Support thread for anyone who is grieving for a parent (2)

[mummylin2495]

Welcome to our new home everyone. This should be where we all start to move on a little bit. Together we will cope.

[Badvoc]

Ds really poorly. Just back from a and e. he is vomiting now too.
Told dh I dint think I can cope with much more and I need some help and he told me he thinks I am "punishing him"

I don't really know what to say about that.

I can't do this.

[mummylin2495]

You can do this badvoc, but your dh has to step up wether he likes it or not you need his help and support. If you don't get it he will end up,doing far more as you will by then be very ill. You cannot be expected to just cope with everything yourself. It's not right and t isn't fair. That's what our spouses are meant to do , support us.
Sorry to see your ds had to go to a& e , what did they say there ?

[Badvoc]

Not sure..viral? He didn't start throwing up til we were there.
His sats etc are ok so home we go.
I am scared.
And I feel so alone.
Dh is asleep next door...ds in bed with me.
He has offered to have tomorrow morning off.
I suppose I am supposed to be grateful?

[mummylin2495]

Didnt you knw that mst men have to be praised and thanked fr everything they do for " you " my dh says I've taken the rubbish out etc " for you " ! What planet are they on. You really need the help at the moment, you have had so. Much to cope with and it's not over yet , as you still ave your mum and aunt nt well. Leave him to it tomorrow, just escape somewhere for the day. Treat yourself to lunch somewhere

[Badvoc]

Just need sleep.

[Marshy]

Badvoc - hope you get some sleep tonight and your ds improves. It's so hard when dc are ill even at the best of times.
Have a bit of time for yourself whilst your dh is off tomorrow morning. Sounds like you are all under a lot of stress

[Marshy]

Waterlego, what a lovely treat to look forward to!

[ssd]

hi marshy, have read all your posts and just wanted to offer you a hand to hold, I too had a hospital appt at 9am on Monday and I've had better news, so am sending you all my positive vibes and hoping you get better news next week xxx

I can't answer everyone individually but I'm thinking of you all xxx

[Marshy]

Thanks ssd, I really appreciate that and am glad you had better news.
I am pretty freaked out by this turn of events, on top of mum dying in April and dd leaving at the end of this week (a good thing, but still a wrench). My coping capacity is getting close to used up, although I'm not sure what happens at that point, so I just keep carrying on!
Dreading and longing for Monday....

[Badvoc]

I can really relate to how you feel marshy x
I am very close to my limit too ATM for various reasons.
My aunt has her appt tomorrow to get her results.
Mum seems ok...maybe she has taken on board what the dr said this time?
I just feel utterly unable to do the simplest things. Ironing is piling up. The house is a tip. Dh and I are barely speaking. And now ds2 is ill. I am going to push for a referral to ds1s paed. I can't go through another winter like last year.

[mummylin2495]

Glad to hear you are ok ssd
badvoc hope you can step away from your problems today and ave a bit of space to yourself to get her your thoughts together. Hope your ds is feeling a bit better today.
marshy keeping my fingers crossed that all will be good news for new, must be hell waiting.
waterlego how exciting for you. What a lovely time to look forward to.

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New thread is ready for when we cross over, will link again as it gets a bit closer

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Sorry to be a nuisance but can we go to new thread from now as already got a posting on it, will fill this one up as much as poss.

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