Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent (4)

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Here is our new home hope it's as comfy as the last one

T - thank you x
Hope you are feeling better this morning SM?
T - mice!? Eww.

Ah yes phew looks like a bird!! I nearly hyper ventilated thinking it could come out the loft with any random hole incase it got down from loft onto the level below!
I'm not - thinking of you today lots of love and support
Badvoc - hope today is a little better. Your not on your own Hun.
Ssd - thanks my lovely, love to you back too. Yeah not too bad ATM last week was a bit rocky though Like you creeps up on us and wacks us in the face.
Lin - how's your back? Hope it's starting to feel better!
Love to all. Biscuits, shall we, waterlego, crazy cat, mouse, fod, and anyone I've missed xx

hi all, hope the day goes okay for you imnot. eww to the mice we had that and it proper freaked me out! how is everyone and the various people we are looking after? ds has gone to school okay today but is off his beloved game console tonight for behaviour so will see how tonight goes. thanks for hearing me out all of you

SM...I do find ds2 (5) can be very argumentative if he has too much iPad time in the evening. I limit it, but dh doesn't and it drives me mad!
I am so grateful for all of you on this thread but - right now - I do feel alone.
Totally.
I am trying to be there for my mum, my siblings, my aunt and now Dhs aunt has phoned me in tears (she has had a health scare and is not the type to deal with it well)...and try and keep family life going too.
I have a friend coming to see me @ 2 and it always helps to talk to her...
Life can be really crappy sometimes, can't it?
:(

Seems to be ongoing for you badvoc I bet you wonder when it will end and you can have a decent life again !
Why does trouble seem to come in a little block ? Oh well that seems to be our lives at the moment. Never rains but it pours eh ! One day the sunshine will come for all of us

you sound so lovely badvoc always trying do your upmost for everyone but don't run yourself ragged, you deserve some time to process everything too even if it's just a bubbly bath or a magazine in peace. we are always here to talk too, or even post letters if that will brighten your day .

The sun is shining at least :)
Just had a letter from the hospital...yet another appt for an endoscopy! Think I should take the hint and just get it done, eh? :(

Thank you shallwe and ssd it's such a strange feeling to have lost both parents isn't it?
ssd that is so sad that you wake in the early hours huge, huge {hugs} to you xx

imnotcute really thinking of you today and sending you strength xx

t thanks for the hand holding, hope you're ok, nice to see the sun again today.

super hope your internet is sorted soon, I find it's a great escape sometimes just browsing but must be really frustrating if you use it for work as well. Hope your little lad will be a bit better for you tonight.

Hi to everyone else, mummylin, mouse, badvoc and anyone I've missed xx

Hi biscuits

I must have missed this. Why are you needing an endoscopy Hun? X

The drs think that all the pain meds I have been taking prior to op and after have caused gastritis and a stomach ulcer.
Have decided to man up and have it done.
Feel very wobbly about it though...now pathetic is that?
Appt on Friday @ 2.15.

ooh good luck for it badvoc! I would be nervous too, i would hate that!!

apparently they do a very good job with making you comfortable with it, hope it goes ok, let us know xx

I will T.
My dad had one without sedation...I am not that brave!

Hi all, just a quick thank you to everyone for thinking of me today, on the day of mum's funeral.

I was absolutely dreading it but it was not as bad as I feared. The service was spot on and it was a cold but beautiful sunny day here. There were tears but those of you who said it would be comforting to see all the other people who loved her were right. Dad struggled at points but has generally coped pretty well. He was dreading it so much that it is a relief it is over and went well.

I'm exhausted now by it all and still missing her very much but feeling a little calmer. Thanks again for your support x

Hello imnot.
Your feelings echo mine after dads funeral. I was dreading it. I just wanted it to be over.
But on the day, the service was very comforting. It was so touching to see the church so full and to see how many people loved dad.
What a beautiful day you had to say goodbye to your dear mum.
Glad you are feeling calmer.
We all walk beside you x

Hi imnotcute so glad for you it wasnt as bad as you feared and that the service went as you wished it to. It's very weird how we dread the day and then find its not so bad as we feared mercifully. Take some time for yourself now.

?hispers to all on here ( boots ) tomorrow !!!!

I'm - I am thinking of you today, how ironic that today is my Birthday and today you have had our darling Mum's funeral.

I'm so sorry xxx

Badvoc - an endoscopy is not pleasant and it will make you squirm at best! Listen to the nursing staff and follow their queues. I've had many and colonoscopies - again, fearsome procedures.

Good luck sweets xxx

I'm - I am glad today went ok and is nearly over for you. It's weird isn't it that a day so dreaded can actually turn out to be

God - I'm always pressing wrong button on phone!

Turn out to be, almost enjoyable in parts. I did enjoy m

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So sorry - my fat fingers. I enjoyed moments of the funerals tho I did keep turning round expecting to see my mum/dad standing there chatting to relatives.

May I join please? I lost my granddad in September and although he's not a parent as such, I've always lived with him (and my gran, mum and uncle) and he was basically my dad.

I miss him so, so much it hurts.

Yes of course you can lollipop a loss is a loss and it hurts just as much. I also was very close to my grandparents, though they ave been goe a long time now, I still miss them a lot.it is only a short while since you lost your grandad so it's still early days for you.I hope you have a close family that gives you support.