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Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent (4)

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mummylin2495 · 20/11/2013 14:31

Here is our new home hope it's as comfy as the last one

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Badvoc · 01/01/2014 22:55

I will take a hug anytime :)

t875 · 01/01/2014 23:41

well heres a huge one Badvoc ((((())))) thinking of you and Cake and Thanks to us all!!

Have any of you guys had sunshine today? Good grief we have anymore rain ill be building an ark!! xx

supermariossister · 01/01/2014 23:46

no it's has literally pissed down all day, think that's created the bad mood I hate staying in all day. like the idea of building an ark though

t875 · 02/01/2014 00:15

I know what you mean we have lost so many fence panels gonna cost a fortune to replace. Please let there be sunshine tomorrow!

Were off to see frozen tomorrow, we was going to see a pantomime but at 20 quid each and four if us they can stuff it! Although it would have been nice to go, always next year!

Badvoc · 02/01/2014 08:15

Allegedly it is going to be sunny today...am glad.
I have forgotten what the sun looks like!

mummylin2495 · 03/01/2014 00:44

Hello all, just a quick post tonight to say that I hope you are all as. Ok as you can be. Special thoughts to the latest posters on here, we know how difficult it is for you right now.

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ssd · 03/01/2014 12:29

pouring with rain here, miserable and cold...great!!

supermariossister · 03/01/2014 20:43

hey all how are you today. really not feeling well today and lots of things going on, totally ready for sleep.

Badvoc · 03/01/2014 20:52

Not good.
Long story.
Hope you guys are all ok?
Rain rain rain - getting boring now.

supermariossister · 03/01/2014 20:55

argh just thought I was replying to your post and reported it instead, didn't mean too thought I was sending pm. will report this post so mnhq know it was a mistake Blush

Badvoc · 03/01/2014 20:59

:)

supermariossister · 03/01/2014 21:03

what a Muppet I am tonight, it's been one of those days

Badvoc · 03/01/2014 21:05

You ok sm?

supermariossister · 03/01/2014 21:30

yeah just annoyed, pm explains better. hope you get some rest tonight x

Badvoc · 03/01/2014 21:41

You too x

mummylin2495 · 03/01/2014 23:22

Hello , are you two ok ? Weather terrible here as it is in lots of places. Otherwise things not too bad. I dread to think of the mess my mums flowers will be in after all this bad weather . I will go to crem on the weekend and bring all the Xmas little things home.

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t875 · 03/01/2014 23:38

Hi everyone!
Hope your all going along not too bad.
U ok sm??

Ssd - hope your not too bad Hun. Here if you need an ear!
Big bro tonight what a shower of shite in that house! I get excited for that then they put it people celebs that are probably skint and actually aren't celebs! Hmm

Thinking of you all. Xx

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supermariossister · 03/01/2014 23:51

glad that you have got it sorted euphema it's good to know that things are in place how are you doing.

I am Ill am getting ready to have a bath should be long asleep but stomach is churning really not feeling well. ds has been playing up this week wish I had mums advice to tell me what to do everyone else is laughing it off but it is really wearing.

mummylin2495 · 03/01/2014 23:53

Hello Euphemia I am glad that you have been able to get things sorted out. It's a horrible thing to have to do but of course necessary . I found the funeral director very helpful and strangely quite comforting.
The only thing s , it makes everything feel real. I hope the last couple of days have been bearable for you, although normally there are a few things to do which gives you less time to think about the situation.
Hi T hope you are doing ok, my sister still up with you there s a hold up with her new house down here.

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mummylin2495 · 04/01/2014 00:14

I think for a time you go through a period where it doesn't seem real at all. There are a few blissful seconds in the morning when you wake and it's not in your mind, then bang it comes right back. It's almost dreamlike. You see everyone just going about their daily business , and wonder how can life be going on the same as before for all these people, don't they know what's happened . It's a very strange time indeed, all sorts of emotions. But that's ok, it's all a part of the grieving process.what day has the funeral been arranged for ? And how s your mum coping, is she staying with you ?

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Wellthenmavis · 04/01/2014 00:17

I'm a bit worried I'm intruding here. I'm not really familiar with the "rules" on mums net and not so great at how to use it either! I lost my mother just over a year ago. I'm lost. I'm finding it harder than ever when everyone is expecting me to find it easier. I don't know what to do.

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t875 · 04/01/2014 00:41

Super - what do u think she would tell you to do? What comes in your mind to do about it? U know your mum and she knows you. Deep down you know what she would advise. As we are so like our mums in so many ways thinking- reactions etc. I say things out loud to my mum ( I believe they can hear x) I get the answer. Maybe not straight away but it's like it just comes into my head.
But I know the bitter feeling of the actual not being able to talk to them. I remember when eldest was massively playing up good ol pre teen and I wailed for my mum! I really feel you! Run it by us if it helps. We've got different aged children Hun. Xx

Euph - the funeral is so hard. It was horrendous. But I was also pleased with what we done for her she would have been pleased. And prob having a good ol chat up there with everyone with who turned up. We played her favourite songs and god knows how I read a poem.
Will be thinking of you! Here for you if you need us. (())

Lin - hello Hun! Ahh how much longer got your sister? Such a shame u can't get down here would love to meet you as I'm sure biscuits would too!

Hi badvoc, biscuits, waterlego, and anyone else on the thread. Please know I'm thinking of you all and your not alone xx

Wethenmavis - never intruding Hun, we are all in this together. So hard isn't it. I go through them feelings on and off even now and in April it will be 2 years! Which is unbelievable. I hate it. I wish she was here but I just trudge right on , some days easier than others.
Have you got a special place where you put special things of your mum? , maybe light a candle or do something special for you that you know she liked you to do? It's rubbish though isn't it. Right with you. And come back and chat when ever you are comfortable. (( hugs)) to you

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