Our Children budded on earth to bloom in heaven

[frasersmummy]

I think we have had this title before but it seems appropriate for spring

I have started this thread in honour of all our children but particularly Fraser who would have been 7 today. Happy birthday son we still miss you dearly. You will always be our firstborn and we always remember you in our hearts

my nephew (Graces daddy) has just called me what he used to call me when he was a little lad. On Facebook, for all to see, he just said Aunty Fat Arse little sod - see sarcasm and cheek must be hereditry!!!

Morning ladies xx

Thinking of your and your family today shabs. Your Matt was obviously a very special boy. It is so unfair, hearbreaking, thank goodness you have so many happy memories. You have given so many mums your love and support, I hope we can help you through today. xxx

Morning all,

Thinking of you shabs and your wonderful Matty, i have a candle burning bright here, in honour of your son. hope today is kind to you xx

Love to you today Shab and remembering your wonderful son xxx

this is going to be short and sweet as i am typing one handed and with my left hand, however there is so much more i'd like to say to you shabs. hopefully i'll get on here again later.

all of you and most importantly your darling matty are in my thoughts and heart today shabs. A candle will be lit here for your darling boy.

pump up the jam, pump it up, while your feet are stomping, and the jam is pumping ......................

Here is help for tw as both my hands are free xx

Pump up the jam
pump it up
while your feet are stomping
And the jam is pumping
look ahead the crowd is jumpin'

pump it up a little more
get the party goin' on the dance floor
see 'cause that's where the party's at
and you'll find out if you do that

(chorus)
I want a place to say:
"get your booty on the floor tonight"
make my day
I want a place to say:
"get your booty on the floor tonight"
make my day

Go for it Matty 'make your day' xxx

Sorry should have said help for ilike - senior moment (I have lots of them) xx

ha ha ha ha ha ha - Mattys favourite song of all time......i can almost hear him singing it!!

Hugs and love today Shabs. Thinking of you lots.

I'm feeling so shit, will leave it there for now and look for the dates thread.

thanks fellow mumsnetters for your comments, we went to the hospital today to hand in the burial /cremation certificate and got the date 31st May for Ophelias funeral. Bit hard but its done now, now just have to wait two weeks for the day.

Yesterday was a really hard day for me, we were going to pack the pram away and well I broke down and cried for hours. Oh well, today I feel better, not so upset but we have to take it one day at a time dont we.

What was nice to know was that Ophelia is now back at the hospital, it comforted me to think she was there, now I know where she is, for the past two weeks it has be worrying me where she was. Also we know now that the post mortem has been done and we just have to wait for the results.

I got a little upset this morning to think that Kelly brook had to go through a similar thing to me, poor love. I hate the way the papers say it was a miscarriage and Lily Allens was a stillbirth like it wasnt as important, she still had to give birth! Sorry it just annoys me!

Sending my love out to everyone today!

greenzebra What a tough thing for you to have to do , I am not surprised you are struggling with it all . And yes you are right , one day at a time is the only way . In fact one hour at a time some days early on in particular .

Do you have any ideas of how you would like the funeral to be ?
Something nobody should ever have to plan I know x

Evening girls....have come here so I can take this fake smile off for a minute or two. My shoulders are aching and not sure if I can keep them high up any more. I just reported myself to Mumsnet on a thread about Madeline McCanns siblings - told MN to delete my posts because Im now getting on my own nerves LOL. OMG this is difficult. Have you noticed I can give advice on here all the time but Im not great at doing what I advise? xxxxx

Oh Shabbs - haven't seen that thread love, but i just wanted to let you know i'm thinking of you, and wishing by god i could take this all away and you could have your four sons at home with you tonight x

(((((((((Shabs)))))))) I think most of us are the same , sounds so easy when you tell someone else what to do doesn't it ?

Don't worry abou the Maddy thread , I have commented pointlessly too , it will all be deleted soon .

Oh Dee so do I - even if just for an hour.....or 30 minutes.....or, NO I would need an hour. Can you imagine the joy for all my family. Just to ring my parents and say - 'get your bums up here NOW!!' I could tell them how I loved them. We could have fun. We could dance to 'pump up the jam.'

Hi Ladies

Scan went well, everything is looking good, my fluid is normal and baby was moving around. THe heart looks fine but am going to keep the appointment with the foetal cardiologist tomorrow just for extra reassurance. Baby is measuring quite large, long legs and arms! We decided against finding out the gender, DH didn't want to and I was unsure. We've got another scan in 5 weeks so if we change our minds we can then.

Shabs Thinking of you, your family and particularly your darling Matty. I shall light a candle for you all xxx

GreenZebra You're being really strong, today must have been really hard. Thinking of you and keep posting xxx

Hope everyone is ok x

Oh Mini - fab news - so pleased for you xxxx

greenzebra it's so hard isn't it :( Even 5 months later it still feels raw at the moment. Must have been a hard day for you :(

shabs been thinking of you lots today (hugs)

Mini really pleased for you, so glad it's going well.
xx

Hey

We are having a non religious cremation, Ive never been religious myself but my hubbie was a little and now hes not at all. We are only having the grandparents come to the funeral and my Dh has thought of a lovely idea that we all wear something Golden for our golden girl Ophelia.

Ive just been looking up music to play at the service and the only one that comes to mind is Adele To make you feel my love. When I had Ophelia, I had to have an operation afterwards to remove the placenta and when I came round from the general, they were playing that song over the radio. It made me cry, and well its the only song that now means Ophelia to us.

Its so nice to read this thread and see that you are all getting along ok, and having other children, it was hard yesterday as I had this thought that I might never have another child, what if the post mortem was the come back saying I shouldnt/couldnt have children. Sometimes I wish my mind would stop thinking!

Im so glad you hear your good news Mini

shabs a light is shining here in Glasgow for Matty..

green.. what can I say at this stage is just getting from one horrid milestone to the next....

I think we are all in need of some help tonight.. as well as hugs may I offer and some chocolate?

Did somebody say ?

I agree fm , hugs and all round I reckon x

Green - that sounds like a fitting tribute for a special little girl.

FMammy I am on the apple juice cider......Oh dear, not had any since last September!!!! Must apologise now for anything that I say later on!!!

Listening to my beloved Manchester City v Tottenham Hotspur on the radio. Tommy is on his laptop and listening with me.

Have not had any signs from Matty today - no smell of lillys, no sightings....I usually get them but they haven't happened for quite some time xxxx

Oh Shabs I look forward to hearing your words of wisdom later

I am sorry you haven't had any signs today , I reckon he is too busy causing havoc with Vicky xxx

TW I reckon you are right. Vicky's mum posted on my Facebook status. She is in such a dark place at the moment. I keep talking to her but Im not sure it is helping in any way, shape or form. xx