37 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday that our baby has died

[CheeseandGherkins]

I'm still totally in shock, as is DH, our little girl has died. I hadn't felt movements since late on Wednesday and when I went in on Thursday they couldn't find a heartbeat with doppler. Sent straight for a scan and there was no heartbeat.

I already have 3 dcs who are so upset but it was DH's first baby.

I have to go in today, in a few hours, for a tablet to start things off but I can come home after an hour apparently and then go back 24 hours or so later (if nothing happens) to start inducement properly.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I'm scared of being induced, which sounds stupid under the circumstances but there it is. How long will it take? First 3 labours were fast, 3 and a half, 3 hours and just over an hour.

I still keep expecting to feel her move but of course she won't. Feels so surreal and that it can't be happening but it is. I was due on Dec 23rd.

I don't know what to do.

I'm so so sorry for your loss. I'll hold your sleeping angel in my prayers for always.

I'm so so sorry C&G ... thinking of you and your family at such a sad time. I hope your time with Scarlett now is peaceful and that you find the strength you need.

So very sorry C&G, God speed your beautiful daughter on her last journey. Thinking of you and your family.

I'm so glad to hear that you didn't have to wait too long to give birth. I hope you have been able to spend how ever long you needed to with Scarlett and take photos and enusre you have some lovely memories.

If it makes you feel better I'm sure we'd all be happy for you to keep on posting but would totally understand if you need to grieve alone.

xx

I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family xx

Thinking of you Cheese and sending strength xxx

CAG so very sorry. This happened to me 8 weeks ago. My 4 th pregnancy ( I had 3 mcs before) was wonderful until 41 weeks I had 2 nd sweep heard my dd s heartbeat then 18 hours later nothing. like you we attended for a scan and no hb found. Think I had been in slow labour for 3 days up to that point as I delivered Georgina ( Georgie) following pesssaries the next day after a 8 hour labour. She was a good weight and Soo far we have only had half of our results which showed e coli infection.

I hope the staff were kind and compassionate to you our midwives were excellent and helped
Massively. We sent Georgie for a post-mortem . She was cremated 5 weeks ago. It all so very hard but my dh is very supportive as our family and friends. We set up a charity website in georgies name which raised over £ 1500 I think people just wanted to be able to do something.

Hope you have good support , take 1 day at a time. On the day we left hospital I remember thinking I wouldn t make it through that day. Having to go to register my dd as a stillbirth . Horrible.

We have a memory box , loads of photos of Georgie . 2 framed in the house she's beautiful just like she's asleep. We talk about her all the time and try to take the positives from Georgie. But it is very , very hard Georgie is our only child we have no children to come back to. I still cry every day and feel Soo out of sorts nothing is how it should be. All the plans, hopes and expectations we had are gone.

Ultimately I raged how unfair it is " why us?" I still think that at times. I ve lost a couple of friendships ( people due to give birth soon ) to protect myself I ve removed myself from them , particularly , Facebook and such like.

Sorry I ve waffled . Just to let you know you can message me if you want at any time. Please take care of all of you , lots of love xx
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So so sorry. Thinking of you xx

louisesh

I am glad you have now met your precious daughter. thinking of you all xxx

You are so brave C&G. Have a lovely cuddle with Scarlett and know we are all here thinking of you and knowing what a sad day this has been for you.

I am going to light another candle tonight and send up a special prayer for you and yours x

Cheese, Louisesh,SRocks and all the others who have lost children

Thinking of us all at this time, especially you cheese when it is so raw. I hope you get some comfort from seeing your lovely Scarlett.

I am so so sorry for what you and your family are going through. I have lit a candle and will be thinking of you whilst you spend these precious hours with your beautiful angel.

well done cheese.

rest in peace beautiful girl.

can hardly type for tears. lord knows how all you brave women get through something like this.

there are some truely fabulous women here who can support you when you are ready cheese.

god bless you all.

Well done on giving birth to Scarlett, cheese. I can only imagine how terribly difficult and achingly sad it was for you and your husband. I am so sorry you are going through this.

I'm also very sad to read your post about Georgina, louisesh. It is very moving.

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby daughter cheese. You have done so well and been so brave. I hope the hours you have now are ones you can treasure and remember with love forever xx

Bless your little girl - Im so sad for you and still searching for those 'right' words - even though I know no such things exist. I hope Scarlett gets to meet my two precious sons because I know they will look after her.

I have lit my candle in snowy Lancashire in honour and with love for your daughter. Not sure if I believe in God to be honest, but (as my Nana always, always said when we were coming home from visiting her) 'God Bless.'
If I can help in any way please message me - even if you just want to scream xxxx

So sorry to hear of your terrible loss.

Thinking of you and your husband as you hold little Scarlett, so sorry for what has happened to you all.

Oh Cheese, well done to you and your DH being so strong for your precious girl.
Love and prayers to you all x

I have no experience of epidurals but I think you should do whatever you want to get through the labour and then to be able to meet your beautiful baby girl.

We are all thinking of you x.

I have no experience of epidurals but I think you should do whatever you want to get through the labour and then to be able to meet your beautiful baby girl.

We are all thinking of you x.

I have no experience of epidurals but I think you should do whatever you want to get through the labour and then to be able to meet your beautiful baby girl.

We are all thinking of you x.

I have no experience of epidurals but I think you should do whatever you want to get through the labour and then to be able to meet your beautiful baby girl.

We are all thinking of you x.

I have no experience of epidurals but I think you should do whatever you want to get through the labour and then to be able to meet your beautiful baby girl.

We are all thinking of you x.