Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent (4)

[mummylin2495]

Here is our new home hope it's as comfy as the last one

ssd that really struck a chord with me about the empty feeling. It's horrible, and it always hits me the most when I'm shopping for some bizarre reason. I guess it's cos I'm looking for things to make me happy or feel more complete, and it's a farce because the thing that would make me happy will never ever happen.
I also know what you mean about the dcs not making up for it. Much as they're amazing. I'm still searching for a religion or something to make sense of the loss and my Dad's suffering. I would be a Christian, but when I did the alpha course, I was told that anyone who hadn't found Jesus would go to hell - so that'll be my Dad hey? Fat lot of comfort that was

Hello all.
Well, I think I will be in bed for 10pm - real party animal I am! :)
I'm so sorry ssd and mouse but I can really relate to how you feel...I cannot wait for 2013 to end tbh.
Today my dh fixed the taps in the WC. How could that possibly make me cry, you ask? Because my dad always did stuff like that for us, and dh doing it is yet another reminder he is gone.
I am sat watching seven brides for seven brothers - my dad hated musicals! :) - he would be sat here mocking me and my love for Howard keel :)
God, I miss him.
I hope my mum is ok on hols with my sister.
I hope we can all find some peace on 2014.
Love to all
X

Hello all, I hope tonight we can give ssd in particular some support as she is still struggling badly. Of course the same applies to everyone else especially the newcomers on this thread. I think it's not possible to be happy on here but at least you will not be alone.
I feel a bit like mouseface and don't want to go into yet another year without my mum being here, it takes her further away from me
I am especially mad with my dh at the moment, I knew he was going out tonight , which I don't mind, and he has footi travelling away tomorrow. He informed me just now that he won't be home as he is staying over at my brothers so that he is ready to travel away in the morning ! I am feeling very hurt that he wouldn't even think I would be sad tonight. So bloody insensitive

I'm here, and holding all your hands as we see in the new year. Sending love and huge, huge hugs to anyone here who is feeling particularly distraught tonight. Also holding our passed loved ones in my thoughts. It is some comfort to me to know that we are all experiencing the same pain and questions.

Hi madmomma, I just see all the years in front being without my mum and I hate it, same as everyone else really.i hate tonight more than Xmas day, I have always phoned my mum at midnight, she wouldn't go to bed until I had done that.
Oh my god the heavens just opened, I hope we don't get another leak ! Must go and investigate

One tiny little drip

Argh Lin!
We had to replace our leaky conservatory roof in feb! My lovely dad paid, bless him.
It does help to know we are not alone, that what we are feeling is valid and normal.
Watching a film with dh.
Had a nice bath.
Am looking forward to a new kindle book I have downloaded.
That's it. I have reached middle age.
:)

That's horrible mummylin :(
It sounds like the two of you were so close.

I think it's important to remind ourselves as often as possible that wherever they are, our loved ones truly want us to be happy and to enjoy our lives despite their physical absence. Of course it's easier said than done; I know that, and I know that at times the grief just overwhelms, but I think it's something to strive for. Sorry, I think I'm pointing out the obvious.

Ironically the above is easier when we allow ourselves to wallow occasionally and have a huge snotty weeping session. In a weird way it picks me up to really allow myself to feel the huge heartbreaking sadness and cry it out.

It's when the wind blows the rain up under tha flashing we get a drip, we had never had a leak until last week when we had that bad storm. If its not windy and just raining it won't leak !

Yes we have all said so often that none of our lost ones would want us to be sad for so long, but I honestly don't see how it can be avoided. Someone said before that the price of love is grief and I think that's perfectly true. ( the text messages have begun )

Quickly popping in to wish you all a peaceful new year. I'm having an early night, can't face waiting up just to mark another milestone without mum. Here's hoping that 2014 will be a little bit easier for us all xxx

hopping on, I'm at dps mum for a bit. it's lovely so see them all but just reminds me my family will never do this again no get togethers someone missing always. what are you all up too .

Iam just on mn and have mama Mia on in the background, happier new year to you too SM and thankyou again for the robin, it's still hanging on my tree !

And for you too a happier new year * officelady" may we all gain some peace in 2014

mine is packed away as put tree down to make room for new computer, wondering if for the first time in ages I'll be hungover tomorrow, I rarely ever drink so it's a shock to the system

i don't either, but if I do it only takes a couple and I feel tipsy. Ooh I can't take tree down yet. How you getting on with your new comp ?

hi girls, think I'll be having an early night tonight, but I usually do anyway! all quiet here, dh keeps telling the kids new year is all about parties, obviously we're not at one or anything, I wish he would just shut up, it feels bad enough with no one to visit without him going on and on, sometimes he gets me down. Just like your dh mummylin, dh and the kids are going to football tomorrow so I'll be spending new years day alone.. what I wouldnt give for a sister/aunty/MIL to visit, I could do with some female company...nothing changes here, it goes on and on.

I wish you all a better new year, I hope some changes are afoot, they are long overdue here.

I'm sorry I'm not much company tonight, am thinking of you all xxx

not to bad but can't get hang of downloading apps on there. still at dps mums, still enjoying my sours and lemonade and got more at home. makes me feel a bit shitty family gatherings will pop in see my dad on way home. if time it right ds can do first footing sorry to hear dh not being sensitive I think people forget .

Hope things will take an upward curve fr you next year ssd I know it's been a struggle for you. So tomorrow we will both be at home alone because of footi ! Mine has to travel as our game is away . Sleep well x

Yes it's people forgetting that is so hurtful I think. You expect your nearest and dearest to remember the important things in our life. Glad you are at least managing to enjoy yourself

you too mummylin, thanks for your support this year, it much appreciated, also to everyone else here, hope we feel better soon girls xxx

I won't wish any of us a happy new year...it seems wrong somehow...does anyone else feel that?
But I do wish us all peace and love xxxx

I think we just have to hope for a happier new year at least badvoc there surely will be a turning point for some f us at least, I can't bear to think I will stay so sad forever.

Oh God EuphemiaI'm so so sorry.
You must be exhausted and confused.
I wish I could give you a hug.
If you can't sleep tonight do post here. Some of us will be up I'm sure