37 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday that our baby has died

[CheeseandGherkins]

I'm still totally in shock, as is DH, our little girl has died. I hadn't felt movements since late on Wednesday and when I went in on Thursday they couldn't find a heartbeat with doppler. Sent straight for a scan and there was no heartbeat.

I already have 3 dcs who are so upset but it was DH's first baby.

I have to go in today, in a few hours, for a tablet to start things off but I can come home after an hour apparently and then go back 24 hours or so later (if nothing happens) to start inducement properly.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I'm scared of being induced, which sounds stupid under the circumstances but there it is. How long will it take? First 3 labours were fast, 3 and a half, 3 hours and just over an hour.

I still keep expecting to feel her move but of course she won't. Feels so surreal and that it can't be happening but it is. I was due on Dec 23rd.

I don't know what to do.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss

Losing a child is horrendous, please be gentle with yourself. My thoughts and prayers are with you tonight.

Can you move around at all? Maybe go for a walk if that's possible? You could ask the midwife what's going on nearby first as there are of course many scenarios that you don't want to be passing by.

thinking of you cheese and family, so very very sorry of your loss

I'm very sorry :(

Cheese ds1 was induced at that stage of pregnancy and the induction went very quickly from the cramping satge; a four day rpedicted labour took a few hours.

I hope you get the sme: you deserve the mercy.

Oh my God. Have just sat here and read this thread. I really don't know what to say.
You have had some really good advice and lots of kind words.
I cannot begin to imagine what you aregoing through.

Stay strong, and I too will be thinking of you xxxxxxxxx

Oh Cheese, just seen this and lit a candle for you. I am so very sorry for your loss.

I can't offer any words that will help, but I am thinking of you and wishing you all lots of strength at this sad time.

Hope it goes as well as it possibly can, cheese. You sound like you are being amazingly brave. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

C&G - I am so sorry this is happening to you.

My sister went through this 5 years ago and I had lots of good advice to pass onto her from mumsnetters.

this was a really good book for her and she said it really really did help, as did taking lots of photos of her babay and having a special memory box just for him with hsi wristband in and all the lovely photos they took.

I am thinking of you and your family.

Cheese, our thoughts and prayer are with you, your DH, big kids and your special angel xx

darling, i am so sorry to hear you are going through this. it is exactly a week since the 13th anniversary of my first sons birth and death. he was born sleeping at 43 weeks. like everyone else says, take as much time as you need with him, and as many photos as you can. i had Robert in the room with me in hospital for 4 days, and its helped. i have lots of beautiful pictures of him, which i still look at sometimes. will be thinking of you all sweetheart xxxxxx

So sorry CheeseandGherkins .. You sound so brave, I just can't begin to imagine what you are going through.

Thinking of you all x

Have lit a candle tonight and you continue in my thoughts C&G, so so sorry x

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thinking of you all

we have a candle lit for your precious DD

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Cheese I am so so sorry for your loss. You sound like such a brave woman.
Plese dont be frightened.
The pain you are experiencing will still give you your beautiful dd.
I will be thinking of you and your family and will ask my Dm to light a candle at walsingham shrine tommorow.
Take care xxxxxxxxxxx

I am so very sorry, thinking of you allxx

Cheese - I wish we could all take a bit of the pain and sadness from you - we would you know. I hope this part is over soon and you can spend some time with your darling baby daughter. It is so, so, so unfair. Lots more love & hugs xxx

So sorry. I am thinking of you x

Cheese

You can do this. Please take all pain relief. As I mentioned earlier in the thread I lost my son at 20 weeks in 2008. I know how scared you are about going through labour but, in hindsight, I am really glad I did that last thing for my son. I am sure in time you will be glad you had these last few moments with your daughter and a chance to say goodbye.

My thoughts are with you.

Much love

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Thinking of you, your DH, your DCs and your precious sleeping baby. Sending my prayers and strength.

Cheese I am so sorry you are going through this. I wish you an easy birth and peaceful time with your precious daughter. Thinking of you and your family this evening.

That would be me on Facebook yes. They have suggested I try to test as it could be a long night as although it started fast it hasn't got any more painful etc. They have just brought us a tray of food, tea and biscuits which is lovely and welcomed. Haven't been eating much and managed some of a cheese roll and tea and biscuits, dh had some too.
Think I will take their advice and try to rest for now and see how things go. They made dh a put up bed up too. Everyone has been so nice. Blood tests were rushed and came back normal iron is up but infection levels slightly raised but not concerning. Think I am getting the dcs illness which hopefully explains that.
Thank you for the support, candle lighting and offer of prayers, I would appreciate that. Reading this thread is helping, thank you.

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