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Misty breeze wraps about my shoulders, thinly clad. I shiver not, despite the coolness on my skin. Comfort, I now feel. Is it you my precious Angel?

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chipmonkey · 13/11/2012 20:36

Starting a new thread for our angel babies
Sylvie-Rose 16/8/11 to 4/10/11 too short my love, too short.

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Bluetinkerbell · 03/12/2012 19:47

Congratulations Mia I read it first on the rainbow thread and couldn't help shedding a joyful tear! Enjoy! X

chipmonkey · 03/12/2012 19:52

Well done, Mias! Can't wait to see the pics!
Grin

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shabbatheGreek · 03/12/2012 20:05

Welcome to the world Finn - well done Mummy and Daddy.

I just smiled when I read your post - first time today!!xxx

whiteandyelloworchid · 03/12/2012 20:06

chip, we took a mini tree to ds grave on sunday, and dd and my neices decorated it in red and silver, with lots of mini nativity ornaments hanging on the tree,
quite fitting for in the churchyard

then we decorated ds apple tree in our garden, dd chose pink and purple and then hung the special star {engraved with ds name, d.o.b, always loved always remembered.} on the christmas tree in the living room,

hopefully the nativity decorations won't blow away, as i would like to keep them for next year, and put them on every year

my newphew made a really nice car with ds name on it

My5boysandme · 03/12/2012 20:39

Congratulations miasmummy, lovely name, so very happy for you :) xx

chipmonkey · 03/12/2012 20:50

The only thing I found last year, white, was that the metalic paint did go a bit rusty by the time Christmas was over so I decided not to go for anything too expensive for the outdoor tree this year. I have little battery lights on ours as I had solar lights last year which really don't work in winter as there isn't enough daylight.
I wish we didn't have to put a Christmas tree on a grave. But in a way, it's something I can do for her.

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My5boysandme · 03/12/2012 21:10

I put a small tree in a snowman pot down for Dexter, I wish we didn't have to do it.

whiteandyelloworchid · 03/12/2012 21:49

thanks for the advice chip, my brother and sister inlaw got the decs for the mini tree at ds'd grave and dd chose the decs for the apple tree which where not expensive, and the lights where from wilcos
i will see what they are like after xmas

yes i thought ds should be gazing at wonder at the tree in our living room, and we shouldnt have to be putting a tree down by his grave, yet its all we have, so it does feel like something nice we can do for him

i saw a paint your own dinosaur money box today in town and straight away thought i would have loved to have got that for ds

i wish we were able to give him a real teddy too, rather than the marble one we have also just put down on ds'd grave. a nice sofy fluffy one, with a blue ribbon

matildawormwood · 03/12/2012 21:55

Oh miasmummy that is simply the best news I have heard in a very long time. Tears of happiness for you here too. I'm sure Mia is a very proud big sister. He sounds perfect xxx

whiteandyelloworchid · 03/12/2012 21:58

chip, is it almost impossible to keep a mini christmas tree going until next year, i was thinking of planting it in the garden then digging it back up next year or planting it into a bigger pot

shabbatheGreek · 04/12/2012 00:48

Remember my friends to always show your 'true colours' - never be afraid to ask for help, dont worry if you want to smile or laugh out loud. This song is amazing xxxx

Helyantha · 04/12/2012 07:39

Welcome to the world, Finn - lovely news x

Rosduk · 04/12/2012 08:51

For Thomas born 23-11-12. Fought for 2 hours.
You are sorely missed xx

mumof2teenboys · 04/12/2012 08:55

Congratulations Miasmummy and MrMia, Finn is a gorgeous name.
Much love to you all xxx

braceyourself · 04/12/2012 12:26

Rosduk

I do not want your post to go unacknowledged. I am so sorry that Thomas only lived for such a short time. My thoughts are with you. Feel free to post more if it will help.

chrismissymoomoomee · 04/12/2012 12:30

Hi Rosduk How are you doing now? How did it go at the hospital? xx

chipmonkey · 04/12/2012 13:42

Rosduk, so very sorry you find yourself here. please do tell us a little about Thomas, if you feel able xxxx

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lavandes · 04/12/2012 14:50

Congratulations miasmum wonderful news, enjoy, xx

My5boysandme · 04/12/2012 17:34

rosduk so sorry to hear of your loss of Thomas. My boy Dexter died 10 weeks ago aged 13 weeks and 4 days, the ladies on this thread have been invaluable, knowing there is someone there to listen,who understands really helps. ((hugs))

whiteandyelloworchid · 04/12/2012 20:15

rosduk, i'm so sorry for the loss of your son thomas.
i lost my little boy in feb, my ds also died shortly after he was born on the same day, hope we all can support you and listen to you, hope we can help in some small way

shabbatheGreek · 04/12/2012 22:52

Welcome Rosduk but also sorry you have to be here.

Very sorry to hear about your precious son xx

cafecito · 05/12/2012 01:55

hi, I was here once, a few years ago, and disappeared from MN for some hefty chunk of time. Just dropping in. My little girl would be 4 now, nearly 5. I went to the memorial service the other day at the hospital- they hold it annually but it's the first time I have ever been . I was there on my own and BANG it suddenly hit me, why I was there, why I am me now, what happened. I sobbed and sobbed, for the whole hour I couldn't stop the tears puring down my cheeks. I seemed to be the only person there crying - it was full, so full of other families and losses. It just hit me - I think Shabs used the phrase 'older grief bites you in the bum' wow how true. I was also unpacking recently from a house move, opened a plain white envelope completely unsuspecting and inside were DDs hand and footprints and a lock of hair from the ITU when she died. Again, BANG I was overwhelmed with the sudden reality of the situation.
After the memorial service a religious guy came up to me and said 'why were you crying it was very unusual to see you standing there alone, holding your arms like you were and crying.' WHY was I crying!!!??? FFS

Sorry to just drop in like this. I just thought you'd understand. as you were. much love to you all. xxx

whiteandyelloworchid · 05/12/2012 09:20

cafecito, hi, i also get really really annoyed when people ask me why im crying, esp if its dh.
it think ffs is it not obvious!
ive told dh tit upsets me, and he said what he actually means is, is there anything extra thats set me off, rather than why are you crying

but at a memorial service, you certainly shouldnt need to be asked that.
what an idiot that man was, i can totally understand why that upset you

so sorry to hear about your little girl xxx

chipmonkey · 05/12/2012 10:18

cafecito, of all the places to meet a dhac! What a twerp!
With people like that, you sometimes think it's a good thing they chose a religious life rather than inflict themselves on some poor family as a piss-poor husband and father and at the same time it's a bad thing that they chose a religious life because then they end up inflicting themselves on a poor bereaved parent!
So sorry you had to meet him that day of all days.

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My5boysandme · 05/12/2012 13:47

What is a dhac? Seen it mentioned a few times but can't work it out xx