Walking together on a journey - sharing experiences, tears, anger and sometimes even laughter. United we stand, divided we fall.

[shabbatheGreek]

This special thread was started in 2008. Its a special place - one which nobody would ever willingly come to. I hope we pay tribute to our lost children by helping each other. xxxx

[whiteandyellowiris]

i think they are really lucky to have a dd like you, and you them

xxx

[shabbatheGreek]

oh thank you - we are lucky to have each other - we have lost two of our boys - their grandsons - and we know the value of each other and that none of us ever know when our last day will be. Told my Mum so often that we are not going to cry about all of this we are going to laugh and cherish every moment xx

[whiteandyellowiris]

i do think what we have been through makes you realise what you have and the value of people and life

yeah, i was thinking today, sometimes i feeel so unlucky to lose our son

yet i feel so lucky also to have a lovely dd who i sthe joy of my life and a happy marraige with dh, and a nice home and good friends and family
and another baby on the way

i know i will never feel 100% happy ever again in my life, but i am going to at least aim to feel happy and sad at the same time

[shabbatheGreek]

There will come a time (I promise you) that you will be genuinly happy without having to stop and feel guilty for laughing and smiling. Time makes it all much more gentle...but the longing to see them again never goes away xxx

[whiteandyellowiris]

thanks shabbs xx

how is, is it your niece that recently lost a child

[shabbatheGreek]

She is doing OK thank you for asking. Obviously heartbroken but my niece is an amazing person. Loves everybody, laughs out loud etc etc. xxx We were very close to begin with but the bond between us now is just wonderful xxx We all live in a very strange world where we all try to do our best xx

[shabbatheGreek]

Morning girls xx

[whiteandyellowiris]

Glad to hear she's doing ok,I have thought about her

Sometimes when I read threads on here, where someone's gone through something similar I think,I should be able to help that person
Yet I struggle to find the words

[shabbatheGreek]

I know what you mean love......I think that just showing someone you care and listening when they need to talk are more important than anything else.

[shabbatheGreek]

Morning girls xx

[snorris]

Morning, sorry I haven't posted more but I have been lurking .

I've been preparing myself for this week really, dd5 started school today and dd1 goes off to uni on Friday. I didn't know how I was going to be this morning as the last time I was in that classroom on a first day at school was to take Seren. That was an emotional time as it was a milestone I thought we wouldn't make and I didn't know whether those memories of that day would have an effect (I never cried when any of the others started ). Luckily dd5 is with lots of children she knows and apart from being a bit hesitant about where to put her things she was absolutely fine - as was I :). I couldn't look at some of the other mums sending their first-borns off to school though .
Just got to get through Friday now - one of my friends suggested throwing myself at dd1's feet, grabbing her ankles and crying,"Don't go!!". I think thst might be slightly more embarrassing than an few tears!

[shabbatheGreek]

You dont have to say sorry love. You have been on my mind for a few days and I wondered how you were.

Oh Gawd - the school 'thing' - its so hard isin't it? I remember dragging Dan back into school after Matt was killed. The whole playground fell into silence and many of the children were crying. Then a few of Matts friends came and asked what exactly happened and said how much they missed him. Then the school photo's just with Dan on them.....my word it is such a difficult, difficult time.

Good luck for Friday sweetheart......I second the throwing yourself at her feet. An exciting new beginning for her but I understand how you must be feeling xxxxx

[shabbatheGreek]

Morning girls xx

[frasersmummy]

hey .. where is everybody.. ????

I know I have been missing for ages too... but have you all bogged off to facebook in my absence

I hope not

how you are all doing these days

[shabbatheGreek]

I joined the group on FB but I dont think there is enough privacy and security on there and it worries me. I left after a couple of weeks.

Dont worry FM this thread will be on MN as long as my heart is beating - even when I am an 'old biddy' I will be putting 'Morning girls' every day

Good to see you love xxxxx

[MiaAlexandrasmummy]

I'm here too. Just busy - family staying, have just started work, and we are in the throes of preparing for MiaFest, our first baby steps for a child-oriented festival to mark Mia's 3rd birthday on Sunday. We will camp out at Mia's Wood and planning all kinds of activities for the children, although the weather is not looking promising.

On top of this, Finn is going through another change at the moment, which means his sleep patterns are bonkers and he continues in his big sister's ability to make noise, with an eye-wateringly blistering scream.

[AngelsLieToKeepControl]

Hello everyone, I was on the last thread, hope I'm alright to join this one too, I have changed names since then but I like to come on and talk about Scott and Emma-Louise from time to time. It's been a long time for me now, 15 and 6 years but it still cuts like a knife every day how is everyone?

[shabbatheGreek]

Have you namechanged Angel? Im a nosey person thats all

Any mums (or family members) walking this horrible path of the loss of a child (of any age) are welcome here.

When a child dies the sadness goes like ripples in water....further and further outward....affecting everybody xx

[shabbatheGreek]

I obviously didnt read the start of your message

[AngelsLieToKeepControl]

Yes I namechange all the time atm I keep on oversharing and regretting it, I need to learn that not every thought I have needs to be shared (I'll have to namechange again next week I bet)

I'm going through a bit of a no sleeping phase just now, lots going on and my mind racing all the time. My youngest is starting nursey, my oldest is starting secondary school and it just makes me realise how much I have missed out on if that makes sense, I miss my kids every day, but sometimes it hits harder than others.

[AngelsLieToKeepControl]

shabba, people usually fall asleep by the end of my posts, not at the start.

[shabbatheGreek]

My youngest DS4 just started 6th form college....I have no idea where time goes....feels like I am living on 'microwave time!!' x

[shabbatheGreek]

Morning girls xx

[AngelsLieToKeepControl]

Morning Shabs, morning everyone xx

[shabbatheGreek]

I like the sound of Miafest - wonderful idea. xx