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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

Bereavement

Support thread for anyone who is grieving for a parent (2)

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mummylin2495 · 02/05/2013 10:46

Welcome to our new home everyone. This should be where we all start to move on a little bit. Together we will cope.

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mummylin2495 · 09/09/2013 21:57

supermario that is so sad about your grandad. I expect it's been so hard for your grandparents to come to terms with losing their daughter. Maybe he is just not thinking straight. But keep your eye on him if you think its more than that. It's all very sad .

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Marshy · 09/09/2013 22:03

She's been to Gran Canaria waterlego with her boyfriend. Will be lovely to see her. Dh and ds just leaving now to get her as I'm in my pj's and look a fright coz of my 'migraine'
Feeling a bit sorry for myself. Keep getting that panicky feeling that I had in the days after mum died. I'll get through this bit it feels tough ar the moment

Marshy · 09/09/2013 22:05

Thanks mummylin

mummylin2495 · 09/09/2013 22:13

Very understandable marshy I too have had that awful fear, but it all turned out ok thankfully. But for 3 weeks I did nothing but have hysterics and cry. I was a wreck. But all was well. Hopefully you will be too
I envy your dd, gran canaria one of my fav places. I love it and so did my mum

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supermariossister · 09/09/2013 22:14

another person who doesnt sleep its not uncommon to find me on here at 5am, is consider six a lay in . I know what you mean my mum is my next of kin on so many things now I have dp, who is fab but in a crisis wouldn't compare to mum. this is the man that bought me 5 pairs of knickers to hospital I was at for a night but no hairbrush.. could of put the knickers over my awful hair I guess

Marshy · 09/09/2013 22:20

Knickers on the head can be an interesting look.
Thanks Mario first laugh I've had today!
You are all so kind, thanks for the encouragement and positivity. I'm usually pretty upbeat but am a bit tired with struggling at the moment.
Positive vibes for you all from me

mummylin2495 · 09/09/2013 22:25

I'm imagining supermario with 5 pairs of knickers on her head at the same time. I hope they were colour co- ordinated
How long has your dd been gone marshy ? I'm sure you will be happy to see her safely back

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Marshy · 09/09/2013 22:49

Just a week mummylim but this is her secomd week away. She funded this herself bit we paid for a week in Ibiza for her 18th. She went with her best friend the weekend after she was 18, which was also the weekend following A level results and uni confirmation - it's been a busy summer

Marshy · 09/09/2013 22:51

Sorry for typos - mixture of autocorrect and me not being able to see my phone properly

mummylin2495 · 09/09/2013 23:06

iPad makes loads of mis spellings, drives me crazy !

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Badvoc · 10/09/2013 07:37

Marshy...sending love x
Well, ds2 will be off school today. Up all night with him :(
He will have to come to mums with me for the meeting. Which won't be stressful at all!

Marshy · 10/09/2013 08:38

badvoc hope your day goes ok and your ds is feeling better soon.

Dh has gone to work, taking ds to 6th form. I'm just waiting for dd to wake up and them I will explain to her why I'm not at work today

Will be speaking to my boss later - not sure what to do about work for the rest of this week. I don't know if I can concentrate on work when I'm frantic with worry

mummylin2495 · 10/09/2013 10:41

Best of luck today with all ou have to sort out badvoc
marshy I hope you can find the right words to discuss your health with your dd . What a horrible thing for you to have to do. Almost unbearable , will be thinking of you

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Badvoc · 10/09/2013 10:57

Hope your chat with your dd goes as well as it can marshy. I am thinking of you x
Meeting over. Just got to sort out the direct debit for mum now.
Can't decide whether or not to take ds to gp...he is asthmatic and seems very wheezy :( why can't I make simple decisions!?

mummylin2495 · 10/09/2013 11:06

Yes take him badvoc , we know only too well in my family how awful asthma can be , glad meeting is over.

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Badvoc · 10/09/2013 11:09

I will phone @ 2pm...that's when they give out any cancellations for the day. If there isn't one I will take him at end of surgery.
Thanks.

