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Walking together on a journey - sharing experiences, tears, anger and sometimes even laughter. United we stand, divided we fall.

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shabbatheGreek · 23/07/2013 10:10

This special thread was started in 2008. Its a special place - one which nobody would ever willingly come to. I hope we pay tribute to our lost children by helping each other. xxxx

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shabbatheGreek · 07/10/2013 23:35

Smile something like that Mias.....am being plagued with Arthritus as well - its a miserable thing. I know it is not being helped by the fact that I am very overweight. Everything whirls round and round in my head. I fall asleep instantly and within about an hour I am having anxiety dreams....dreams where I cant escape from a room, dreams that I cant find my way home, where I am in an area that I only vaguely recognise and cant get home. I think I am finally, and totally, losing the plot!!

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SalmonellaDeGhoul · 08/10/2013 00:10

Oh, shabs, arthritis can be so crippling and you don't need it on top of everything else. Have you tried glucosamine? A couple of people I know swear by it.

Mias, you really don't know who's suffering until you talk to them, do you? On our weekend away, a very drunk man was chatting to us. He told us that he had lost two children. I told him about our girl. And there we were, two drunk people painting on smiles for everyone else.

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shabbatheGreek · 08/10/2013 06:49

Morning girls xx

I first got Arthritus after I had Tom. Had it in my wrists really badly. Used to have to struggle to pick him up. Usually paracetamol help a lot - I am going to have to go to the GP's but dont want to!!

'Two drunk people painting on smiles for everyone else.' Those words speak volumes and I know exactly what you mean xx

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tallulahpolly · 08/10/2013 09:25

Hi all.Not been on here for a while,but I think of you.Sorry to any newly bereaved who have joined this thread, but I hope you find some comfort from it.
My darling Jacob would have been 2 today.We had 5 difficult but very precious days together before we had to say goodbye.Love you always baby.

A message of hope is that we now have ds2,who is 8 months old and an utter delight.He is a beautiful addition to our family and today we are celebrating Jacob's birthday with a trip to a nature reserve and a picnic.
Hugs to those who need them.We will never forget our children.

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shabbatheGreek · 08/10/2013 09:29

Happy Birthday Jacob - thinking of you all and will light a candle to honour your little lad xx

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SalmonellaDeGhoul · 08/10/2013 13:30

Hi Tallulah!
I was chipmonkey on the November 11 thread. Wonderful that Jacob has a little brother but so sorry he isn't here on his second birthday to meet him.

tallulahpolly · 08/10/2013 18:53

Thank you both.We have had a good day,lots of cuddles from ds2.

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 08/10/2013 23:49

tallulah sending you birthday wishes to Jacob, and what lovely news about DS2.

salmonella oh lovely, shabba is right, that phrase is very apt...

shabba Now, Mrs, are you seeing someone about getting something strong enough for the pain? Acute pain is exhausting, and dealing with that on top of caring for your family, will make you really ill. There is no need to make your burden heavier than it is.

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shabbatheGreek · 09/10/2013 00:15

Blush not seeing anyone - I know what it is - usually paracetamol dulls it. I think the main problem is that I am totally pissed off fed up, to be honest. Everything seems massive at the moment and nothing runs smoothly. Fretting and worrying about every last little thing. No matter how small - which is not like the usual 'me'

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shabbatheGreek · 09/10/2013 00:18

Worrying mainly about bloody Xmas Day!!!! FFS!! For about the last 8 years my parents have come to us and we spoil them rotten and have a laugh and eat too much. This year my Dad cant chew anything at all....in fact even if he is eating soup he has to be very careful that the spoon does not touch his gums. Last week he was eating some home made soup that I had blitzed so it was smooth....he touched his gums with the spoon and put the bowl down and cried Sad just big blobby tears ran down his cheeks and I felt like I had hurt him.

Dont anyone tell me there is a God - there is no such thing.

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MiaAlexandrasmummy · 09/10/2013 00:27

Sad at that image of your gorgeous brave Dad crying. Straws? But please, see a doctor yourself too...

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shabbatheGreek · 09/10/2013 00:35

I found some plastic spoons - more like rubber really. They are quite big and I am sure Lew used to eat his dinner with them when he was at mine. They change colour if the food is too hot. I am going to get Dad some and give them to Lew to give to him. He will say 'Pops (all the great grandchildren call him that) I have bought you some spoons that are great and they wont hurt your mouth.

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SalmonellaDeGhoul · 09/10/2013 01:17

Aw, shabs! That is such a sad, sad image I have of your poor Dad. Sad

And seriously, paracetemol will not cut that pain! I have to ask patients at work about what medication they are on and people with arthritis are usually on a combination of difene and anti-inflammatories. Not necessarily full time but at least part of the time.

Make a little time to see your GP. Do you know, shabba, if you lived over here you would have to pay Fifty Euro every time you see your GP. And you ladies in the UK get that free and there you are taking paracetemol!

whiteandyellowiris · 09/10/2013 05:53

Im not at all happy that somethings been done to me thats considered poor ptactice

whiteandyellowiris · 09/10/2013 05:58

Hi guys sorry about that post it was ment for chat board not in here xxxx
sorry so tired xxx

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shabbatheGreek · 09/10/2013 06:47

Morning girls xx

Oh my word I didn't know you had to pay to see your GP - thats awful - and something I am sure will be the same here very soon. I have to go for my annual medication review in a few days so I promise I will ask about this pain.

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BeaverAbroad · 09/10/2013 22:07

Hi. Didn't see this thread before Blush

Remembering my beautiful Josh. We last hugged him two years ago. He died as a result of meningitis aged four. Loved and missed forever. Xx

SalmonellaDeGhoul · 10/10/2013 09:03

Welcome Beaver. So sorry to hear about your little Josh xx

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shabbatheGreek · 10/10/2013 10:12

Morning girls xx

Welcome Beaver. So sorry to hear about your DS. You will find support and friendship on this thread x

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BeaverAbroad · 10/10/2013 16:35

Thanks and hello x

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shabbatheGreek · 11/10/2013 07:02

Morning girls xx

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shabbatheGreek · 12/10/2013 08:21

Morning girls xx Everyone OK?

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BeaverAbroad · 12/10/2013 13:05

Afternoon xx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 12/10/2013 14:29

Little broken hearted right now. Visited a man today who wanted to donate goods for our Mia's Wood charity auction. His daughter died last year, and his stepson died in a car crash five years ago. He said very matter-of-factly "I don't have any children now." Hmm

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shabbatheGreek · 12/10/2013 15:10

Poor man - just a few words that say everything Sad

How lovely of him to contribute. xxxx

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