just wouldnt. noone knows when their time is up why spend it doing something you hate

I am quite fussy in what I eat but tried different stuff, and was all lovely ! Will go and find thread

oh that thread would wind me up too, will make sure I dont read it!!

when will you get the results t875? fingers crossed everythings fine xx

I am just missing my Mum so much today. I am starting to worry about Christmas and how we will cope without her and I just wish she was here to give me a cuddle.

This is harder than I thought it would be.

Soooo...ds2 had got raging diahorrea now :(
Any tips to stop me getting it? Don't really need that post surgery!
He won't be back at school this week...

FriendofDorothy last year was our first Christmas without Mum and the day went ok really. We changed things about a little bit and didn't do things that we would normally all do together. I had a little cry at the dinner table when I remembered how much she loved having her Christmas meal served up to her without having to prepare it for herself (I'm having another little cry now just thinking about it) and then I couldn't really eat it but otherwise a peaceful day. Little ds was so excited and we just spent the day pleasing him. I'm finding it easier now to find solace in the happy memories.

(((((Hugs for you today)))))

Badvoc what bad luck! Mega mega hand washing with antibacterial soap, wipe door handles, toilet and flush, banister rails etc with antibacterial wipes (I know they don't work for everything but I think it helps). Keep his towels separate and hot wash daily.

Ds2 and I have just had a horrible bug (weekend before last). So horrible I almost kept ds3 off school on the Monday incase he was incubating it but I felt so unwell I succumbed and sent him. He didn't get it and I'm sure our "over the top" hygiene helped.

Thanks jinty.
Dh away with work - of course - and now this.

Poor ds...he has got really bad runs (sorry bit tmi)
So it's inky a matter if time isn't it, really? Til we all succumb...sigh.
So desperate to see my aunt but now fearful of me incubating this bloody bug!

FOD it really is hard in between the sadness and still the shock and the void we did have some good times over last Christmas we done special things in her memory but it was still very hard and missed her loads. It's a bit easier this year but still hits me though at times did last night when I thought about something. Thinking of you. Here If u need us x

Jinty - I know what you mean at the dinner table tough doing the toast to her. I had some bits of hers I had from the home and put in our table, we had plenty of squirty cream on our cheese cake she loved it! I passed an imaginary plate of food to her I put a cracker on her shelf.

I can't think too deeply though as it kills me big time. Miss her loads but like you I remember her with nice memories and keep her close to us

(( hugs)) to you all
Badvoc - love your name!

Thanks T x
Sooo...mum went to the gp this morning and she ordered some bloods.
Called mum @4pm to go down to the surgery and have a warfarin jab and she has to go to hospital tomorrow :(
Ds still ill, hoping the rest of us don't get it. Dh away with work til 9pm tomorrow.
I feel overwhelmed today.
Utterly.

Badvoc have an early night - tomorrow is another day and hopefully it will be better. Hope your little ds will be feeling better tomorrow.

Am in bed with ds2 jinty. Just need to be careful he doesn't kick me in his sleep! I don't want bust stitches!
God, I'm so bloody sick of it all.

hope things improve badvoc it has been one Thing after another for you and you certainly deserve a rest. how is everyone. I am at a funeral tomorrow my lovely old next door but one neighbour from the square I lived in with mum. knew her since I was a child. hope it's a beautiful service she deserves it. I am fretful tonight could do with some advice of anyone is about to pm pretty please

hope so to badvoc. can you build a sort of pillow barrier to protect you from rogue feet

That's what I was thinking SM!
Sorry you have to go to a funeral tomorrow and that you are feeling fretful...is it tomorrow or something else?
I am feeling very hostile towards dh ATM. Didn't even want to speak to him on the phones earlier. He just asks stupid questions and makes my blood boil.
He has gone away with work - which I am sure could have been postponed til next week - when I have just had major abdo surgery and knowing ds2 was ill.
He thinks if he arranges for my mum and pils to be around everything's fine. Well, it isn't. Mil is busy tomorrow, my mum is at hospital and I will be here alone 5 days after surgery with a very poorly 5 year old.
He genuinely won't understand why I am upset and angry.
Survey he could have asked for it to be postponed? Or Aibu?

i dont think you are being U, it is not as though you have a cold and are insisting you need him back it is very important that you rest. If the trip could of been postponed or cut short i think it should of. I do think our dps get the full brunt of the upset sometimes but in this case i would expect him to do some juggling. get started on that pillow barrier!

Not so much fretful for the funeral although it will be very sad more something at home, kids never get a minute that one of them isnt worrying us daft!

I hear you!
If it's not the work it's the worry with dc.

Yep, once one of them seems to be bouncing back from something there is something else going on! how are you all feeling now is ds okay or very upset

Very true :(
He is asleep but not sure how long for. He seems ok in himself, just lots of watery diahorea :(
Trouble is he wants me when he is ill and no one else will do.
So I am now on 3 weeks of hardly any sleep, not much food and feeling grim. My patience is wearing very thin.mon the plus side I am now under 9 and a half stone which I haven't been since before I got pg with ds2!
Just hope ds1 doesn't get it - at least til dh is home!

lots of handwashing and ill send some good vibes that noone else gets ill!

Oh badvoc whatever else s going to come your way. I can't believe how much awful stuff has come along for you, one thing after another. Hope your mum will be ok. My dh was quite similar when I had hysterectomy, he went back to work the day after I came home and left me to it when I was doubled up and no- one else to look after me. And he also could f stayed home as he s self employed ! So your not alone in that. But when e had his op I did everything for him for 6 bloody weeks ! They make you sick sometimes and can be utterly selfish . Hope your ds soon improves and that you don't catch the bug

Supermario have pm,d you