Badvoc · 10/09/2013 14:58

Got an appt @ 4.20...
Hope you are ok marshy x

mummylin2495 · 10/09/2013 16:03

Glad you got an apt. Always best to be cautious far as asthma is concerned. Sure he will be fine.

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Marshy · 10/09/2013 16:09

Went to see my lovely friend this morning who is just getting over a lumpectomy which I was supporting her with. Had a good cry on her shoulder then came back and calmly explained to my dd without shedding a tear. She took it ok. I didn't go into worse case scenario and managed to keep a lid on my absolute panic. She had a little weep about having to part from her long term boyfriend when both go to uni. Love her so much.
Also spoke to my boss. I'm going into work on Thurs and Fri all being well and have managed to have this 3 days without it being sick leave so that's good. She was very sympathetic and said I am a very strong person with all I've been through this year which was kind of her.
So...so far, about as good as a crap day can be really. Will tell ds when he gets home.
Hope gp is helpful to your DS badvoc. You deserve a relaxed evening after your tough day. Mummylin, thanks for being there for us
Waterlego and Mario - how are you doing?
Have been thinking that if my mum had still been here and I had still been looking after her I'm not sure how I would have coped with this week

Badvoc · 10/09/2013 16:46

Marshy...gosh, what an awful, awful day for you. Sounds like it well pretty well though, as well as these things can anyway.
Ds2 has a chest infection poor lamb. He looks really poorly :(

t875 · 10/09/2013 18:24

Hi guys!

Sorry not been around working loads and getting in and getting the girls settled into school! Trying to get a routine again after the holidays! Lol

Yeah mummylin I'm an owl too and we've often had inane conversation! although I should really get to bed earlier! Lol.

Hope your all going along the best you can.
I will try my best to catch up on your conversations.
But I don't fancy my chances as being nagged left right and centre!
Hugs to all. Still tough times but for me got a little easier it can really polverise me if i think too much, shes with me everywhere I go i know it. Bloody miss her like mad though but I trudge on xx

mummylin2495 · 10/09/2013 18:37

Oh marshy I am so sorry you have more bloody worry on your plate. I am glad you have told your dd the position.but whatever the diagnosis is , we will be here for you.
t875 did you see the news about my sister ? She is here today for ten days Would you believe they are finally looking at houses. Glad you are getting on quite well.
badvoc glad you saw doc , has he given your ds antibiotics for his chest? Off to turn chops over !

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t875 · 10/09/2013 18:44

Ill pm you mummylin xx

supermariossister · 10/09/2013 18:49

sorry to read of the crap day marshy but glad your dd and you had that chat. and glad to hear your going along okay T. bit of a weird day today saw mums hairdresser not seen her since mum died. she said how sorry she was and that it wasn't fair. and for once when someone said that I didn't cry. spent some time with ds tonight just pottering about and playing its getting closer to October and November which brings all the milestones not sure how ill cope them. life is liveable without mum but it sure as hell ain't as fun

waterlego6064 · 10/09/2013 21:39

Awww Badvoc. Poor DS :( Hope he gets over it quickly. Are you feeling any better today?

Marshy Well done for getting through another tough day. Your poor friend- bet she was glad of your support today.

supermario Oct and Nov sound a bit daunting- try not to worry about you'll cope until you get there. It's hard not to look ahead though, I know. We are making some tentative plans to spend Christmas in France with my mum and and auntie. I think we will all find Christmas difficult anyway, but not being at home might help a little.

t875 Nice to see you. We're doing the whole 'trying to get back into the routine' shindig. It takes a while doesn't it?

I have horrendous PMT at the moment and was very VERY shouty at the children today :( Tomorrow is a new day, and hopefully a less ranty one.

I have something exciting to look forward to. OH and I will be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary at the end of October. Last week, he revealed that he and I are going to Florence for three nights in half term. His parents will look after our DCs. We are flying there First Class! I dread to think how much it's cost him, but apparently he booked it nearly a year ago so it's all paid for by now :) I feel very blessed. And very excited!

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