37 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday that our baby has died

[CheeseandGherkins]

I'm still totally in shock, as is DH, our little girl has died. I hadn't felt movements since late on Wednesday and when I went in on Thursday they couldn't find a heartbeat with doppler. Sent straight for a scan and there was no heartbeat.

I already have 3 dcs who are so upset but it was DH's first baby.

I have to go in today, in a few hours, for a tablet to start things off but I can come home after an hour apparently and then go back 24 hours or so later (if nothing happens) to start inducement properly.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I'm scared of being induced, which sounds stupid under the circumstances but there it is. How long will it take? First 3 labours were fast, 3 and a half, 3 hours and just over an hour.

I still keep expecting to feel her move but of course she won't. Feels so surreal and that it can't be happening but it is. I was due on Dec 23rd.

I don't know what to do.

I'm so sorry for you loss Cheese. You are brave and strong. xx

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby girl.

Rest in peace baby Scarlett xxx

cheese hope the all to brief time you get to spend with your lovely little girl leaves you with many happy memories.

i hope in the months and years to come the fact that your beautiful precious little angel's all to brief existence touched so many hearts will bring you some small degree of comfort .

you're bravery has been awe inspiring

may god bless you all especially little scarlet

I'm so sorry Cheese..

SO sorry for the multiple posts. No idea what happened there.

So, so sorry to read this C&G.
Can't begin to imagine how hard it must be for you.
There are really no words, but I'm thinking of you, your DH and other DCs and beautiful baby Scarlett.

C&G - I want to welcome Scarlett - so very well beloved and just say I am in awe of your courage. You and dh and all the family are in my thoughts tonight.

Ladies - reading through I see so many of you who have suffered this awful loss have been able to offer your strength and experience to the OP. I think that's truly wonderful, that your precious, precious children enriched your lives with that love and that you now take that love forward and support someone else with it. I know as parents we just want to raise happy children, who make a difference to people's lives and live in love. All of your children - though they are not with you - do that again and again. Their short lives are making a difference to you and to our world tonight and always. Pretty incredible stuff imo.

Great post Northern Lurker.

Prayers for baby Scarlett and all her family in our home tonight.

I'm so sorry Cheese. :(

Bless you and little baby Scarlett.

Will be thinking of you. x

Thanks berk, jenny60 and all over it for your kind words.

santasmoonimgarse lovely story about your mum. You re right in the depths of despair all I have had to hold on to has been hope. Georgie bought a lot of light in to a lot of peoples lifes , all be it for a too short a period of time. But I would never have not had het even with all the pain I ve had and will continue to experience for a long time to come.she's convinced my dh he wants children ,he knew before but said he felt the unconditional love when he held Georgie. As I said she raised over £ 1500 for the delivery suite. She's touched many, many people in a much bigger way than either me or my dh have.

CAG please , please , please take care I hope you have good support from those around you. Much love to you xxx

Congratulations
God bless

Thinking of you and baby Scarlett x

I am so sorry to hear of your loss :( xx

Well done sweetheart, I am glad that part is over for you.

I hope you are now both spending some time with Scarlett, taking some photos and a curl of her hair, having lots of cuddles x

It is so incredibly unfair my heart is breaking for you...

More love & hugs to you all x

(I'm very sorry that so many of you have been here before, it's heartbreaking x)

Feeling so sad for you and your family.

Sending you love, you are in my thoughts. x

Just wondering how you are this morning. Silly, stupid question I know. I remember waking up every day and for one single second I thought it was all a dream and then reality slaps you around the face. Have been thinking about you since I saw your thread yesterday. Sending love xxxx

shabs I know that feeling so well. The way your stomach lurches horribly when you remember just what has happened

Cheese thinking of you and yours xx

Cheese I have just been readin this thread in floods of tears, dh has now read too and we would like to send you hugs and good wishes. I have no idea how you must be feeling and honestly don't know what to say that will help you.

DD2 (6 yrs off school ill) just asked if dh and i were ok and we explained to her why we are sad and her reply was "When i go to bed is it ok to look for Scarlets bright star, cos special people get the brightest star when they go to heaven"

How profound, much love to you and your family xxxx

Cheese - just read the entire thread, much love to you and yours. xx

Cheese - you, your dh, Scarlett and your other dc were in my prayers as I fell asleep last night and in my mind as I woke up this morning. I cannot imagine what you are feeling now, but will be keeping you in my heart as long as you need.

I am so very sorry to read your heartbreaking post, my heart goes out to you.

Sleep tight little Scarlett, I know you will live in your Mummy & Daddy's hearts forever x x

I'm very sorry for your loss - thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope that you get all the love and support you need during this difficult time.

This is the first thread where I couldn't not reply.
I cannot even imagine what you are going through right now and I just wanted to say how terribly sorry I am for your loss and well done for being so so brave at this time.
You have done so well. Rest in peace little angel Scarlett all my thoughts are with your family right now x x x

Such courage, I am totally in awe.
Sleep tight Scarlett, let your star burn bright.xx