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37 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday that our baby has died

886 replies

CheeseandGherkins · 03/12/2010 12:17

I'm still totally in shock, as is DH, our little girl has died. I hadn't felt movements since late on Wednesday and when I went in on Thursday they couldn't find a heartbeat with doppler. Sent straight for a scan and there was no heartbeat.

I already have 3 dcs who are so upset but it was DH's first baby.

I have to go in today, in a few hours, for a tablet to start things off but I can come home after an hour apparently and then go back 24 hours or so later (if nothing happens) to start inducement properly.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I'm scared of being induced, which sounds stupid under the circumstances but there it is. How long will it take? First 3 labours were fast, 3 and a half, 3 hours and just over an hour.

I still keep expecting to feel her move but of course she won't. Feels so surreal and that it can't be happening but it is. I was due on Dec 23rd.

I don't know what to do.

OP posts:
ChickensHaveNoMercyForTurkeys · 05/12/2010 16:57

Oh Cheese :( Please don't be scared, you can do this x

mummylin2495 · 05/12/2010 16:57

i am so sorry to read that you are going through this.I have no idea what to say to you as i know that nothing anyone says will help,but i am thinking of you at this terrible time.x

Lulumaam · 05/12/2010 16:58

did you get a private room?

ask for any pain relief you want.

we're all rooting for you and thinking of you and holding you in our thoughts/prayers xx

gailforce1 · 05/12/2010 17:02

C&G Don't know what to say just so many of us are thinking of you at this time. I am praying that you and your DP are being cared for with kindness and compassion by those looking after you both.x

cariboo · 05/12/2010 17:05

Thinking of you all the time! x

sethstarkaddersmum · 05/12/2010 17:07

thinking of you xxx

ShirtyGerty · 05/12/2010 17:07

Just to say I'm thinking of you

CheeseandGherkins · 05/12/2010 17:11

Thank you. Cramping now. On delivery ward we have our own room.

OP posts:
Bicnod · 05/12/2010 17:12

Thinking of you C&G x x

fannybaws · 05/12/2010 17:12

Thinking of you cheese xxx

winnybella · 05/12/2010 17:16

Same here. xxxx

Chiru · 05/12/2010 17:17

Thinking of you Cheese xxx

NorthernLurker · 05/12/2010 17:19

Thinking of you - we are all so sorry you have to do this and we're all standing with you. You are not alone in this.

MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic · 05/12/2010 17:20

I'm really sorry. Thinking of you too xx

sybilfaulty · 05/12/2010 17:22

I am so very sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you at this terrible time. God bless.

MummyElk · 05/12/2010 17:24

Thinking of you and sending very special prayers for your beautiful girl. You can do this and we are all here for you.
She knows your love and you will always be her very special Mummy

HappyDaysAreHereAgain · 05/12/2010 17:28

I am thinking of you too and am so sorry for your loss.

God Bless you and your little baby xxx

SparkleSoiree · 05/12/2010 17:30

Thinking of you Cheese....God bless you all.

NormaStanleyFletcher · 05/12/2010 17:35
Sad

Just seen this.

Sending thoughts to you and your family

systemsaddict · 05/12/2010 17:35

so sorry for your loss Sad just one of the many many people here thinking of you tonight

ItalianLady · 05/12/2010 17:53

Really really stupid question but what are you scared of? Maybe if you tell us we can try and help?

Arcadie · 05/12/2010 17:55

C&G I'm so very very sorry for your loss. I have no personal experience of it but I know that my DSIL who had to go through this twice said that the inductions and time afterwards with her LOs were very special times. The hospital were very respectful, gave her lots of time and footprints and photos and put L and G's names in their book of memories. I really pray your hospital will be similarly wonderful to ease this terrible situation.

ilovesprouts · 05/12/2010 17:55

just seen this thread im so sorry thinking of you all xSad

geraldinetheluckygoat · 05/12/2010 17:57

C&G keep coming back to see how you are. Just read your last post. Thinking of you this evening and sending you much love xxx

Pinner35 · 05/12/2010 17:58

Thinking of you Cheese.....sending much love to you all xx