Support thread for anyone who has lost a parent (4)

[mummylin2495]

Here is our new home hope it's as comfy as the last one

To my Mum,

Well Christmas Day, about the time we sit down for lunch, will be exactly three months to the day that you left Dad's arms in this world and went into the arms of Jesus.

i miss you so much - more than I ever thought possible. Your absence is so profound, from all the bits and pieces you used to do for me and my sister, to the fact that we would phone you several times a day just to have a brief word for you.

Today is my birthday and I miss you so much. I wish you were here and I don't know how I will do life without you. I wish you could see my wonderful son and more than anything I wish that you could meet the little life that is growing inside me.

I love you.
I miss you.

A x

((( big hugs everyone)))

We have lost 3 fence panels now!!! Bloody weather!! How's everyone doing for the weather?? Xx

Friend of Dorothy, badvoc it's so very hard and I'm so sorry I believe she can see all you says friend of Dorothy but I also know them words mean nothing as you justo have that void too much like i do at times It does get a little easier as times gone on but the first year 14 months for me was still hard especially though the first 6-8 months were devastating!! So very hard. We try and make Christmas best we can but its all so hard too I remember this well. I hope you can enjoy Christmas the best you can. And we are here for you to talk too.

Very sad for you badvoc. I'm so sorry my thoughts are there with you and your family and your aunt xx

Thank you x
Love to all x

Hello everyone. Joining in, I very sadly lost my dad last Thursday. He was only poorly for a few weeks and noticeably so for the last few days. He had bladder cancer which was stage 4 before they found it and eventually it affected his liver.
To try and gain some comfort from a very sad situation, he passed away at home with mum and I by his side. A wonderful Macmillan nurse visited the day before and spoke to us and dad. It's as though he gave dad the ok to let go, which he did the following morning. I cannot sing their praises enough, thanks to him we talked about the situation and said how much we loved him.
We still cannot quite believe its happened, I expect to see him sitting on the sofa or hear his voice. I am dreading the funeral which is booked for the 2nd.

Well hope the weather isn't too bad for you all. It's horrendous here so I didn't want to go to Asda. So dh has just gone with his list !
I hope it calms before Xmas day because I have some little Xmas trees and very pretty stars to take to the crem. I cant have my mum or sister without a little tree .
I must say your messages are all so moving. I hope they will all hear our thoughts and know they are missed so much.
Stay safe everyone.

Hello puggirl sorry to hear of your loss. How sad that you now have to start the new year facing your dear dads funeral. How is your poor mum. I am glad that you at least got to tell your dad you loved him, I wish I could of done that. It will be very difficult over this holiday for you and your family I hope you can all support each other . It's good to see that you had great help and support from Macmillan team. I think when it first happens it is like a nightmare which we can't wake from. It just doesn't sink in that its real.

I'm sure they can hear us Lin. X
I know what you mean. We've lost 4 fence panels. we can't afford to do it till after new year! I'm dreading how many more!
Hope you get to go to the crem with your special trees and stars. It's meant to be calmer tomorrow fingers crossed! I've got to buy my mum a little gift tomorrow! I brought her a little mirror with little coloured stones which glittered in the light I'm sure she loved it it would have been what she would like

My dads kidney stone is being removed next week! Cause he's on warfarin they have to make sure his bloods ok.
Hot to say I'm scared stupid he's neatly 70 and being put out. The stone is quite big!! I feel for him so much!!

Oh dear, anther worry for you. Have they stopped his warfarin now in preparation ?

Yeah don't rain eh Lin!! My brothers away too. They are stopping the warfarin in the next few days. And if his levels aren't ok they will cancel it. And on top of that he could have a chance the stone could move which will cause him big problems over Christmas! How are you, are you set for Christmas?

You should not of mentioned rain, it's coming in our conservatory in two places !! Note the time of this post !

It would have been my Dad's 70th birthday yesterday. He died 23 years ago when I was 9 and I just can't put into words how much I miss him.

The reminder for him to renew his driving licence came in the post a couple of months ago, I was visiting my mum at the time and seeing his name was like someone had punched me.
I hid it before she could see.

I'm back at her house now, in my childhood bedroom, crying my eyes out. I hate this time of year.

Am so sorry for anyone going through similar. Xx

am sorry that you have found yourself here. it is hard to go back to our parents house and also for the anniversarys and tough days that seem to creep up from nowhere.

puggirl I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad you were able to be with your dad in his final days, and tell him the things you wanted to say. In time, that will bring you some small comfort.

FriendofDorothy What beautiful but sad words. I hope your birthday was ok.

ephemeral I am sorry to hear of your loss, and that it is still painful after all this time. :(

Have just read back a bit and seen some of your very moving tributes and messages to your lost parents. I just want to give you all a giant hug. x

Anybody north / Scotland batten down the hatches. Stabilise fencing esp. The winds have left us now but we have lost 4 fence panels!!

Our leaks have stopped, what a horrendous storm. Sorry for the newcomers hear, will post more later, off out to get my hair done and get some fresh flowers for the crem

Yes I'm so sorry to read of the new comers here so very sorry for your losses. I will try and come back later still very behind. Glad the weathers calmed for you Lin to go to crem. X

Hello, can I join you? Mum died last night, aged 64. She had recently been diagnosed with advanced cancer and spent the last week in hospital as her 1st cycle of chemo made her v unwell.

She was supposed to be discharged today to spend Christmas at home, but collapsed and died at hospital last night, possibly due to a blood clot.

As it happened suddenly nobody was with her, but I visited her in the chapel of rest today, it was heartbreaking to see her there.

I have 2 young dcs and a niece who are still looking forward to Santa coming, but everyone else is in bits. I'm so sorry for the rest of you who have also lost parents, but hope I can learn a little about how to cope with this. I already miss her so much.

oh how heartbreaking for you and your family to go through this. of course you can talk to us anytime my mum also died from complications due to cancer last November but we had somewhat more time. please try to take care of yourself. take things as they come I am sure anyone who knows you will understand. I am sure that your mum knew how loved she was. sending you strength x

OH I am so sorry, how horrible for you.

My Mum did three months ago tomorrow, she was 63 and died very suddenly from a heart attack whilst on holiday with my Dad.

I miss her every day.

I'm sorry. What an awful time to lose your Mum. My dad died in October. Missing loved ones is so hard at Christmas.

Thank you. It's all rather unreal at the moment. I hate to think of all the people who have gone through similar.

There is obviously no good time to lose a parent, but the awful contrast between expecting to have her home to watch her gc open their presents and the situation we're in now is incredibly painful.

Best wishes to you all x

To my dad

I miss you so much. I wish we were coming to see you tomorrow as we always did on Christmas Day. I wish I could send you a text to nag you to have a tidy up before we came. I hope you know just how much we will miss you this Christmas. It breaks my heart that you won't see my beautiful daughters grow up. You loved them so much. The thing I miss the most about you is how your eyes lit up when you saw them. I miss that so much Dad. Thank you for giving me those precious memories and loving them so much.
I hope you're up there with your parents. I hope you're happy Dad and know that you were so so loved.

Merry Christmas. I love you. X