37 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday that our baby has died

[CheeseandGherkins]

I'm still totally in shock, as is DH, our little girl has died. I hadn't felt movements since late on Wednesday and when I went in on Thursday they couldn't find a heartbeat with doppler. Sent straight for a scan and there was no heartbeat.

I already have 3 dcs who are so upset but it was DH's first baby.

I have to go in today, in a few hours, for a tablet to start things off but I can come home after an hour apparently and then go back 24 hours or so later (if nothing happens) to start inducement properly.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I'm scared of being induced, which sounds stupid under the circumstances but there it is. How long will it take? First 3 labours were fast, 3 and a half, 3 hours and just over an hour.

I still keep expecting to feel her move but of course she won't. Feels so surreal and that it can't be happening but it is. I was due on Dec 23rd.

I don't know what to do.

Thinking of you and your family today C&G. What a beautiful name for your baby.

This happened to my neighbour sadly and her DD2. She is now 18 months on from it and has a third baby girl. Of course she thinks of her baby every day (though I won't put her name here) but I just wanted you to know that she is OK and has got through it in her way.

We'll all remember her and I have a candle here too.

I have no experience of epidurals but I think you should do whatever you want to get through the labour and then to be able to meet your beautiful baby girl.

We are all thinking of you x.

Sending big hugs and calming vibes to you, I hope you find strength in the knowledge that we are all out here in MN-land thinking of you and ready to lend a supportive ear, day or night.

Thinking of you and your little girl Scarlett.

I'm so sorry x

So very sorry to hear about your DD. There is no death so sad as that of a child. If you need any support from a special thread on Mumsnet please come and join us - we all support each other.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/bereavement/1088644-Flying-high-enjoying-their-wings-Remembering-our-precious-much-loved-children

I have been sat here for about 20 minutes searching for the 'right' words - but there are no right words. Thinking about your darling girl and all your family and sending my love.

xxxxx

I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your precious girl.

I have had two epidurals before, it will take away your pain completely, and you'll be numb from the waist down. It does wear off fairly quickly afterwards, and doenst make your head feel heavy or druggy like other pain relief. However i found it did slow down my contractions both times and make it harder to push as i oculdnt feel the contractions.
Having the epidural isn't too scarey, the initial injection is like any other really - a little painful but not dreadful, and after they put the line in, the numbing happens fairly quickly.

Do whatever you feel you want to. I think its perfectly normal to feel nervous of having an epidural xx

thinking of you and Scarlett and all your family.

I have just played Thinking of you all today.

Beautiful trumpton

Scarlett is a beautiful name.

Continuing to think of you all xxx

thinking of you.. x

So sorry to read this sad news. Thinking of you and your family xx

Our lovely daughter Scarlett Niamh was born at 2:06 this afternoon. Thank you all so much for the support, it has made a difference knowing so many people have been thinking of us. I will post again when able. Hardest thing I have ever done In my life.

Thinking of you and sending love to you and your beautiful girl. xxxx

well done

im so glad it wasnt to drawn out for you,
your beautiful daughter will always be in my thoughts.

there have been some wonderful,(and far more helpful than me)posts on this thread,when you get a chance to read through them,there are people on this thread who have been through similar,who will help you if they can.

there simply are not words for this.

Cheese, congratulations on the birth of your beautiful daughter Scarlett Niamh. Enjoy the time you have with your precious daughter. Heartfelt wishes for you and your family at this sad time. Take care much love CM.

So sorry C&G, my heart absolutely goes out to you.
It's a beautiful name, my dd is Scarlett & I will say a little prayer for your Scarlett whenever I hold mine.
I have lit a candle and am praying for strength and love to surround you and your family at this time.

Congratultions on the arrival of your daughter. And well done for giving birth to her.
I would love to see a photo of your sleeping angel when/if you ever feel ready.
Does she have your features, or look like your other children? I bet she is gorgeous if she does. x

I am so sorry.

What a beautiful name.

I am so sorry.

On Sunday, at 7pm candles will be lit all over the world for our lost children.
When I light mine for Billie and all of her friends I will think of your beautiful baby.

Love to you and your precious daughter from me and mine x

I am thinking of you and your family right now, C&G, and will be holding you all in my heart. I am wishing you a blessed time with your dh and your beautiful Scarlett.

thinking of you C+G.

well done you for giving birth to Scarlett - i cannot possibly imagine what you and your family are going through but wanted to know you are in my thoughts.

So releived that you finally have your beautiful Scarlett in you arms. Don't let anyone rush your time with her because these memories will be with you forever. With thoughts and prayers for you and your family.x

Wishing you peace and strength as you spend this time with your beautiful daughter. My heart goes out to you all. Thinking of you and your family. x