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Update on Rindercella's DH (No. 2)

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Portoeufino · 12/04/2011 16:25

The other thread has reached 1000 posts, so I hope no-one minds that I started a new one......Hoping R is home with you now!

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happymole · 28/04/2011 07:07

Wishing you the best of lick for today Rinders

Richard will be watching over with pride. You really have been amazing and so strong, you have truly honored him.

Sending good weather vibes and support and hugs your way.

happymole · 28/04/2011 07:31

LUCK obviously

Longtime · 28/04/2011 08:24

Wishing you and your family the strength to get through today. I will be thinking of you, as will many mnetters I know. ((((hugs))))

Malvapoeding · 28/04/2011 08:27

Rinders you and all you family are in our thoughts today. {{hugs}}

BecauseImWorthIt · 28/04/2011 08:28

Thinking of you, Rinders, and wishing you the strength that you will need to get through it.

I hope you will find, as I did with my mum's funeral, that whilst sad it is also a lovely tribute to Richard, and in a funny kind of way you will enjoy the day. It will be, hopefully, a real celebration of him and his life.
x

BecauseImWorthIt · 28/04/2011 08:28

Not that my mum's funeral was a tribute to Richard, but I hope you know what I meant!

Northernlurker · 28/04/2011 08:32

Rindercella - we will all be with you in spirit today.
I hope you don't mind but this blessing comes to mind so strongly when I think of you today:

May The Lord bless you and keep you.

May the Lord make his face to shine upon you, and be gracious to you.

May the Lord lift up his countenance upon you, and give you peace

AitchTwoOh · 28/04/2011 08:33

love and strength to you today, rinders. you will look beautiful and do richard and your family proud.

Bucharest · 28/04/2011 08:37

Wishing you luck and sending you love, for today.x

trumpton · 28/04/2011 08:39

Started my day with cup of coffee whist wandering round garden in memory of my dad. He lived with us and died with us and loved his garden. I said a prayer for Richard and his wonderful family. Thinking of you all today may you find tranquillity.

MissPenteuth · 28/04/2011 08:40

Thinking of you all today Rinders, and here for a virtual hand-hold if you need it. Sending love and strength xx

TimeForMeIsFree · 28/04/2011 08:42

Thinking of you Rinders xx

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 28/04/2011 08:46

Rinders

I hope the girls were both OK last night and you all got some sleep.

I'll be there in spirit with you today x I'm sure your tribute to Richard is amazing, you write so well normally anyway that I'm sure it will be lovely. I'm positive you will be able to read it as Richard wanted you to, but if you can't, then someone else will & Richard will know you tried your best.

Your DSS really does sound so much like his Dad, a lovely young man. I'm really glad you have him around.

Chocolate buttons & stickers for the girls (cake is a bit messy!! Wink) - but it really wont matter if the girls are quiet or not, children bring something special to a funeral, they soften the edges and remind us of the circle of life.

I wish you 'luck' with both the reading and 'the day', I hope it all goes smoothly for you. Of course I wish you weren't having to do it at all - and if all our wishing could change things, you wouldn't be xxx

Remember the light, remember Richard is still here with you in spirit.

Lots of love & strength
xxx

mrsjaja · 28/04/2011 08:49

Rinders - the sun is shining quite beautifully where i am this morning. I hope it is for you too. Hope your day goes as well as it can, and that you are able to read your tribute to your wonderful man.

Just remember to be how you need to be, it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks.

xx

FriedSpamButty · 28/04/2011 08:50

Thinking of you today x

evitas · 28/04/2011 09:04

Rinders, thinking of you, today.
[hugs]

kreecherlivesupstairs · 28/04/2011 09:14

Never posted before, but I am sitting here with tears running all over the place.
I am not sentimental and am generally as hard as nails.
I do wish you peace and strength and hope you take comfort from the fact that you were and are much loved.

sunshineandshowers13 · 28/04/2011 09:17

you are all in my thoughts today Rinders. sending you love and strength

aStarInStrangeways · 28/04/2011 09:24

I will be thinking of you all day today Rinders. You will look amazing in the dress and hat, and I'm sure your DDs will do fine. Let people help you with looking after them - they will want to, and it will give you mental space to process the day in the way you need.

I have no doubt that you will get to read your tribute, but even if someone else has to take over, the words are yours and the feeling behind them won't change.

It was lovely to read about your DSS and what a fine young man he is. I imagine him going on to love someone and make them happy the way his father loved you and made you so happy, and that can only be a good thing. Richard has left a great legacy by living so well.

I'm sure you already know this from having lost your dad so recently, but don't be surprised to find that the time immediately following the funeral is the hardest and bleakest of all. For most people, a funeral is a natural closing point, but for those closest to the lost person it often seems to be the point where everyone expects your life to start again, and it doesn't feel like that at all. IME anyway.

I hope this wasn't inappropriate to say today. Just wanted to mention it as it knocked me for six after my brother's funeral.

Sending you all love for today x

shortarsefuck · 28/04/2011 09:26

Thinking of you xxxx

higgle · 28/04/2011 09:34

I'm thinking of you today too, Rinders, xx

MilkNoSugarPlease · 28/04/2011 09:53

Am thinking of you today Rinders xxxxx

moonmother · 28/04/2011 09:59

Sending love and light for today x

pinkbraces · 28/04/2011 10:16

Am thinking of you and your family today, your strength and love is amazing, Im humbled by you. I hope today brings you peace.

In my religion we wish the family a "long life", which is what I wish for you and your family, without anymore sorrow and only happiness.

xxx

amberleaf · 28/04/2011 10:29

Thinking of you and your family today x